So what does everyone think about working Mums?

[Laura2919]

Its nice to have a balance but not every parent can do that. Some jobs require full time work and some parents have to work long hours to pay for the amazingly high childcare costs!
I work part time so I get the afternoons with the twins which we are able to do things or they are able to have a nice long sleep which they dont get at nursery!

 

[OrlandoBelle]

I am lucky in that I have a full time job where I work with Devonte. So I get the best of both worlds.

I went back to work when he was 4 weeks old which was a struggle emotionally for me and I will always resent the fact that I didn't have more time alone with him in those crucial early weeks. I felt like I was sharing him with others when I just wanted to be at home with him and my OH. But there was no way we could survive on MA. It didn't even cover a quarter of our mortgage

I also believe that if you bring a child into the world, then it is your duty to provide for them. We are lucky that we live in a country where benefits are thrown at us if we choose not to/can't be bothered to work. Other countries don't do this.

I once knew a lady who had two children who were both at school (aged 6 and 8) who considered herself a "Stay at home mum". In MY opinion this is just sheer laziness. She had no excuse not to work. Even if it was a few hours a week around school hours which I did with my first. You bring a child into this world, then you do everything in your power to provide for it. End of.

 

[sophxx]

I am lucky in that I have a full time job where I work with Devonte. So I get the best of both worlds.

I went back to work when he was 4 weeks old which was a struggle emotionally for me and I will always resent the fact that I didn't have more time alone with him in those crucial early weeks. I felt like I was sharing him with others when I just wanted to be at home with him and my OH. But there was no way we could survive on MA. It didn't even cover a quarter of our mortgage

I also believe that if you bring a child into the world, then it is your duty to provide for them. We are lucky that we live in a country where benefits are thrown at us if we choose not to/can't be bothered to work. Other countries don't do this.

I once knew a lady who had two children who were both at school (aged 6 and 8) who considered herself a "Stay at home mum". In MY opinion this is just sheer laziness. She had no excuse not to work. Even if it was a few hours a week around school hours which I did with my first. You bring a child into this world, then you do everything in your power to provide for it. End of.

was she on benifits? if she was then your intitled to your opoinon but if she didnt claim anything then i dont see why its lazy and why she should have to work i dont work as we can well afford me not to.

 

[Feltzy]

I am lucky in that I have a full time job where I work with Devonte. So I get the best of both worlds.

I went back to work when he was 4 weeks old which was a struggle emotionally for me and I will always resent the fact that I didn't have more time alone with him in those crucial early weeks. I felt like I was sharing him with others when I just wanted to be at home with him and my OH. But there was no way we could survive on MA. It didn't even cover a quarter of our mortgage

I also believe that if you bring a child into the world, then it is your duty to provide for them. We are lucky that we live in a country where benefits are thrown at us if we choose not to/can't be bothered to work. Other countries don't do this.

I once knew a lady who had two children who were both at school (aged 6 and 8) who considered herself a "Stay at home mum". In MY opinion this is just sheer laziness. She had no excuse not to work. Even if it was a few hours a week around school hours which I did with my first. You bring a child into this world, then you do everything in your power to provide for it. End of.

was she on benifits? if she was then your intitled to your opoinon but if she didnt claim anything then i dont see why its lazy and why she should have to work i dont work as we can well afford me not to.

Yeah I agree, mine aren't school age yet but when they are OH has said he would rather I stay at home. He can afford to keep us without having to claim benefits, I don't see anything wrong with that.

 

[OrlandoBelle]

I am lucky in that I have a full time job where I work with Devonte. So I get the best of both worlds.

I went back to work when he was 4 weeks old which was a struggle emotionally for me and I will always resent the fact that I didn't have more time alone with him in those crucial early weeks. I felt like I was sharing him with others when I just wanted to be at home with him and my OH. But there was no way we could survive on MA. It didn't even cover a quarter of our mortgage

I also believe that if you bring a child into the world, then it is your duty to provide for them. We are lucky that we live in a country where benefits are thrown at us if we choose not to/can't be bothered to work. Other countries don't do this.

I once knew a lady who had two children who were both at school (aged 6 and 8) who considered herself a "Stay at home mum". In MY opinion this is just sheer laziness. She had no excuse not to work. Even if it was a few hours a week around school hours which I did with my first. You bring a child into this world, then you do everything in your power to provide for it. End of.

was she on benifits? if she was then your intitled to your opoinon but if she didnt claim anything then i dont see why its lazy and why she should have to work i dont work as we can well afford me not to.

