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Absolutely you feel every feeling and emotion going with kids. Yesterday I was having a very bad day mood wise (if you couldn't tell :haha: ) and Sophie was screaming and shouting at me, I honestly could have screamed back in her face! I also wished we weren't pregnant again and told MrMoo that I shall be in touch with social services to have the child adopted as there's no way I'll be able to cope with two children on my own. Hormones can really be against us sometimes!!

This morning I was leaning against the sink and the baby practically pushed me away from it! Strong baba in there!!
 
Big hugs to all of you ladies. It's not always rainbows and butterflies and talking about it out loud is a very brave thing to do! :hugs:
 
This is why this group of ladies is my favorite. Everyone here is so helpful and supportive and understanding. That's what we all need! Not negative nancies and downright rude people like that lady in the other post. That admin worded everything beautifully...glad she stepped in. I worry about bonding with my baby too. I know I love my baby, but I'm afraid that I won't be able to bond with him. I haven't been around many newborns, and the babies that I am around, I just don't know how to interact with them. I'm afraid I won't know what to do to interact with my own child. I'm praying that it will be easier when it's my own baby, but maybe it won't be. Anyways, this is a SUPPORT forum and we should all be able to express our fears, worries, & difficulties without being attacked. I'm so happy I'm part of a group where everyone is on the same page in that respect. Thanks ladies :hugs:

I was wondering about baby movement too...does anyone get startled or jump when they feel a particularly strong kick, or am I just a wimp? My husband thought something was wrong with me last night when I was sleeping because the baby was kicking so hard that he woke me up and I kept jumping out of my own skin with each kick. It didn't hurt...just startled me each time haha. Is this normal? Or am I just crazy?
 
With my first pregnancy, DH and I went out to celebrate our anniversary when I was about 5 weeks pregnant. I had just talked to a friend of mine that has a fabulous life living with their husband and not wanting kids. I was thinking about how they travel, enjoy the best food, and just always seem to appreciate every minute, and I had an instantaneous moment of regret at dinner. DH and I argued about something and on the way home I had some bleeding and was afraid that I was miscarrying. Well, everything was okay for the time being, but I lost the baby at 18 weeks because of a massive blood clot.

It took a really long time to get over beating myself up about that stupid moment and not blaming myself for the bleeding issues. But I've never thought "So-and-so lost the baby because of how she was thinking". Funny that we can be so much harder on ourselves than on other ladies.
 
You know things are bad when you have to bike lock your toddler in his bedroom. All because he's learned to open his gate! In and out 50 times a night up to no good in other rooms etc. I'll unlock it tonight haha. Monster child!

I agree ladies it's nice for people to open up and admit that pregnancy and being a mum is not all sunshine and rainbows, it's hard and sometimes extremely emotional to the point you are not sure what's going on. I take my hat off to the ladies who have more and more children :wacko:
 
aman: the baby's starting to wake me up with the movements. I was wondering the same thing, like is this going to be how it is for another 20 weeks? And the baby loves moving when i'm asleep, and is probably asleep when i'm awake -_-

xan: That seems like very cruel timing honestly. It's definitely easy for mothers to blame themselves. In fact, I was always annoyed at my mom for her inclination to make everything personal, now I understand why she did that.

mummamoo: glad to see mr. moo is making progress. Little things really do add up.

x-ginge: Haven't had time to look through the exact comments but insensitive comments are really the exception on this forum. Most ladies on here try to be understanding even if there is disagreement. I'm glad to see so much support for you already.

Things are going well with me. I guess summer has started so there are many things happening. I'm still waiting on my second trimester screening results though. I know they say no news is good news and I want to believe that. I'm just afraid if my stuff got lost through the system, I'll be hounding my gyno to follow up for me. I would really like to check that off the list of things to worry about.
 
Aman- The strong kicks take my breath away! And this is my second too so you'd think I'd be okay with it all! I'm amazed that they're barely a pound heavy but yet have that much effect on us for like stretching their legs or so! I'm trying to enjoy it all since this could be our last baby.

Xan- I had no idea you had a second trimester loss hun, I'm so sorry. Im sure we all have had that thought especially with our first as it's such a huge sudden change in our lives. I'm glad you're not blaming yourself hun, that's too much of a huge burden to bear. :hugs:

Mom guilt is so so real. It starts right away too. Some nights I can't sleep because I obsess about every single wrong thing I did with handling my son. Guilt is the worst.
 
