ser523
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So apparently my husband decided that it was a good idea to tell his ENTIRE family that we're pregnant. It was his grandfather's 90th birthday celebration today, so there were tons of people there - cousins and stuff. I was out to dinner with a friend and I stopped by after to say hello and get some cake. I get there and people are all oh, congratulations.
We started telling people last week after we had our first doctor appointment - his parents and siblings, my mom, my sister and my two close friends. When we told his sister and her husband, two of his uncles were there (who are extremely rude by the way) and he told him too. Which, I wasn't happy about because obviously if something happens, I don't want to be discussing it or whatever with a ton of people. And we've had two losses previously, so it's definitely something that I worry about all the time. But DH claims he doesn't remember me being upset or the conversation we had about the uncles finding out.
I'm sorry, but telling family and close friends means telling your IMMEDIATE family, not everyone you're frickin' related to. Like God forbid something happens, I don't want all of these people (who I barely know or don't know at all) knowing about. That situation is something that is private and personal and very emotional. And we've talked about how we're going to announce to everyone at 12 weeks, we even just ordered the announcement cards so we'll have them to mail out in a few weeks. But what's the point in spending $50 on cards, if you're just going to tell everyone now?!
There aren't words to describe how upset I am right now. Honestly, I'm shocked that I'm not sitting here crying. I'm just so flabbergasted at how stupid he is and what on earth possessed him to think that I would be ok with telling all of these random people in his family. WTF
We started telling people last week after we had our first doctor appointment - his parents and siblings, my mom, my sister and my two close friends. When we told his sister and her husband, two of his uncles were there (who are extremely rude by the way) and he told him too. Which, I wasn't happy about because obviously if something happens, I don't want to be discussing it or whatever with a ton of people. And we've had two losses previously, so it's definitely something that I worry about all the time. But DH claims he doesn't remember me being upset or the conversation we had about the uncles finding out.
I'm sorry, but telling family and close friends means telling your IMMEDIATE family, not everyone you're frickin' related to. Like God forbid something happens, I don't want all of these people (who I barely know or don't know at all) knowing about. That situation is something that is private and personal and very emotional. And we've talked about how we're going to announce to everyone at 12 weeks, we even just ordered the announcement cards so we'll have them to mail out in a few weeks. But what's the point in spending $50 on cards, if you're just going to tell everyone now?!
There aren't words to describe how upset I am right now. Honestly, I'm shocked that I'm not sitting here crying. I'm just so flabbergasted at how stupid he is and what on earth possessed him to think that I would be ok with telling all of these random people in his family. WTF