So what does everyone think about working Mums?

[Hayley90]

i dont think the term in itself is offensive... its what to call those who ARE NOT in the same bracket as you that is. As i am not harrisons full-time carer, am i a part time mother? Am i only in a part of his life?? Thats where the upset is i think.

Not that it really bothers me, i dont get asked for my title, and if i do, im a working mum.

 

[ttc_lolly]

I don't agree with the term ''FT mum'' either tbh as it does insinuate that a working mum is only PT mums and that isn't very nice I just class myself as a SAHM - that's what I am and what I do! x

 

[ShanandBoc]

I always just say full time mum in all honesty if people ask. I dont mean to offend anyone, I have never thought about it being offensive, Its just what I say :/

I say this too, tbh i didnt put anymore thought into it other than i dont go out and work, i look after my baby all day.

Never crossed my mind that others would take offence or think that im insinuating they are only part time mums.

I dont really understand why there is even a debate about it tbh. We are all mums. Some work, some dont. Simple.

Full time mum is what i do, SAHM is what i do, i dont really see the difference

 

[Sarahkka]

I can't wait until men write 300+ posts furiously debating this! Then I will know that we've really achieved equality.

 

[Blah11]

I dont really like the full time mum thing either. We're all full time mothers, lol. I think stay at home mum is a much more appropriate title.

A silly thing I wish I had the 'luxury' of doing is going to rhyme time and playgroups!

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I dont say home mum because I spend more time in the school lol xx

 

[Hayley90]

i wish i could go to groups too. like baby massage, swimming lessons, music etc... harrison has only met 2 or 3 babies near his age, and they were b&b meets... he is missing out too.

 

[Tasha]

Isnt it home maker now? I think that is box I usually tick or when asked I say SAHM.

We are way too hard on each other, we all do our very best for our children no matter what our individual circumstances are and there is so much pressure from society, the media, whatever, to go to work, to not go to work, to parent this way or that way, with all that outside pressure surely we dont need to place more on each other? We are all fantastic parents

 

[Sarahkka]

Totally agree, Tasha!

 

[Lena]

Geez. Some people really need to lighten up and stop taking everything as offensive. People can't say full time mum because it offends working mums. People can't say chubby babies are best because the mums of skinny babies are offended. Can't say breast is best because then the whole breast vs bottle debate starts. Its like walking on eggshells around here.

 

[Hayley90]

Geez. Some people really need to lighten up and stop taking everything as offensive. People can't say full time mum because it offends working mums. People can't say chubby babies are best because the mums of skinny babies are offended. Can't say breast is best because then the whole breast vs bottle debate starts. Its like walking on eggshells around here.

it so is!!! in 50 years we will look back and think ourselves silly... we complain about not having enough time/energy/sleep/money yet we waste it by arguing online xxx

 

[Foogirl]

Isnt it home maker now? I think that is box I usually tick or when asked I say SAHM.

We are way too hard on each other, we all do our very best for our children no matter what our individual circumstances are and there is so much pressure from society, the media, whatever, to go to work, to not go to work, to parent this way or that way, with all that outside pressure surely we dont need to place more on each other? We are all fantastic parents

I like home maker. It's not a term that's used much in the UK though.

Geez. Some people really need to lighten up and stop taking everything as offensive. People can't say full time mum because it offends working mums. People can't say chubby babies are best because the mums of skinny babies are offended. Can't say breast is best because then the whole breast vs bottle debate starts. Its like walking on eggshells around here.

I don't generally have a problem with the term full time mum per se, it is those who state strongly being a mum is a full time job, forgetting that a lot of those who also have an outside job, do many of the same things they do, just only half the time to do them in and yet we are considered lesser mums for having or choosing not to be with our children for a few hours a week. As always, most "full time mums" don't express that view but those few who do can be quite offensive with it. The most common one I hear is " why bother having children if you aren't going to look after them". It's difficult not to find that offensive.

 

[Hayley90]

^ I agree, I dislike very much the "why not raise your own kids" point also. Life costs money, it seems some are unaware of this fact! x

 

[Feltzy]

When I was a working mum after having Evie I got comments about how I should stay at home with her, even once told I didn't care about her because I 'couldn't be bothered' to look after her myself. Now that I'm a SAHM I get the opposite comments from my friends who are working mums saying I'm throwing my career down the toilet and that Alfie is missing out on not going to nursery and socialising with other children. You can't win either way!

 

[Tasha]

I think home maker is becoming more common in the UK, it tends to be on more of the forms now, rather than housewife. I think in time it will go more and more that way

 

[Laura2919]

Home maker does sound better than full time mums as we are all full time mums whether we work or dont.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I do say home maker sometimes, but I cant even remember the last time I was asked to be honest!? x