September Snugglers 2016

[Desiree1694]

So my birth stories...

For my son I had the PUPS rash which was the worst.thing ever I went in at 39 weeks and 5 days and they had never seen the rash that bad ever in that hospital so they advised me to be induced I was induced the following morning at 6 am as there was.no beds the day prior.. they started the pitocen at 7 am and the contractions were horrible at 10 am.they broke my water... around 1 pm they checked me and I was only 3 cm I asked for the epidural and after that my labor slowed down quite a bit at about 4 pm they decided to up the pitocin so around 630 they came in to check me and I was 9cm dilated they called my midwife who got there at about 630 she came in and checked and decided she was going to.scrub up as it was time to push.. by the time she came in his heart rate was really dropping I started pushing around 645 and he was starting to crown after a few more pushes she realized his cord was wrapped around his neck and one arm and every time he moved his arm his arm his heart rate dropped she cut the cord and I delivered him at 739 she then let hubby cut the cord again because it was first child and she thought he should experience that his labor and birth was about 14 hours from the time I arrived at the hospital.

For my daughter..

I was 40 weeks 1 day and at about 12 pm I knew it was happening I called the Dr and they said to come in the drive there was an hour away.. I got to the Dr's at about 220 and waited to be called by the time i got to be checked he said i was 6cm and my water was bulging so he sent me over to the hospital I arrived at 258 at the hospital and and my water had broke on the way over I put my gown on nurse came in check I was 10cm and her head was already crowning the Dr came in I started pushing and she was born at 329 she was born with in 31min of checking in to the hospital

 

[campn]

Just- I really don't know so many men who are crazy about pregnancy and babies in general. My DH kept pushing away having another one for a while too but I was like hey we are both getting older and I want to do this while I still have the energy. He already said how he'll go home after the baby is born and how he won't sleep on a chair at the hospital and how he'll be sleeping on the couch once baby is born so he can sleep well at night, but I'm sure once they see the baby all of this will change a little. Right now they can't bond at all and I understand, they just need time to think "oh, this isn't just a baby, this is MY child. My family."

He won't be miserable, he may resent some parts of parenthood (don't we all!?) but I doubt he'll be miserable, especially with your DS getting older and more independent now.

And yes women do get a mental block about birth and the newborn phase, I had a very traumatizing newborn phase with DS constantly losing weight, refusing to latch, pumping every 2 hours for 6 weeks, my dad hospitalized for a month for organ failure, suicidal MIL in my own house and a bad case of pneumonia. ALL before DS even turned 5 weeks old. It was horrible and I must have cried every single day but it all gets better that's why our brain lets it go.

Just tell him I want you to be more excited about this for us, this phase in our life is so short and won't last forever.

 

[campn]

Just- Just got done reading your birth story. Was it his size that got him a bit wedged? My mom says bigger babies slip out easier than skinny ones but I'm not sure if that's true!

 

[xanzaba]

Oh, Just1. I'm sorry he's not getting into the baby stage, but he has time to come around. Maybe he's just overwhelmed right now. And one thing about low expectations is that they're easy to beat. Is it possible that he'll realize it's easier than how he is building it up in his head?

I have to say, I kind of push back when my mom and sister gush about how much they loved the baby stage. I remember my sister complaining, and my mom is still complaining that I didn't sleep through the night until 9 months (my dad told me that it was because I was lactose intolerant and they switched me to soy milk at 9 months, but you can't tell my mom that). I get defensive when they tell me how much I'm going to love it, and I just want them to let me experience it myself.

 

[MummaMoo]

Well, it's Sunday morning, one week after my meltdown on MrMoo, and I'm still in bed whilst he has got Sophie up and giving her her breakfast I was awake ages ago, and desperate for the loo but held on to see if anything i said last week sunk in. Just waiting to see if I get my cuppa tea in bed. Oh, and we're going out for the day too

Just, great to see you here again!
As for your hubby, I think it's as campn said, they struggle to really connect at this stage, and understandably so. My feeling is that the excitement and love will kick in, it's just going to take some time. MrMoo is the same. Last week when I had my big moan at him about being tired and needing some help with Sophie, his first response was "well, this is what happens when YOU want another baby".
Our newborn stage with Sophie wasn't plain sailing, we were all miserable as she was very colicky and had reflux, we're really hoping that this baby will be easier in that sense. I also think (hope and pray!) that it will be easier as we've done it before and have more confidence in how we handle everything. That's one reason why I wanted baby #2 - I want to enjoy it more and not spend much of my time googling everything and doubting myself.
I think MrJust will come around. He just needs to get son#2 in his arms.

 

[MummaMoo]

Xan, you're so right, keep your expectations low and they are easy to beat. One of Jack Reachers mottos in life: hope for best, prepare for the worst
I've got a couple of momma friends who are very much into the yummy mummy thing in a big way, everything perfectly groomed, and they're always gushing on Facebook about their perfect little family, #lovehersomuch etc, which is lovely, but really they're just in their own little bubble of perfectness and outside of that, there are the rest of us dealing with tantrums etc. I met up with my two Midwife momma friends on Thursday and ones little boy was constantly running off, swinging off the top bars of a climbing frame... And he's not even two yet. The other momma was constantly following her little girl with a portable potty and mopping up puddles of pee, and I had Sophie standing at people's tables trying to sweet talk them into giving her some of their toasted teacakes or whatever they were having. THAT, to me, is the reality of parenting

 

[hopie2015]

Hope everyone is having a great weekend.

