I apologize for bumping....just my 2cents.
None of my children were ever bothered by a cold wipe.
Things I use everyday...
High Chair, he sits at the table with us when we eat plus I put him in it when I am cooking.
Crib.
Bouncy seat, he loves bouncing and making the little animals on the toy bar dance around.
Changing table/dresser.
Bumbo, good for when baby can support his/her own head.
Jumperoo, good for when baby can support his/her own head.
Things I hardly ever use...
Boppy pillow
Swing, it has been in my attic for the past month because he couldn't care less about it. My other kids loved the swing though so it really depends on the baby.
Exersaucer, Nate hates it but my other kids like it. Nate prefers the Jumperoo. He likes to bounce.
If you want to use swaddle blankets I would wait until you know if your baby likes to be swaddled before you spend a lot of money on them. 2 of my kids loved being swaddled and 2 hated it.
It's really hard to say what you will and will not use because it all depends on your preferences and the babies preferences. Also since you are having a fall baby you might want to get a Bundle Me or equivalent for the infant seat. It is so much easier than trying to get the baby in and out of a snow suit type thing and in and out of the carseat. A heavy blanket would work too but I prefered the Bundle Me. I just put them in the carseat and zipped it up and my babies were nice and warm with out the risk of them kicking the blanket off or pulling it up over their face.
If you're curious about any specific items just ask away.