Returning to work full time -

[macysmummy]

Hi

I am due to return to work in Oct when my lil girl will be 9mths, she is my first. I was originaly hoping to return part time but due to financial commitments I am considering returning full time. I dont have any family locally to help with childcare so my lil girl will be in nursery almost 9-5 mon - fri, I know that I would find this hard but my main concerns are the impact this may have on my daughters emotional welfare and our bond, I would love to be able to stay at home with her but I don't think thats possible. Can anyone share thier experiences of working fultime with a baby in nursery.

xx

 

[Mrs Cupcake]

im sorry i can't share any experience yet but i am due to return the beginning of september when my baby will only be 5 months old. he will be in fulltime nursery 8.30am to 5.45pm every day.

i am sure it will be fine and the bond won't be less, just think, our other halfs are at work and i don't think they have less of a bond!

 

[Roobieroo]

I returned to work in November last year after being in the same dilemma as you when my LO was 10 months. I was looking at going back to work but couldn't face it however, I am now doing a temp job full time which i've done for 9 months now and will be finishing in 6 weeks.

You will feel guilty for leaving your LO, we all do, but she will thrive from it. You will be more upset than she is.
It is hard working full-time, running a house and having a LO to look after so I will be glad when I finish but I will still be actively looking for work, but part-time.

It's rubbish that we're forced into decisions we don't want to make due to finances. Let's face it, we'd probably all stay at home for a while if it weren't for the money.

 

[littlelady012]

I work full time, no choice in the matter as although I do get child support from my ex it isn't enough to keep our heads above water and there is no chance I was going to climb aboard the benefits train without good reason.

I am at an advantage because the nursery my little one goes to is owned by my mum and my sister is one of the nursery nurses who works in the baby room with her...but honestly after what I have seen I would be happy putting her in a different nursery. It is tough at first but LO is meeting all her milestones and is a very happy and content baby.

Another two advantages I have- my mum is off three days a week so usually she is only actually there for two and I get a fee reduction to £30 a day (would be £47).

She is going to be there full time for the next few weeks (Mum is on holiday) and I don't have any concerns at all- she is getting care of people who probably know more about babies then I do!

I run a business so my hours are very erratic- some days I am able to pick her up, some days my sister has to take her back to my house and put her to bed and I don't see her until her midnight feed. I have a cleaner as there are just not enough hours in the day. I get one/1/2 a day a week off and that is usually spent food shopping, going swimming and then I have a couple of hours with her before bed. Some weekend nights I have to spend away from home.

In a ideal world my mortgage and loan repayments would pay for themselves but unfortunately it isn't going to happen!

 

[LoveCakes]

Me and my brother went to nursery as mum mum worked full time. We're both really close to our family and def get on better than OH who's mum was a SAHM. It doesn't have to define your relationship. What you do with the time you spend together is more important.