Thanks ladies- I was feeling strong and confident for a while, and then this week I realized that I'm only 5 weeks further along than that time. I've been in a little bit of a tail spin that culminated on Mother's day with strangers saying happy mother's day.

Amantila- I find the crazy kicks keep me up if I am trying to fall asleep, but then when I get no kicks or just light ones I think something is wrong.
 
amantila said:
This is why this group of ladies is my favorite. Everyone here is so helpful and supportive and understanding. That's what we all need! Not negative nancies and downright rude people like that lady in the other post. That admin worded everything beautifully...glad she stepped in. I worry about bonding with my baby too. I know I love my baby, but I'm afraid that I won't be able to bond with him. I haven't been around many newborns, and the babies that I am around, I just don't know how to interact with them. I'm afraid I won't know what to do to interact with my own child. I'm praying that it will be easier when it's my own baby, but maybe it won't be. Anyways, this is a SUPPORT forum and we should all be able to express our fears, worries, & difficulties without being attacked. I'm so happy I'm part of a group where everyone is on the same page in that respect. Thanks ladies :hugs:

I was wondering about baby movement too...does anyone get startled or jump when they feel a particularly strong kick, or am I just a wimp? My husband thought something was wrong with me last night when I was sleeping because the baby was kicking so hard that he woke m TVe up and I kept jumping out of my own skin with each kick. It didn't hurt...just startled me each time haha. Is this normal? Or am I just crazy?
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I worried myself silly over the bonding thing, but came to realise in hindsight that it takes time, or can do for some people. It can be very daunting once you leave the hospital and you no longer have that call bell to ring for advice or assistance. Just chill, get through the first couple of weeks where baby is all feed, feed, feed... and after a few weeks when you start to get reactions from baby, that first smile, first giggle.... that's when it can kick in, and you will know how to interact with baby because you find yourself just doing ANYTHING to get those lovely reactions.

And yes, kicks can be pretty startling! The cervix kicks in particular, they really make me squirm! Oh, and the bladder kicks...
 
not sure what ive missed not been on for a couple days. big baby bump hugs to all who need them xx

wow today was a real Oh my days moment... walking around a shop baby section and this overwhelming feeling just flooded me. i never felt like this with my dd. i think then it was the excitement of 1st baby on the way, what to look forward to. giving the whole new baby experience had a nice rainbow glow you know... but now having experienced child birth labour in all its glory for 5 whole days,yes 5, not so much rainbow glow haha! being unable to sit comfortably for a while, the mastitis, the worry of whats wrong that isnt right, more lack of sleep yet the OH snores away through all cries, sore nipples do i need to go on LOL. dont get me wrong im really happy to be having another baby and i know these feelings will pass no problem... it was just a hell of a wobble haha but then baby boy kicked as if to say OI stop it and dd gave me her cheeky smile (even if it was because she just eyed up something she wanted) haha.
 
Oh I remember DS's first smile, he was 2 months and I will never forget. I got it on video and I couldn't stop laughing. They really become so much fun once the new born cloud passes over. Newborn just scare me and make me anxious still. They seem so angry :p

My favorite thing was a morning feed, nap then wake up together and just hang out on the bed for like an hour while DS would just babble away.
 
I am sorry ladies, I haven't had the time to post on here as much lately. I hope everyone had a wonderful Mother's Day weekend:) Yesterday was a great day, my cousin and his wife had their 3rd baby girl! I am so happy for them:) She was scheduled for a c section this Thurs. Early Monday morning she started getting contractions. Baby was born with in 1hr of first contractions!! No time for meds or section. She was able push the baby out! Crazy!! I am hoping my labour goes quickly this time too. But I want my epidural!! lol

ginge - I just went to see the post you ladies are talking about. OMG was she ever rude!! Once in a while there is a bad apple in the bunch. I been on BnB since the birth of my 2nd child. I remember years ago BnB was alot worse. There were so many insensitive comments made and some fake ones too. Posts and threads constantly had to be taken down. I really find most ladies now are so supportive. I am so sorry you experienced this. I am glad the admin came in to stop it. Pregnancy and parenting is so hard. I took time to bond with my first as well. It doesn't just "happen" overnight. I was a roller coaster of emotions for a while after my DD's birth. I think your an amazing mom and don't let anyone tell you otherwise:)
 