Yes she was claiming every benefit she could as a single parent even though her Girlfriend was living with her.

I reported her to the DSS in the end.

 

[KaceysMummy]

Being a mum is a full time job IMO...

I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to be SAHM.
If you can afford not to work, then why not stay at home each day with your LO?
Some people have worked hard since they could, got a lot of savings - and maybe aren't interested in materialistic things or money so would prefer staying at home.
People do assume because your a SAHM you rely on benefits - this isn't always the case.
I do think people who can't afford not to work should work rather than rely on benefits.

I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to go back to work either.
Some people can't afford not to work or sees working as a 'break'
However I do think you can 'work to much' by this I don't mean having a full time job, I mean being very career and money driven, and your rarely with your children because your always busy whether at work or home, iykwim?
In situations like that I think it's best to be there for your child rather than being able to buy them the best things...
x

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Mine are both at school full time. I dont work.I love being a SAHM and I dont think its lazy at all!

I help out in the school for free and I love being a active member in the school and know what my children are learning etc. I think its very important to help if you can and my kids love it.

Sometimes I see the kids on their own, when they have open days to see the work, some kids have to just stay with the teacher as mum or dad is at work

 

[Foogirl]

I get irritatated by the 'being a mum is a full time job' comments, as if I am a part time parent? There are 168 hours in a week and for 23 of them, my daughter is in nursery. There she gets to socialise with other children and play with more toys and fab equipment than we can fit in the house. The rest of the time mr foo and I are the ones who make sure she is taken care of. Is that something less than full time?

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I think it just means being a parent in its self is full time regardless, like if you are at home then you dont get a scheduled break etc, I dont think people mean working is easier but do you kind of get what I mean, if you go to work, your still a full time mum but if you dont well then you dont get a break so therefore still a full time mum. It can be a job in itself.

 

[ShanandBoc]

I get irritatated by the 'being a mum is a full time job' comments, as if I am a part time parent? There are 168 hours in a week and for 23 of them, my daughter is in nursery. There she gets to socialise with other children and play with more toys and fab equipment than we can fit in the house. The rest of the time mr foo and I are the ones who make sure she is taken care of. Is that something less than full time?

I dont think its intended to offend those that work.

But i agree to stay at home isnt easy. It is a full time job in itself. You are always a full time mum, even if u work, but being a mum on its own is full time job too, i dont care what anyone says!!!

 

[Blah11]

I get irritatated by the 'being a mum is a full time job' comments, as if I am a part time parent? There are 168 hours in a week and for 23 of them, my daughter is in nursery. There she gets to socialise with other children and play with more toys and fab equipment than we can fit in the house. The rest of the time mr foo and I are the ones who make sure she is taken care of. Is that something less than full time?

I 100% agree with you. I really dislike the whole 'being a mum is a fulltime job'. A working parent goes to a paid job, and comes home and does the same things as a SAHM Only difference is we don't get as much free time to spend with our LOs. I work for money, nothing else and if I could afford to stay at home, I probably would. That being said, nursery does have it's own benefits.

 

[Blah11]

I think it just means being a parent in its self is full time regardless, like if you are at home then you dont get a scheduled break etc, I dont think people mean working is easier but do you kind of get what I mean, if you go to work, your still a full time mum but if you dont well then you dont get a break so therefore still a full time mum. It can be a job in itself.

Most babies nap. If they didn't there wouldn't be so many posts in babyclub. Yes, it's hard but I hate when people bring up the 'break' arguement. It's kind of silly. I'd give up my break at work to stay at home everyday and do fun things

 

[kirmal12]

I am lucky in that I have a full time job where I work with Devonte. So I get the best of both worlds.

I went back to work when he was 4 weeks old which was a struggle emotionally for me and I will always resent the fact that I didn't have more time alone with him in those crucial early weeks. I felt like I was sharing him with others when I just wanted to be at home with him and my OH. But there was no way we could survive on MA. It didn't even cover a quarter of our mortgage

I also believe that if you bring a child into the world, then it is your duty to provide for them. We are lucky that we live in a country where benefits are thrown at us if we choose not to/can't be bothered to work. Other countries don't do this.

