So angry and frustrated

[bugs]

Your normal doctors won't do bloods as the way they see it, it doesn't really tell them any more than a normal HPT you best bet is to try your local early pregnancy unit and express your worries and they should agree to a scan but this can't be done until your 6 weeks plus. If you can afford to you can pay privately for HCG blood tests but believe me you'll only worry about the numbers when you get them.

Doctors are very unsympathetic and it all comes down to cost. That being said if your not bleeding then assume everything is progressing nicely and enjoy xxxx

If an HPT can detect HCG levels, then why can't a blood test? Reading your post has me so confused >< lol idk what is real anymore!!!

The initial blood test will give you a number that will say you are pregnant or not but a HPT has already told you that. Blood tests need to be repeated to check the doubling time which again is more cost to them so they won't do.

 

[Nina83]

Thank you SO much for your kind words, that really does mean so much to me, I kind of forget I've got a healthy daughter who I carried to term with zero problems, maybe it should keep that in mind, that I can do this, with all the worry you tend to forget the positives don't you.Yes here in the uk they won't test until three mc, it seems so unfair

Yes I got in touch with midwife, it's the same midwife I had with my daughter and my previous pregnancy, she's lovely and very understanding so when I see her on Thursday il chat with her, see what she has to say.

Thank you so much your post really has made me feel a little more positive xx

That's good! It'll be good to talk with someone familiar with you and your background. I'm sure you'll come out of that appointment feeling even more positive.

It does seem unfair about the testing, I was hoping that after my D&C I would get some pathology answers, but it all came back as "fetus tissue" I think I was expecting something I could rely on next time. Those tests are expensive, and I'm not even sure it would have given me anything. If it was a chromosomal abnormality, which it probably was, there was nothing I could do to ensure it wouldn't happen again. Ugh. It's so tough.

 

[Mummy to be x]

Thank you SO much for your kind words, that really does mean so much to me, I kind of forget I've got a healthy daughter who I carried to term with zero problems, maybe it should keep that in mind, that I can do this, with all the worry you tend to forget the positives don't you.Yes here in the uk they won't test until three mc, it seems so unfair

Yes I got in touch with midwife, it's the same midwife I had with my daughter and my previous pregnancy, she's lovely and very understanding so when I see her on Thursday il chat with her, see what she has to say.

Thank you so much your post really has made me feel a little more positive xx

That's good! It'll be good to talk with someone familiar with you and your background. I'm sure you'll come out of that appointment feeling even more positive.

It does seem unfair about the testing, I was hoping that after my D&C I would get some pathology answers, but it all came back as "fetus tissue" I think I was expecting something I could rely on next time. Those tests are expensive, and I'm not even sure it would have given me anything. If it was a chromosomal abnormality, which it probably was, there was nothing I could do to ensure it wouldn't happen again. Ugh. It's so tough.

Yeah I agree it really is tough, I think the most frustrating thing is "why me?!" Do you have any children at all or is this going to be your first xx

 

[Nina83]

This will be my first

 

[babe2ooo]

Aww I'm so sorry the doctor wasn't more helpful. Could u maybe book to see your midwife early?

 

[Mummy to be x]

Aw first babies are so exciting!!!

Yes I'm seeing my midwife Thursday so hopefully she will give me some good support xx

 

[ILUVSHOPPING]

Mummy to be x you must update us on the meeting with your midwife. I'm hoping for the best for you.

 

[Mummy to be x]

Mummy to be x you must update us on the meeting with your midwife. I'm hoping for the best for you.

Thank you, I certainly shall update. I'm feeling very nervous about it, I think it's the fact that I am scared she won't listen to my concerns and worries xx

 

[xnewxmummyx]

Hiya A, I hope you don't mind me replying to your thread.

I kind of really don't have A place to comment beczuse, thank the lord, nothing has gone wrong with my pregnancy, however I feel your nervousness and anxieties, mirror mine.

I went to my GP at 17weeks pregnant because I was CONVINCED something was wrong. I didn't (don't) feel pregnant anymore, I wasn't having the early movement you 'should get' with #2. I sat in her office and she made me cry. Basically told me to get a grip because if anything had or will happen I can't control it. True. But not what I wanted to hear. I left that appointment feeling twice as bad as when I went in.

My MW is just as bad. She was the one who sent me to my gp, instead of just seeing me for a reassurance listen to HB.

I don't really know why I posted but obviously 'knowing you' I wanted to say your not alone.

I'm here to talk.

X

 

[Mummy to be x]

Hiya A, I hope you don't mind me replying to your thread.

I kind of really don't have A place to comment beczuse, thank the lord, nothing has gone wrong with my pregnancy, however I feel your nervousness and anxieties, mirror mine.

I went to my GP at 17weeks pregnant because I was CONVINCED something was wrong. I didn't (don't) feel pregnant anymore, I wasn't having the early movement you 'should get' with #2. I sat in her office and she made me cry. Basically told me to get a grip because if anything had or will happen I can't control it. True. But not what I wanted to hear. I left that appointment feeling twice as bad as when I went in.

My MW is just as bad. She was the one who sent me to my gp, instead of just seeing me for a reassurance listen to HB.

I don't really know why I posted but obviously 'knowing you' I wanted to say your not alone.

I'm here to talk.

X

Hi Hun thanks for commenting how are you? 21 weeks already, wow.

