Emzywemzy
Mummy to Holly and Evie
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Lady K how many weeks are you now hun? When's your scan?
Ladies, can I get your advice/opinions? You may have to bare with me here whilst I expalin!
So, I go to go on facebook and see that I have a message. I open it and it's actually a message between my friend and Matt and after me being very confused for a minute, it turns out that I'm reading Matt's messages, as he's left himself logged in. Basically the messages said that because I have been so fed up lately he is organising a surprise baby shower for me in April! I thought it was so so sweet of him! He had invited all my friends and family, including the southerners and the message that I had opened was a reply from one of my southern friends saying she couldn't make it as it was too far. Anyway, I felt awful having read it and wished I'd had checked that it was me that was logged in before I checked the message! I just thought to myself, I'll pretend I'd never read it and no one will ever know it's not a surprise.
Anyway, at the beginning of this week my sister messaged me and said that she would come and pick me up during the easter holidays in April so I could go for a visit down south with Holly. I thought that was lovely and my Mum said she'd bring us back home afterwards (normally I'd go on the train, but I'd struggle with the SPD plus I'll be heavily pregnant by then). Today my Mum messaged and told me that her and my sister were planning a baby shower for me whilst I was visiting!! I ended up saying to my Mum that I had a feeling that Matt had organised one for me up here as I'd accidentally read a message and she said yes she knew, but they had planned it before he had (neither of them knew the other was planning one) but hadn't invited anyone yet.
Now I don't know whether to tell Matt that I know about his, as it's going to be even harder for me to pretend that I don't know, now that they are having one for me as well (iykwim?). Also, if I was Matt I'd feel a bit pissed off that they were holding one before his. They are going to invite the southerners and so any of them that were thinking of going to Matt's will probably not now. I have loads of friends that will go to the one up here, but still, if I was him I'd feel a bit like they were stealing my thunder, do you know what I mean? Also my Mum and sister won't be coming to Matt's one, as they will be driving me the 250 miles home the week before, so can't really come again the following week.
Anyway, I'm really rambling now. My point is, I don't know whether to just continue pretending that I don't know to Matt or to tell him I accidentally read the message, now that it's a bit more complicated? Argh!
I think it's lovely that everyone is trying to organise stuff for me... and I might be way off the mark, but I kind of get the impression that my Mum and Sister have seen that Matt was organising one for me and decided to do one themselves as they didn't think about it. I think the reason that Matt is organising one for me in the first place is because when I was pregnant with Holly, my sister organised one for her friend who was due the same week as me, but didn't do one for me and I was a bit put out (without sounding spoilt or anything, I just thought it was a bit odd to do that). I think I just feel gutted for Matt as he is making all this effort and now I will have had one already the week before.
Anyway, I really am rambling now. Thoughts ladies?! lol
Ladies, can I get your advice/opinions? You may have to bare with me here whilst I expalin!
So, I go to go on facebook and see that I have a message. I open it and it's actually a message between my friend and Matt and after me being very confused for a minute, it turns out that I'm reading Matt's messages, as he's left himself logged in. Basically the messages said that because I have been so fed up lately he is organising a surprise baby shower for me in April! I thought it was so so sweet of him! He had invited all my friends and family, including the southerners and the message that I had opened was a reply from one of my southern friends saying she couldn't make it as it was too far. Anyway, I felt awful having read it and wished I'd had checked that it was me that was logged in before I checked the message! I just thought to myself, I'll pretend I'd never read it and no one will ever know it's not a surprise.
Anyway, at the beginning of this week my sister messaged me and said that she would come and pick me up during the easter holidays in April so I could go for a visit down south with Holly. I thought that was lovely and my Mum said she'd bring us back home afterwards (normally I'd go on the train, but I'd struggle with the SPD plus I'll be heavily pregnant by then). Today my Mum messaged and told me that her and my sister were planning a baby shower for me whilst I was visiting!! I ended up saying to my Mum that I had a feeling that Matt had organised one for me up here as I'd accidentally read a message and she said yes she knew, but they had planned it before he had (neither of them knew the other was planning one) but hadn't invited anyone yet.
Now I don't know whether to tell Matt that I know about his, as it's going to be even harder for me to pretend that I don't know, now that they are having one for me as well (iykwim?). Also, if I was Matt I'd feel a bit pissed off that they were holding one before his. They are going to invite the southerners and so any of them that were thinking of going to Matt's will probably not now. I have loads of friends that will go to the one up here, but still, if I was him I'd feel a bit like they were stealing my thunder, do you know what I mean? Also my Mum and sister won't be coming to Matt's one, as they will be driving me the 250 miles home the week before, so can't really come again the following week.
Anyway, I'm really rambling now. My point is, I don't know whether to just continue pretending that I don't know to Matt or to tell him I accidentally read the message, now that it's a bit more complicated? Argh!
I think it's lovely that everyone is trying to organise stuff for me... and I might be way off the mark, but I kind of get the impression that my Mum and Sister have seen that Matt was organising one for me and decided to do one themselves as they didn't think about it. I think the reason that Matt is organising one for me in the first place is because when I was pregnant with Holly, my sister organised one for her friend who was due the same week as me, but didn't do one for me and I was a bit put out (without sounding spoilt or anything, I just thought it was a bit odd to do that). I think I just feel gutted for Matt as he is making all this effort and now I will have had one already the week before.
Anyway, I really am rambling now. Thoughts ladies?! lol
FB you must be so excited!
If we do go to edinburgh, then we would have a day at the Zoo too 
I am so onto social services tomorrow to look into help, he is screaming that he doesn't want help because they will take him away and not bring him back, so i have to try and gently explain its restbite not adoption! 
So mon thurs and fri she is going to have to practice getting up and i am going to take her into pre school while on the school run, hopefully this will tire her out and she will sleep at normal times and we will get some sort of normality in the house. 
