My scan was good, baby is fine! Got to go back in 2 weeks as he was moving too much and in a bad position for the heart and stomach checks. Although the whole experience wasn’t great, I was left angry and confused.
So I spent a lot of time the last couple of days thinking over what happened at my scan on tuesday, well after my scan, and I’m actually really angry about it all! This is my 4th baby so I know how things are supposed to go. I’ve been left with 2 more months until I see a midwife next, that’s unacceptable!! I didn’t have my urine checked, blood pressure checked, speak to a consultant. Nothing! I’m supposed to be going back in at 36 weeks (which is organised at the 20 week appointment) for my pre c section booking and testing etc but don’t know when that’s gonna happen now! And I didn’t get my MatB1 so hubby is gonna have to wait a bit longer to book paternity leave (which has to be done in the next 3-4 weeks max!).
So I’ve sent an email to the supervisor of midwifes at the hospital and hopefully someone will get back to me. What do you think?
“Hello,
I’m not sure if this is the best place to write this, and I will be contacting the maternity department directly also, however I feel this needs to be escalated.
Yesterday morning I had my 20 week anomaly scan at Lincoln County Hospital and was looking forward to speaking to a midwife regarding some concerns I had. Also to gain some reassurance as I had a 20 week loss last year.
However, after being called in for my scan I was left even more anxious and worried than before I went in! The sonographer did her best but my baby was laid in a funny position so the heart and stomach could not be seen properly and a re scan was scheduled for 2 weeks time. But I could have done with some extra explanation and reassurance from someone as this is obviously a very sensitive time for me.
I sat and waited, expecting to have my urine sample taken from me and tested and then to be called in to see a midwife to have my blood pressure checked and concerns addressed etc, but this is not what happened!!! I was moved to a separate ward (which I am told is normal for that day) and then basically forgotten about! The immunisation midwife came in, found my notes and told me I could have my whooping cough vaccine and then leave. I questioned about talking to a midwife to be told that they don’t do that any more and I would see my community midwife at my next appointment with her, in 8 weeks time!!!!
This is unacceptable in my opinion. For anyone to have to wait that long without seeing a midwife (16-28 weeks) but especially for someone who has suffered such a late loss!
So now I’m having to take a urine sample in to my doctors to be tested as I suffer frequent infections, and having to chase up the MatB1 that was supposed to be given to me and wasn’t so that maternity/paternity leave can be organised on time!!!
I’m absolutely disgusted with the way the whole thing happened, and I left the hospital in tears. Reading my notes when I got home bought up so many questions that I had to seek reassurance from a private midwife/sonographer to stop me having a full blown anxiety attack.
I feel this practice needs to change as it’s unacceptable.
Thank you.
From, Danielle Gourlay.”
was it hot out? Hope it doesn't happen again and glad you are starting to feel better now
How much weight has everyone gained so far?? I'm at 12 lbs. My doc said it's within normal range, but I am not sure how I feel about it!
how's everything going?
