I think I am worried most about coping with taking care of both, and my DD not understanding why mama is so tired, etc. She will be 2 yr 2 months, and she already loves babies so I think she will definitely be in love with the baby. But maybe not understand if I am just too grumpy or tired from being sleep deprived. I am also nervous about caring for a toddler while having to nurse 45 mins every 2 hours.
With DD i didnt bond to her right away, i felt as if i was in shock and I couldnt grasp my emotions for a few months. She also had tongue tie and breastfeeding her was HARD as well as taking care of what the doctors kept telling me was a colicky baby (later to find out she constantly fussed and screamed from her tongue tie ).. She almost never slept peacefully, and was always fussing, breastfeeding hurt and she fed for 5 mins at a time all throughout the day and night .. So that is basically all I have for experience with a newborn, and I keep telling myself that hopefully this baby will be a little easier in those aspects.
Oh and as for DD having to share mommy, well for the past 6 months I have my nephews living here (ages 4, 8 and 9), plus I have babysat my friends kid (same age as DD) since he was 6 months old. She has had to share me for most of her life, so I am hoping that helps with that transition.
And yes I feel you that DD was my first and this baby is my second, so will he/she get as much attention as my first? I do worry about that. I was able to focus so much on DD because she was my only and had all of my attention