So I guess this is my first Nine Month Wait...

[meldmac]

Kelly sounds like you have the case of the pregnancy brain like I do! I'm so out of it half the time I'm surprised I even make sense.

 

[Kelly9]

I sure can relate. Being sick on top of it all doesn't help but back when I added you I wasn't sick so can't use that as an excuse.

 

[meldmac]

True! Hope you feel better soon!

 

[Kelly9]

God me to! day 5 of this and each day has been worse then the last!

 

[meldmac]

Ladies got a quick question, been having period type cramps for the last hour or so. They are pretty constant was going to try and time them because thought maybe something was happening but they are constant no space in between, they don't really feel like contractions either as my stomach isn't getting hard with them. They aren't super painful more just uncomfortable. Anyone have any idea what this could be?

 

[meldmac]

Ladies I got the call! Well she did say they want me to come in to get checked and if by that time they have room in L&D they would induce me but if not I'd get sent home. So hopefully I don't get sent home! If you don't hear from me again today probably means I've been induced! I hope so I hate all this bouncing around.

 

[westbrja]

Wishing you luck Meldmac! Hugs

 

[Kelly9]

Well I hope you're not sent home but if you are the period like cramps normally come before labour, not sure how long sometimes weeks sometimes days. Good luck!!!!! I wish you the best and easiest delivery cause you totally deserve it.

 

[Mrs_N]

oooh meldmac, hope you've not been sent home! good luck!

totally feel you on the pregnancy brain - I have turned into a right dumbo lol!

 

[dmn1156]

it lasts after birth as well my brain is mush i got to do something and have completely forgotten what i went to do lol

hope your all having a lovely day

 

[Melsue129]

Hey ladies!!!

Meldmac - Good Luck looks like you are having a lil one today or did yesterday cant wait to hear more..

Wannabe - we want pics - Congrats on lil Oliver - we want to hear the labor story -- I love labor stories....

West - Ive been having the most stressful time breastfeeding.. I had mastitis and then thrush - then finally after I was done with all of the meds, I realized that I need to pump to build a milk supply for work (that I will be back to in 2 weeks) and then I was really stressing and noticing that she was feeding off of both boobs for 10 minutes each and still hungry - I havent been the happiest mom at all.. Ive had 4 days total in the last four weeks that I havent cried... I had the baby blues bad and then I thought it was turning into post partum depression then I realized that the BF'g was stressing me out so much with no sleep - she's up every 2 hours and sometimes every hour, its been nuts... So I feel sooo guilty for saying this or even feeling this way but I called the hospital over the weekend and asked about formula.. We have to start to suppliment because I know my milk supply is going to decrease when I go back to work because I can only pump 3 times a day there... sooooo all in all Ive been a mess... and totally exhausted... Just called her dr today and they said that first and foremost momma has to be stress free so supplimenting is perfectly fine - they said an unhappy mom makes an unhappy baby, so it felt good to hear it, because Ive been in tears just feeling so guilty because I want the best for her - so Im still BF'g her while Im home and I pump while she gets formula to build something of a supply...

Sorry for the long explaination - Ive been trying to get on here for some support but havent had a chance at all... I just need to unload and get some good advice, so Im going to check out the breastfeeding forum as long as this lil one falls back to sleep she is starting to cry so I think she's hungry... Gotta go..

I hope everyone else is doing great - big hugs to all!!

 

[Kelly9]

I hope it gets easier melsue! I expect to have some of the same issues due to having to pump while I'll be in class. Should be interesting. I'll do whatever I can though to keep it up for as long as possible, I realize that anything else would be impossible.

Yay meldmac! You didn't come back on so I am thinking you have had or are having your boy!

DMN don't tell me that! This course work's been hard enough with baby brain during pregnancy!

 

[Mrs_N]

melsue don't beat yourself up over it, you can only do so much and at the end of the day baby getting enough to eat is the most important thing.

 

[westbrja]

Melsue - I remember these same feelings with my first and feeling like I failed her BF'ing doesn't make a better mom than a FF'ing one. A couple things maybe I could suggest. First your doc is right cuz you need to be sane. Secondly if baby is only nursing for 10 mins on each side she may only be getting foremilk which has less fat and does not hold baby as long. Plus it makes it hard for baby to gain weight if they don't get enough of the fatty hindmilk. Sometimes babies have tummy troubles or gassines with an abundance of foremilk. Try making her nurse on one side each session for at least 20 mins and then offer the other boob if she still seems hungry.
Thirdly, (which this is completely fine if you want to FF exclusively) but every bottle that is supplemented is one less time your bb's are stimulated to produce milk. Its a supply and demand thing so if you remove the demand the supply will decrease. I only recommend supplementing if baby is not gaining weight appropriately.
As far as pumping, a pump can never empty the breast like baby can. Try to get baby to the breast as often as she likes. I kno this can be a lot. I will have to pump like mad when I go back and school. I invested in a $300 pump bcuz of this but you can get them used too. Your supply will likely be okay with 3 pumps a day as long as you nurse on demand at home. Sorry this is so long but I really wanted to offer some advice to you. I honestly kno how you feel. Both my kids were small and nursed every 30-45 mins. Talk about someone being CRAZY!!! I wished I had the knowledge and info with DD that I did with DS. I was much more confident the 2nd time around. Either way FF or BF you are a great mommy and she loves you!!