Reading the birth stories is actually making me less afraid of the experience. I'm not scared of the pain. I had a v. painful back injury, similar to the one my doctor had and she delivered twins at age 44 -- she said the back pain was much worse! I am just afraid of something going wrong. Interesting to see second+ births really do seem to go much faster.

Just- sorry what you are going through with DH and the girls gave such great personal experience with that here. I think it's normal and he will change for sure how he feels once baby is here. I remember the newborn stage for my sister with a colic baby and their toddler and she and DH fought a lot..it is stressful but as Campn said, we need to remember each stage is temporary. What you guys are going through now will pass, as will the demanding newborn stage.
Campn- you are one strong lady! That is incredible all you had to go through the first 5 weeks after birth of your first. You have a wonderful attitude. I guess that's what got me through terrible sick first tri and my parent's illnesses-- just reminding myself this is temporary and will pass. Things are still tough, but have gotten better and I need to remember that someday things will be much better.
Thank you soo much for the well wishes for tomorrow. I simply can't wait 'til appt. is over and hope scan doesn't take too long.
Like was said here, guess I just hope for the best but am prepared for the worst.

Woke up with so many flutters at baby's usual time this morning...5:15!

Happy Sunday to all.

 

[Sweety21]

Just, good to see you. And about DH's situation. I think it's just temporary and once babay is here he will be totally loving the baby stage. I have to push my DH too for second one and even though he didn't like idea of having two I managed to convince him. Man's have low patience when it comes to handling a toddler so it might be just that or he mig be having a tough day. Don't take it to heart. Probably just our hormones making us overthink baout situation.

Campn, thanks hun. I am aksing my friends about private scan because, I can't find anything nearby (may be it's just language issue)So, I decided to ask myJapanese friends. About OH, even I nagged my dh for a year or so to have one more to which he finallagreed. But, Ithink it's just men's way of thinking.

Xan, Thank you so much.it makes me feel better to know that mine snuggler is not the only onwhie gives difficult time showing his /her bits.

 

[Sweety21]

Mumma, that is a big change! and I hope you got your tea in bed?

 

[Just1more2]

Thank you ladies so much for putting my mind at ease. He is the kind of guy that really overthinks things all the time so that may play a role. I'm sure once he holds this new bundle he will come round. We did have a good talk last night about the new apartment we will be moving in to in Maine when DS and I join OH there. He was making all these points about what will be good about this and that with a baby, so im sure he was just stressed and using that as an excuse. really thank you all!!

Campn - Yes, my new midwives for this pregnancy think his size had a bit to do with my difficulty with DS. They have already told me that i will have measurements done around 36 weeks to see if this baby is comparable in size to Dom. If he is the same or bigger than they may recommend a required Csection. That would break my heart, so it worries me. Especially since at my 20W ultrasound, they said he is already measuring a week ahead. It makes me worry. I am REALLY hoping to be able to go natrual this time as i was not able to with Dom. But a healthy bub is all that really matters. I just want to be able to prove to myself that i can do it!!

 

[xanzaba]

Hopie, I'm going to be holding my breath for you! Your baby is going to be so much bigger this time, so seeing everything will be a lot easier

Officially feeling better- occasional aches and pains when staring up or sneezing etc. but glad that scare is over.

 

[ajarvis]

I also love reading all the birth stories! Such a good reminder that you can't plan on anything lol. Pregnancy and birth is quite the beginning of the adventure

I bought a little sleeper today Although my god is it ever hard to shop for girl stuff when I don't like pink - particularly light pink ha. I have so much baby boy stuff from people who thought I was having a boy that I'm washing it all up so I can give it away . Silly people

Gender reveal was a big hit. My mom is ecstatic that it's a girl and was screaming like crazy lol. Although she keeps asking me if I'm sure it's just one. Oy.

Busy weekend but good! too bad tomorrow is Monday

 

[ssarahh]

Aj - glad the reveal went well. Bless your mum for being so excited!

Thank you for all the birth stories ladies. I have loved reading them all xx

 

[mrsmax]

Love the birth stories. Mine was a good and fast experience but still terrified that something will go wrong with this one. I keep reminding myself that everyone I see ever was born and every mum has gone through it so it is a natural thing that happens every day....

Good luck today Hopie x

 

[MummaMoo]

Lots of luck Hopie!!

No sweety, never got my cuppa tea!

 

[campn]

Hopie - I'm praying you get nothing but great news today hun! Update us just when we you can and whenever you have the time. I'm very hopeful it'll all be okay. You're a pretty sweet person!