I know, I was so angry with her reaction after suffering my second mc I at least thought I'd get some kind words, nasty cow.

I'm hoping my MW will be better on Thursday xx

 

[xnewxmummyx]

Hiya A, I hope you don't mind me replying to your thread.

I kind of really don't have A place to comment beczuse, thank the lord, nothing has gone wrong with my pregnancy, however I feel your nervousness and anxieties, mirror mine.

I went to my GP at 17weeks pregnant because I was CONVINCED something was wrong. I didn't (don't) feel pregnant anymore, I wasn't having the early movement you 'should get' with #2. I sat in her office and she made me cry. Basically told me to get a grip because if anything had or will happen I can't control it. True. But not what I wanted to hear. I left that appointment feeling twice as bad as when I went in.

My MW is just as bad. She was the one who sent me to my gp, instead of just seeing me for a reassurance listen to HB.

I don't really know why I posted but obviously 'knowing you' I wanted to say your not alone.

I'm here to talk.

X

Hi Hun thanks for commenting how are you? 21 weeks already, wow.

I know, I was so angry with her reaction after suffering my second mc I at least thought I'd get some kind words, nasty cow.

I'm hoping my MW will be better on Thursday xx

Congratulaions on you're

Yep I'll be 22weeks tomorrow. Still worried stupid though. Haven't bought a thing!

They can be so useless. Its you baby growing inside of you and they couldn't care less!!

X

 

[Mummy to be x]

Hiya A, I hope you don't mind me replying to your thread.

I kind of really don't have A place to comment beczuse, thank the lord, nothing has gone wrong with my pregnancy, however I feel your nervousness and anxieties, mirror mine.

I went to my GP at 17weeks pregnant because I was CONVINCED something was wrong. I didn't (don't) feel pregnant anymore, I wasn't having the early movement you 'should get' with #2. I sat in her office and she made me cry. Basically told me to get a grip because if anything had or will happen I can't control it. True. But not what I wanted to hear. I left that appointment feeling twice as bad as when I went in.

My MW is just as bad. She was the one who sent me to my gp, instead of just seeing me for a reassurance listen to HB.

I don't really know why I posted but obviously 'knowing you' I wanted to say your not alone.

I'm here to talk.

X

Hi Hun thanks for commenting how are you? 21 weeks already, wow.

I know, I was so angry with her reaction after suffering my second mc I at least thought I'd get some kind words, nasty cow.

I'm hoping my MW will be better on Thursday xx

Congratulaions on you're

Yep I'll be 22weeks tomorrow. Still worried stupid though. Haven't bought a thing!

They can be so useless. Its you baby growing inside of you and they couldn't care less!!

X

Oh bless you, your baby will be in your arms before you know it. Thank you I'm praying this one is my take home baby xx

 

[MamaLa]

I went to my Dr and told her I took a hpt and it was positive she had my blood drawn to check my hcg level to be sure and to see how far along. Then she referred me to an OB. I haven't had my levels checked since then but when I met with the OB the first time we had an impromptu scan she let me listen to the heartbeat and look at the baby. Then I got blood drawn to check blood type, STD, rh etc. And when I told her I was spotting she had me do another scan a week later.

 

[MamaLa]

I also work in a primary care clinic and we always check HCG levels when patient requests. Also when we feel theres a need. I dont feel your dr. should have turned you away like that.

 

[floatingbaby]

Sorry to hear about the attitude you got from the GP I hope one day you can tell her that it actually made you feel worse while you were an already fragile state.
I am also looking forward to your positive update with the MW!

Rhapsodi - hate to disagree but midwives are definitely *not* as equally knowledgeable as MD's or OB's.

They can't be as knowledge is based on education and the gap is HUGE.


I agree they can have a better bedside manner at times, but that's not always the case.

Disagreeing here ^^ MW are specialists normal in pregnancy, labour and delivery. Their schooling, though it be slightly less than that of doctor, is focused in one area, giving them a deeper knowledge, while a doctor covers all areas of the human health. So not only are they generally more knowledgeable when it comes to pregnancy and delivery, they are also more experienced because that is their entire work field, while a doctor works with a variety of cases and situations - some of them being pregnancy and delivery. It's not just about the quantity of time in school, it's very much about the quality.

OBGYN's are specialists in high-risk pregnancies and delivery situations. They are certainly who you want when you or your baby are in any kind of risk. That said, the downside, IMO, of OB's are in the statistics. You will find that OB's have a high rate of C-section, vacuum, forecepts, drugs, episiotomies, etc... deliveries. In short, OB's are much quicker than MW to use interventions.

In Canada your GP may or may not work with pregnant women. In my case I see a NP so she cannot be my care provider for my pregnancy and gave me the option of going to an OB or MW and I choose MW. I am actually more frightened of OBs than MWs because of the high intervention rates! However, if something goes wrong during the next 9 months I will be so thankful that we do have these highly trained individuals!

 

[Nina83]

Floating, that's really interesting.
It's actually interesting how pregnancy is treated differently all over the world.
We don't have MW here, our OBGYNs do everything. You have a nurse you see who takes blood pressure, weight and the small tests, but everything else is done by the OB.
We do have doulas, but they don't do anything medical during the actual pregnancy, only coaching I guess and during the birth, and I know not all hospitals allow one.
I wish I had the option of a MW.