I once knew a lady who had two children who were both at school (aged 6 and 8) who considered herself a "Stay at home mum". In MY opinion this is just sheer laziness. She had no excuse not to work. Even if it was a few hours a week around school hours which I did with my first. You bring a child into this world, then you do everything in your power to provide for it. End of.

was she on benifits? if she was then your intitled to your opoinon but if she didnt claim anything then i dont see why its lazy and why she should have to work i dont work as we can well afford me not to.

Yeah I agree, mine aren't school age yet but when they are OH has said he would rather I stay at home. He can afford to keep us without having to claim benefits, I don't see anything wrong with that.

It drives me mad that people always assume if your a SAHM your a lazy bint on benefits! the only beneifit i recieve is child benefit. We decided i should give up my job to stay at home with LO, i could have easily gone back to work but i decided to stay at home with LO. When he is at school my situation will stay the same as i want to be at home when LO gets home from school. My LO socialises every day, he has a great network of friends and so have i, he doesn't need to go to nursery to have that. He still has days out and will get holidays.

 

[Hayley90]

I agree with Blah... this is an old thread! x

 

[Laura2919]

I get irritatated by the 'being a mum is a full time job' comments, as if I am a part time parent? There are 168 hours in a week and for 23 of them, my daughter is in nursery. There she gets to socialise with other children and play with more toys and fab equipment than we can fit in the house. The rest of the time mr foo and I are the ones who make sure she is taken care of. Is that something less than full time?

I dont think its intended to offend those that work.

But i agree to stay at home isnt easy. It is a full time job in itself. You are always a full time mum, even if u work, but being a mum on its own is full time job too, i dont care what anyone says!!!

So if its hard being at home then think about how hard it is being a working mother, all the chores are still there when we come home so in fairness its harder to be a working mum than a SAHM mum.

 

[Laura2919]

I am lucky in that I have a full time job where I work with Devonte. So I get the best of both worlds.

I went back to work when he was 4 weeks old which was a struggle emotionally for me and I will always resent the fact that I didn't have more time alone with him in those crucial early weeks. I felt like I was sharing him with others when I just wanted to be at home with him and my OH. But there was no way we could survive on MA. It didn't even cover a quarter of our mortgage

I also believe that if you bring a child into the world, then it is your duty to provide for them. We are lucky that we live in a country where benefits are thrown at us if we choose not to/can't be bothered to work. Other countries don't do this.

I once knew a lady who had two children who were both at school (aged 6 and 8) who considered herself a "Stay at home mum". In MY opinion this is just sheer laziness. She had no excuse not to work. Even if it was a few hours a week around school hours which I did with my first. You bring a child into this world, then you do everything in your power to provide for it. End of.

was she on benifits? if she was then your intitled to your opoinon but if she didnt claim anything then i dont see why its lazy and why she should have to work i dont work as we can well afford me not to.

Yeah I agree, mine aren't school age yet but when they are OH has said he would rather I stay at home. He can afford to keep us without having to claim benefits, I don't see anything wrong with that.

It drives me mad that people always assume if your a SAHM your a lazy bint on benefits! the only beneifit i recieve is child benefit. We decided i should give up my job to stay at home with LO, i could have easily gone back to work but i decided to stay at home with LO. When he is at school my situation will stay the same as i want to be at home when LO gets home from school. My LO socialises every day, he has a great network of friends and so have i, he doesn't need to go to nursery to have that. He still has days out and will get holidays.

Thats because you are financially able to stay at home, some arent so sometimes threads like these can become a little offensive to working mums. Some really would love to stay at home with their children but just cannot afford to. Count yourself lucky that your able to because I cant, think about those who cant and then think about how they feel sometimes when they miss things that their children do.
Some SAHM's do only stay at home cos they think having a baby is an excuse not to go back but nobody said everything SAHM is like that.

 

[kirmal12]

I am lucky in that I have a full time job where I work with Devonte. So I get the best of both worlds.

I went back to work when he was 4 weeks old which was a struggle emotionally for me and I will always resent the fact that I didn't have more time alone with him in those crucial early weeks. I felt like I was sharing him with others when I just wanted to be at home with him and my OH. But there was no way we could survive on MA. It didn't even cover a quarter of our mortgage

I also believe that if you bring a child into the world, then it is your duty to provide for them. We are lucky that we live in a country where benefits are thrown at us if we choose not to/can't be bothered to work. Other countries don't do this.

