So confused and don't know what to believe!

[Sarah-Jane]

Hey
Well... where do I start?
Me and my OH are really happy, especially since we found out about the little one well I thought we were...
He's gone to university today, really weird being apart from him already!
Anyways, straight to the point! This girl who my OH used to work with added me on facebook today, she claimed she slept with him on Friday night, and I don't know what to believe right now, I'm so confused.
He went into town with his mates and he came home with them at 2am, then apparently according to this girl he then got a cab from his house to hers and stayed there all night and got a cab back home at 7:45am so he was home in time for work.
He phoned me at about 1:30am and that was the last I heard from him for the rest of the night/morning.
I trust his with my life but she really made me think today... she knew exactly what he was wearing, including what boxers he had on! And she described a pair he has... that can't be a lucky guess surely? White, with multicoloured hearts on and red elastic at the top (not your usual boxers)
He's denied everything saying "she's not the first person to try and split us up and she won't be the last"
He slept with her a few years ago (before we got together) and he cheated on his ex with her.
He said he's not seen her for ages but how did she know about his boxers?
Also, she was chatting to him on msn the other day and she said that he claimed he was single (when he clearly wasn't) and he said that he doesn't know where he stands with me and he said I'll never let him see our baby! But he also denied saying that.
I'm so confused right now and don't know whether I'm coming or going!
We were so happy, there was never a doubt in my mind that he would cheat on me as we get on so well and are madly in love with a baby on the way.
Just really need a chat and desperate for advice, please help, all will be appreciated
xxx S.J xxx

 

[daniella00]

Hey!

You really have to talk to him and really talk to her!!
She's obviously got a reason to be telling you stuff like that, would she have a reason to make it up? She may just want to break you 2 up so she can have him!!

My ex cheated on me and even when i found out i didnt believe it! I even saw him in a club with another girl and still didnt belive it cos i thought we were so loved up!


Its so hard not to think the worst! Talk to him as soon as you can!
If he has cheated on you, your better off without him, you dont need someone like that in your life with your baby!!
Good luck babe!

xxx

 

[moomin_troll]

my ex cheated on me and i just knew that he had for some reason but love blinded me even tho the girl said so mant things that were right. he then after months n months said he slept with her while we were on a break ect i believed him but inside i knew it was a lie and after a yr i just said just admit it n he did so i left which he wasnt expecting.

anyone whos been cheated on will say u just no so trust ur feelings! lets face it any man whos cheated wont admit it will they. it is very fishy that she knew all those things i no it will be hard but i got as much info out of the girl i could n it made me sick to hear it but why would she just make it up

 

[kayley_baby]

i can sort of relate as i had a similar experience my ex went to see his family and while gone got drunk and had sex with his cousin, then carried out three relationships online when he got back! (well i know about three there were probs more) his explanation being he was frustrated because i wasnt ready to have sex with him!
you should realy sit him down and try to work out by his reaction if its true. And im not trying to upset you but i doubt shed be able to describe his boxers if she hadnt seen them!

 

[Sarah-Jane]

You're all so right! Deep down I think I know the truth, I just can't admit it to myself.
The girl has an 18month old daughter and said she cheated on her baby's dad with my OH.
I just couldn't face to lose him, I just don't know what to do.
She's got no reason to lie to me as she's never met me and doesn't want him.
Just so confused

 

[polo_princess]

Oh dear ... i think your best bet is to talk to him and have it out. If he is going to treat you like that, especially when your pregnant then its best you cut your ties and end the relationship sooner rather than later

 

[sparkswillfly]

So sorry hun. Its such a crappy situation and bad timing. Like the other ladies have said you really need to trust your instincts. I was in a similar situation before and I was convinced I was right but I got talked around it wasnt until 6 months later that the truth finally came out! Maybe its good you found out early, although theres nothing good about the situation. You really need to think why would this girl go to the trouble of making it up, does she have a reason? Its a lot of trouble to go to, especially the bit about the boxers. Its hard with your boyfriend being away. Just trust your gut feeling and dont let yourself be talked around like I did youve got too much to lose. Hope everything works out for you.

 

[moomin_troll]

You're all so right! Deep down I think I know the truth, I just can't admit it to myself.
The girl has an 18month old daughter and said she cheated on her baby's dad with my OH.
I just couldn't face to lose him, I just don't know what to do.
She's got no reason to lie to me as she's never met me and doesn't want him.
Just so confused

aww babe i no its a awful feeling and must be worse because ur pregnant but u cant let someone cheat on u cuz they will do it again so only u no what u want and need to do.

 

[kayley_baby]

did she say when she cheated on fob with your oh?
Thats kind of baffled me though if she doesnt want him whys she still sleeping with him?

 

[moomin_troll]

girls like her will because they think they can i suppose!

 

[Sarah-Jane]

did she say when she cheated on fob with your oh?
Thats kind of baffled me though if she doesnt want him whys she still sleeping with him?

She said she cheated on fob with my OH on Friday night

 

[sparkswillfly]

Whats her reason for telling you anyway? Sounds like she couldnt wait. What a bitch!

 

[moomin_troll]

i hope he hasnt cheated on u cuz 1 ur a nice girl n 2 she just seems like a right scum bag. but sayin that men tend to cheat with ugly girls wen they have a stunner at home.

 

[kayley_baby]

evidently has no concience! Its selfish and horrible!

 

[Sarah-Jane]

We've never even met, that's what I don't understand. It was like she wanted to tell me just to hurt me. By the sound of it she's not even bothered about her OH finding out... otherwise she wouldn't have told me?
My OH just keeps saying she's lying and telling me to believe what I want. He said he's not gonna grovel because he's not guilty and that I should trust him

 

[kayley_baby]

so shes with fob cheated with your oh and then rushed to tell you! What a slag!

 

[Sarah-Jane]

so shes with fob cheated with your oh and then rushed to tell you! What a slag!

You summed the event up pretty well there and also summed her well

 

[sparkswillfly]

i hope he hasnt cheated on u cuz 1 ur a nice girl n 2 she just seems like a right scum bag. but sayin that men tend to cheat with ugly girls wen they have a stunner at home.

That is so true! Should see the girl I got cheated on with. Shrek is not an understatement.

 

[moomin_troll]

what a ******* for saying that! my ex kept saying u should believe me ect n he was lying to my face for over a year.

he needs to understand ur pregnant n he needs to make u believe him if hes telling the truth. id talk to her more n get all the details!

 

[Sarah-Jane]

i hope he hasnt cheated on u cuz 1 ur a nice girl n 2 she just seems like a right scum bag. but sayin that men tend to cheat with ugly girls wen they have a stunner at home.

Thanks hun