sex after pelvic rest

[pumpkin613]

I was placed on pelvic rest around 5 weeks of my pregnancy due to some spotting. I was then told by my doctors that I could come off of pelvic rest at 12 weeks. Now I'm at 14 weeks, and hubby and I are chomping at the bit to put our hands on each other. It's after 12 weeks, and we're allowed. The problem is that I am very nervous about doing anything. We haven't had sex since we conceived our little peanut. Hubby said we don't even have to have sex, but I'm so wound up that if he touches me even a little then I might explode quite literally. I'm terrified of having an orgasm, because I've heard of people having contractions or bleeding after one. I would love a release, and I've heard any kind of sex is amazing while pregnant, but I just can't build up the courage.

Has anyone had this problem, and then finally let go? I feel awful for hubby. He won't do anything without me, and he's been really supportive. I just feel so bad pushing him away, and I really don't want to.

 

[pumpkin613]

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anyone?? Any help would be great. Thanks!

 

[roseyblossom]

Its a personal choice hun are you comfy with the idea of you and hubby doing the deed, are you scared for the baby or the contractions that happen to some women. Personally i wouldn't have been able to last this long like you did lol whatever you decide make sure you're comfortable with it plus you have a good hubby who understands your situation so think carefully what you wish to do. As far as your question is concerned about women being worried if they should do it or not, well, i didn't face any problems thats all i can say

 

[Lau88]

I'm the same as you,just worried about baby as I'm high risk. We've not had sex since our little miss was conceived and I'm nearly 25 weeks, like yours my oh has been great with the lack of sex. In a way I think I've made it worse waiting this long, in all honestly I can't see me having sex til she's here. Yes you do have to feel comfortable but the longer you leave it worse it will get.

 

[serenas_song]

we didn't do it for about 6 weeks after I had some bleeding...too scared. when we did, we went slow and he was very gentle. no problems, I was glad we did it! if your doc says its ok, go for it, just have him be gentle

 

[vintage67]

I would be concerned about the semen more than the orgasm. Semen can cause premature labor because of the hormones in it. Sometimes people are told to use condoms during pregnancy because of it. I worry about a lot of things, so we have been really careful; not much sex, no "internal" ejaculate, and overall caution. I go for a 20 week scan tomorrow and will see if I need any additional precautions.

 

[jessica.p]

My doctor told me that the reason they put couples on pelvic rest after bleeding, is that they are not able to tell the source of the bleeding. They want you to refrain from sex so that they can know if there's another problem other than spotting caused by intercourse. Orgasms do cause abdominal spasms, but they are RARELY a cause for premature labor. You can look this up if you want. If your doctor gave you the OK, I would trust what they say. Sex is perfectly healthy! By the way, I was also on pelvic rest for my first trimester due to heavy period-like bleeding, so this is why I know.

 

[luvmyfam]

Pumpkin, I was on pelvic rest due to spotting with my first baby. We started having sex again when they gave us the ok at 12 weeks. Yes you will probably have some cramping with sex, and you could also have some spotting but it is completely normal! Sorry if this is TMI but DH and I have sex during the last pregnancy and this one and it's not always so "gentle and slow". I also have uterine irritability. I definitely have some contractions with sex but have been fine. Just enjoy yourself and eventually you will forget you were ever on pelvic rest! Oh and, maybe more TMI but don't worry about the ejaculate going in you either unless you start having issues later on. Have fun

 

[pumpkin613]

Thank you everyone for your thoughts and experiences!! It really did shed a great deal of light on my situation. I'm going to my OB tomorrow, so I will see what they think. I'm going to double check, even though they said 12 weeks was fine. I'm sure if hubby and I do finally dtd we will take it pretty slow, even though I can barely control myself when we kiss, not to mention going bonkers when I get a kiss on the neck.
I know that if I wait and wait, we may not do it at all. I think I'm more afraid of sex, bleeding, and hurting the baby. My worst fear is that if we dtd, I may mc. I'm sure that's not a huge possibility, but it's my fear none the less. All I know is that there are two sides of me that are at war with each other... the hormonal horny pregnant lady who has heard that pregnant sex is amazing, and is dying for a release vs the very scared protective mother who will do anything to make sure her baby is safe.

Thank you again!