I once knew a lady who had two children who were both at school (aged 6 and 8) who considered herself a "Stay at home mum". In MY opinion this is just sheer laziness. She had no excuse not to work. Even if it was a few hours a week around school hours which I did with my first. You bring a child into this world, then you do everything in your power to provide for it. End of.

was she on benifits? if she was then your intitled to your opoinon but if she didnt claim anything then i dont see why its lazy and why she should have to work i dont work as we can well afford me not to.

Yeah I agree, mine aren't school age yet but when they are OH has said he would rather I stay at home. He can afford to keep us without having to claim benefits, I don't see anything wrong with that.

It drives me mad that people always assume if your a SAHM your a lazy bint on benefits! the only beneifit i recieve is child benefit. We decided i should give up my job to stay at home with LO, i could have easily gone back to work but i decided to stay at home with LO. When he is at school my situation will stay the same as i want to be at home when LO gets home from school. My LO socialises every day, he has a great network of friends and so have i, he doesn't need to go to nursery to have that. He still has days out and will get holidays.

Thats because you are financially able to stay at home, some arent so sometimes threads like these can become a little offensive to working mums. Some really would love to stay at home with their children but just cannot afford to. Count yourself lucky that your able to because I cant, think about those who cant and then think about how they feel sometimes when they miss things that their children do.
Some SAHM's do only stay at home cos they think having a baby is an excuse not to go back but nobody said everything SAHM is like that.

I fully agree with you, i know how lucky i am. But it can be annoying when people assume your on benefits!. it was the first comment ^^ that bugged me a little TBH. We all do what we think/need to do for the best for are LO, there is no right or wrong IMHO. One thing i do know is that i used to do 13hr shifts before i had LO, i'm more knackered now than i was doing those shifts, so i'm not sure what LO does to me by the end of the day!

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I think it just means being a parent in its self is full time regardless, like if you are at home then you dont get a scheduled break etc, I dont think people mean working is easier but do you kind of get what I mean, if you go to work, your still a full time mum but if you dont well then you dont get a break so therefore still a full time mum. It can be a job in itself.

Most babies nap. If they didn't there wouldn't be so many posts in babyclub. Yes, it's hard but I hate when people bring up the 'break' arguement. It's kind of silly. I'd give up my break at work to stay at home everyday and do fun things

Mine dont nap but they are in school! I dont know about half terms though. By the end of next week they will have had 3 weeks off, then next month a week off, then 6 weeks after that its the summer holidays! I would NEVER be able to get childcare for all that and numerous inset days not to mention how many days of M has for hospital or I have to take him home because they have dancing etc and he hates it!

Anyway, I think its hard being a SAHM. I do lots during the day, housework etc and mainly atm I have about 4 meetings a week to arrange my sons transfer to Jrs, every waking second I am either thinking about the statement or writing it. Its VERY hard. I think its very stressful. There is no way I could put my all into a job.

That said, I do take my hats off to working parents. If I worked, I wouldnt help out at the school and I wouldnt do all my usual random errands but obv you still have to do the housework.

I guess its just what life throws at us. For us personally, me being at work would be utterly pointless and more stressful to the family then anything else.

 

[Foogirl]

I don't think that one is necessarily harder than the other. Both have their stresses and strains and different people will more suited to one or the other. I don't have a problem with those who can support themselves and make that choice. I do have a problem with those who think they have the god given right to make that choice and expect the taxpayer to support them. And with those who decideto berate me for choosing not to.

 

[ShanandBoc]

I get irritatated by the 'being a mum is a full time job' comments, as if I am a part time parent? There are 168 hours in a week and for 23 of them, my daughter is in nursery. There she gets to socialise with other children and play with more toys and fab equipment than we can fit in the house. The rest of the time mr foo and I are the ones who make sure she is taken care of. Is that something less than full time?

I dont think its intended to offend those that work.

But i agree to stay at home isnt easy. It is a full time job in itself. You are always a full time mum, even if u work, but being a mum on its own is full time job too, i dont care what anyone says!!!

So if its hard being at home then think about how hard it is being a working mother, all the chores are still there when we come home so in fairness its harder to be a working mum than a SAHM mum.

Im not playing down how hard it would be to be a working mum. I think about it alot actually and have alot of respect for those that do. I also think about how hard it must be for single parents too. But a SAHM works just as hard as someone who goes to a job all day while someone else looks after their child. Its not a competition?