 

[dmn1156]

sorry kelly lol but a classic example for me today i went to post a letter recorded delivery i had forgotten to put the address and return address on the envelope then i walked out out without my car keys until a lady tapped me on the shoulder saying i think these are yours lol

melsue you can only do so much i had to go onto formula for Lucie she was so miserable because she was hungry and then she thrived on the formula and eventually my milk dried up

meldmac im so hoping your busy with your baby to get on

 

[Melsue129]

Thanks ladies...

West - thanks for all of the great advice... Im trying my hardest right now and feel so guilty for feeling the way that I do... Im jsut in sooo much pain right now... These nipples dont like anything to touch them and when they get cold and the nipples go hard thats when the pain comes... Ouch!! When do you think this will let up?? I have a week and a half before I go back to work, Im dreading it...

Hope everyone else is doing great - cant wait to see more pics of lil ones...!!!

 

[Melsue129]

Hey one last question to all of your already mommas out there....

After a vaginal birth did you have abdominal pain - I have shooting pain to the left of my belly button.. I had the dr do an ultrasound to make sure there are no left over bits in the uterus and nothing is there... They ended up telling me that they think I had a pulled abdominal muscle it just hurts like hell if I stretch or turn or bend a certain way... Ouch, again....

 

[westbrja]

Sorry Melsue can't help with the mastitis or the vag delivery problems. I did have a bad case of thrush tho with DS and I literally cried everytime he wanted to nurse cuz my nips were raw. If you've gotten rid of the thrush they should start feelingf better soon. If they hurt for other reasons then you may want to be sure Liana is latched on properly. Be sure most of your areola is in her mouth too. I promise it does get easier and better. Pls pls pls try not to feel guilty but just kno that if you do want to continue BF'ing you can. Just hang in there.

Hi Dmn, Kelly, and Mrs N!
Hope you have a healthy baby at home Meldmac!

 

[wannabeamom]

West excellent advice there thanks, I've been struggling to feed ollie, was using a breast each feed but was then told to swap over when he let's go but this is only 10 mins into feed so prob why hea feeding so much!!!
Mel I have a horrid shooting pain but only when I'm having a poo not allthe time but it has me doubled over in pain!!
Quick question my nephew has chicken pox, I've not had them and cam in contact with him 13 days ago , his spots appeared on Thursday, I have banned my mum from visiting cos I don't want Oliver getting them this early as she looked after my nephew on the Monday am I being paranoid or would it be ok formum to come over? I know they are contagios 10 days before the spots cme out and until they scab over bu how do I stand with people carrying them?

 

[westbrja]

Wannabe and Melsue - The BF forum on BNB is very helpful too. Everyone talks about the benefits of BF'ing, which is true, but sometimes the hard times are not mentioned. It can def be tough but you can do it. Remember any BM is better than none. Also Melsue I wanted to mention you could try pumping for 10-15 mins directly after a feed to build up your freezer stash.
Ok I'll get off my soapbox now lol.
I forgot to tell you all abt my appt yesterday. I've gained 11 lbs so far, she's still head down but hasn't dropped yet. My MW thinks its just my growing uterus making me pee more and more uncomfortable. She also said if I go into labor now they wouldn't stop it and I'd go in for my c-section. She would still like me to wait a couple weeks tho (not like I have a choice lol). I'm up to weekly visits now. The constant BH's and lost mucus plug was of no concern to her.
OMG I almost forgot, we had a bad roll over accident in front of our house the other nite. We live on a residential street and the speed limit is 25. People fly up and down all day tho which pisses me off cuz there is a park 2 blocks away and a school 1 block away. Anyways, DF and I jumped out of bed when we heard the crash and ran outside. Cars park on one side of the street so you have to give the right away. Well a car was doin 55mph or more and hit a lady head on when they couldn't squeeze thru. I think alcohol was involved cuz the passenger that was trapped in the car said the driver jumped out and ran. The ladies van was knocked into my yard right where my kids ride bikes. It was horrible. Everyone was ok tho. They took the idiot to the hospital but he was fine goin into the ambulance. Some people...UGH!!!