Re-scan today following that pocket of fluid that was found under the gestational sac - result, it's still there and we're none the wiser really. It appears to be a simple (fluid filled) cyst attached to an ovary and it's been squished down around the pouch of Douglas. I've had bloods taken again, T25 or something like that so I'm assuming it's to check there's no nasties in there, and possibly to rule out endometriosis as I believe, (OK, read on google) that fluid in the pouch of douglas can be indicative of endometriosis.
Had a nice little peep at baby in there, and he/she appeared to be chilled out, examining their hands! So sweet! The Dr took proper measurements this time so will study my notes when I get home from work.
Got to be rescanned at 34 weeks - so many scans for what was meant to be an uncomplicated pregnancy! We're meant to have less appointments as it's baby #2 but we're heading into having more than I had in total with Sophie!!
 
Hi all - glad everyone had a nice Mothers Day.

Mum- glad to hear they think it is just a simple cyst. I know what you mean by having to have more ultrasounds than expected! It is good though-- they are keeping on top of everything and all will be fine.

Mari- great news about your cousin! I bet your labor will be nice and fast, being your 4th baby. So you highly recommend an epidural? I am thinking of trying natural..but that probably could change!!

Campn- too funny-- newborns just seem angry at first. I can see that! The screaming and all and urgent need to be fed. I used to babysit one family who had 4 kids and babysat them all from 2 months on for 12 years, so I'm familiar with infants but those first days until 2 months... I am in for an eye opener!!

Xan- oh I so know what you mean. You know during my first pregnancy I thought that as well-- thinking of remaining childless and traveling and I was like wow- that loss of freedom and all, and then had a miscarriage. So believe me, I know what you mean. Of course it had nothing to do with this, and we can never blame ourselves.
You must be 24 wks now, right? I saw 23 today on the board and I'm like - wow-- that is a lot more than halfway there now! And I know just what you mean about feeling less movement some days and wondering.
I did not tell my mom on Mothers Day. I had a day with zero movement and got worried. My appetite came back with a vengeance and OH made a meal so good, I could not stop eating..we thought we put poor baby into a food coma! It wasn't until last night I started feeling flutters again. Thanks-- I know you understand so well that I guess it is best to wait til after my high risk appt. to announce.

Psych- same here-- baby seems to be active only when I'm sleeping and wakes me up too! So cute.. except for the lack of sleep part. :)
 
mummamoo: Sounds like a simple cyst. I think it's good that they're keeping an eye on it and not just dismissing it. And you get to see you baby a little more! Sometimes I miss seeing my baby kicking on the ultrasound.

ciz: I've never been through childbirth but I also get pretty anxious thinking about it, except my anxiety is based purely on imagination haha, dunno if it's worse or better. But you're not alone, it's a pretty traumatic experience and I think not something I look forward to, except to get it over with.

campn: awww soon you'll have another first smile to see! That's definitely precious. I even remember when my little brother was a baby, I was 12, so I was old enough to remember his first smile. And I was probably even happier than my parents to see it. I guess it's one of those moments where they go from being a tiny lump of meat to something that made an emotional connection.

Mari: whoa 1 hour push? That's gotta be a record. I think when my grandmother gave birth to my mom it was similar. It was her 7th child, and it was a super short birth at home, afterwards she immediately got up and went about her day. Kind of like when you go to the bathroom lol. Congrats to your cousin!

Yay I finally received my second trimester screening results in the mail and all was normal. Now I can really just enjoy the pregnancy. It's becoming harder though. Baby's keeping me up and night and I've woken up twice with leg cramps already. :(
 
Ladies, I feel like I have been on such a vicarious adventure catching up with posts from the last two days. It was epic, and I'm glad all the little dramas had happy endings <3

I'm not very good at responding to everything I've missed, as I worry it would sound more like a laundry list than the heartfelt caring I intend it as. So I shall just summarize by saying, wow I feel really lucky to have the chance to be here and get to know you all a little :flow:

I was very afraid of labor originally, but now that I know what it's like I'm less scared. If I'd had any hope of a positive outcome, the pain itself wouldn't have even been that bad. It is a workout though, I can say that! lol Anyway, as I was reading, I thought of some advice especially to those who want to try a natural birth, but actually to everyone no matter what the birth plan, I highly recommend a doula. I honestly can't even put into adequate words how wonderful our doula was to have on hand.