Just- I'm sure this baby won't get stuck this time! Just because your cervix really isn't as strong as it was the first time, and that is great! I bet this time the baby comes out flying across the room

AJ- I never understand when they ask "are you sure it's just one!?" Like I get this may have happened in our parents generations before scans, but not anymore! Not in this day and age

So we painted the nursery a base coat then in a few weeks we'll add horizontal stripes with a darker shade. It turned out so beautiful too. I was worried pink would turn out unbearable but we just picked a very pale pink and it looks so good.

 

[ajarvis]

Exactly campn lol. Especially at this point when I've had 3 ultrasounds I hear of it still being missed on the first one for example. But.. now? lol. After every ultrasound the midwife emphasizes the 1 BABY for my fiance ha.

 

[mari35racz36]

Hopie - Hope you get good news today

campn - love the pink!! Reminds me of when we decorated my daughters room My hubby is getting started on the nursery this week. I can't wait to get in there and decorate!

Love reading all the birth stories. I will try try to get min up soon!
Anyone get lots of discharge? Sorry if TMI! But I noticed a very slight clear discharge. nothing ever get wet on my clothing, but I feel it comes down at time. I pretty sure its normal but I always worry! lol

 

[Sweety21]

Oh Mumma, I am sorry you didn't get that cuppa but, atleast there is improvement right?

Campn,beautiful pale color you have got there. Can't wait to see more of it coming to completion.

 

[borr.dg.baby]

Mumma glad to hear DH is making improvement!

Campn I love that color!

Hopie good luck today!

Mari I have clear discharge as well, I think it's normal!

Here's my daughter's birth story... Nothing really exciting. Never was in labor, failed induction due to low fluid and restrained movements, and c section.

My Birth Story

On tuesday July 16 I decided to go to the doctor because I wasn't feeling baby move as normal. She usually is very active in the morning and was very quiet. Since we had a scan a week before that that showed low fluid the Dr told me to be very aware of her movements so I decided to better get it checked out. At the Drs I was monitored and her heart beat was perfect. The Dr examined my and tried to get her to move around by poking and moving her and even poked at her head through my cervix but she just wouldn't move. She was moving maybe once every 3 hours. Dr ordered another scan to make sure her fluids and her umbilical cord was fine and the scan showed that her fluids had gone from 8.8 to 5 in only 4 days. Since 5 is the low limit for fluids the Dr said that we had to get her out.

We then talked about the induction, he wanted to try it but was not very optimistic because my cervix was completely closed and my body showed no sign of impending labor. He told me he would try the induction the next morning and wanted me to check into the hospital that night so baby could be monitored because the low fluids could be dangerous.

So I went home to get my things and went to the hospital where DH was waiting for me. Everything was so surreal I knew we were having a baby the next day. I slept like crap that night, got no sleep at all was so nervous and anxious and also they kept coming in to monitor baby. The next morning at 7am I was given that little pill to my cervix for induction. Nothing happened all morning, at around 1pm I started getting mild contractions. They monitored them and saw that they were not strong enough to start dilation- they needed to be at 100 and regular and they were at 30 and very irregular (and hurt so much! lol) We waited until around 4 when Dr came in and examined me and cervix was still tightly shut. He told us that baby needed to be out at most by the next day and offered to try another induction the next day since that one had failed and if it were to fail again I would have to get a c-section. The likelihood of the induction working was not good at all and it was very dangerous to keep baby inside with such little fluid. I talked with my DH and we decided it was best to just get the c-section that day and not try another induction, it was best to get baby out as soon as possible. So we scheduled my c-section for that evening.

I was really nervous but thankfully surrounded by family to keep me company and also a distraction from the surgery. They took us for surgery and they couldn't get the epidural in- it took like 30 minutes and a call to another Dr for them to get it in, apparently my back was extremely swollen! They must have poked me a million times but thankfully it didn't hurt much at all.

Once they got the epidural they started the operation and then after a while they let DH inside. When they got to my uterus my Dr discovered I had a ton of endometriosis and he showed my DH (he wanted to be a Dr and doesn't mind blood and operations lol) and told him that this usually causes infertility (ironically while doing a c-section for my baby haha). He proceeded to get the endometriosis out before baby and that took a long time. Finally they got Isabela out and she was crying to hard at first but kind of mixed with fluid so I was scared but they told me that's normal. She was born at 8:05pm and weighed 5lb 6oz, measured 45cm long and Dr said she has a big head.

Then the Dr showed her to me but told me that she was underweight and didn't make the minimal weight so they had to take her right away to get routine tests for babies that are underweight.

We knew she was no longer growing and it was one of the reasons she came out early but I didn't think she would be that tiny. I was obviously worried and was so sleepy while they were closing me up. I was so in shock and with her being so tiny I just wanted her to be ok.

Surgery was over and I went into recovery were I had to remain until I could feel my legs again. My DH went with Isabela and I couldn't see him or her. Finally I went back to our room and DH told me Isabela was perfectly healthy. They had done all the tests and she came back perfect in all of them. I wanted to see her so I asked for them to bring her up and they did and we got to spend like 30 minutes with her. I was so pleased they did that because they had taken her so fast during her surgery and I was able to see her before going to bed.

The next day they brought her up and the Dr came in and told us that even though she didn't make the minimal weight she was perfectly healthy and that she needed no special considerations or medicine or anything, that she was a normal baby.