I'm not sure if this advice is even applicable to those on the other side of the pond, as you all have your midwives. But for ladies in the states, I can't rave about it enough, I was so glad to have a doula! I seriously recommend looking into getting one.
 
Mumma- As long as the doctor doesn't sound alarmed that's all good! One of my friends had a cyst during her pregnancy but hers was so huge it had to be removed while she was pregnant. I can't even imagine that. I hope yours resolves so soon!

Uni- This thread moves fast sometimes and I know what you mean about not wanting to reply a short reply to anyone, it happens to all of us! Also I've heard wonderful things about doulas too and how they make natural birth so much more bearable. It must be beautiful to connect to another woman like that during labor. Husbands don't get it, and doctors and nurses don't have emotional connection.

Psy- That's awesome and so reassuring right!?? Glad everything is good! My little one has been so active I feel kicks and punches all the time now and it keeps going on and on. They're not that tiny anymore! What happened to our 8 week raspberry!??

Hopi and Luv- Are there any updates about your babies? I've been thinking about it everyday and wondering. I hope you hear great news very very soon and put this worry to rest. <3

I have my anatomy scan tomorrow FINALLY. Ughh we had to postpone it cause DH wanted to attend but had work travel. Hopefully all will be good and she'll still be a she!
 
psycochik not sure what it will entail. It's not really my thing. So they are planning it lol My 10 year old is helping. He's excited :p whatever they come up with for the reveal part is the only thing I'm responsible for.

Mumma it was an ear infection! A NASTY one. By the time I got off work yesterday I could hardly hear. I had such a headache. It's also a head cold, sinus congestion that has now spread to my chest. Good times lol. I'm allergic to penacillin so I have clindamycin instead and it helped immensely just after 3 doses. I'm now almost 2 days worth in and still sick. But liveable!

Campn I've been shielding mine too. Now that I'm out of first tri I'm a bit more open, but not feeling movement yet is freaking me out for sure. Can't wait to hear the results of your anatomy scan tomorrow!!

Regarding the bonding bit. I don't think I really bond with baby while pregnant that much. Happens after for sure. Everyone is different.

I'm still not feeling movement and I'm sick as a dog. Well getting better, but have been sick as a dog all week. On antibiotics which is helping immensely. Incredibly nervous for my scan on Thursday. More than I'd like to admit. And feeling sharp pains in my lower groin. Which I do remember from previous pregnancies. Just want Thursday morning to come!!
 
campn, I'm excited to hear the results of your anatomy scan!

Regarding doulas, my DH wasn't sure about getting a one till he found out she'd be there just as much to help him as to help me! LOL He was originally very worried he'd lose his head when I was in labor but her presence freed him to be really relaxed and wonderful through the whole thing. Between the two of them, I did manage a natural birth. Although at one point I almost gave up, but because of their support I made it through. When I got pregnant this time, one of the first people we told was our doula, before we told family or anyone else. To make sure she was available on my due date! :D

I'm actually more scared of epidurals than I am of the pain. I know that makes me a bit of a weirdo.

AJ, I'm glad to hear you're starting to feel a bit better. Ear infections really are no fun. I hope you make a speedy recovery!
 
Uni - we can get doulas over here if we want them. I'm not sure how we would go about getting one though.
I'm already thinking ahead about my birth plan and stuff - is it too early to discuss? :)

As for the cyst, it's not getting any bigger, and it looked to be flattening out a bit probably because baby is squashing it, so you never know, it might continue on to get squished until it bursts. They burst on their own in my last pregnancy. I had two then, one was 10cm, the other 6cm.

AJ ouch to the ear infection, wow you really are full of it, aren't you? Grotty cold and ickyness, I mean :)
I feel for you, this is what I had to deal with about 4 weeks ago.

Glad your results came back all good Psy! I got my first leg cramp Monday night, and felt it all of yesterday. I've read about putting a bat of soap under the bottom sheet of your bed down by your feet, stops leg cramps!? Don't know if that works, how and why. If i continue to get it, i shall be getting cuprum met again.

Campn, so excited for your anatomy scan tomorrow! Can't wait to see how it goes!
 
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