some people!!!

[Beth_18]

i understand that some people are going to judge me for being 18 and pregnent.... but i dont expect it from my so called best friend


last night my m8 asked me if i wanted to go out for her birthday, she is going clubing in liverpool but by the time her birthday comes round ill be 25weeks pregnant, so i said i dont think it was such a good idea also i have being in and out of hospital with high blood pressure and low sugar levels, and she knew this as i passed out when she was with me in the middle of tesco. and her response was "for f**k sake beth your turning into some sour old lady"!!!!! i didnt know what to say i was gob smaked i thought she would understand but i was very wrong. i just put the phone down on her. i had a text from her this morning saying that "beth you are 18 not 28 and you have settled down way to early and all our friends are thinking it, but noone has got the guts to say it!

i am so mad. angry upset!!!!

why is my friend being a bitch towards me??

it makes it worse as she was pregnant about 8months ago and didnt want to keep it, she went the wrong way about it and went out every weekend drinking! her boyfriend didnt want the baby either. they left it so late for an abortion she was 19 weeks and as a result of her drinking she had a misscage and called me up at 4am to take her to hospital as her mum and step dad didnt know she was pregnant. i ended up being the one to tell her parents she was pregnant. i was there for her why isnt she for me?

i feel better now i have got it out.
sorry if it sounds like im going on.

 

[tootsy1987]

eeeee chick!! nooo one should ever judge anyone about age let alone your so called best friend!!! age is just a number!! stupid silly girl! some people just want the world the way they want it! i cant believe how silly and unresponsible she was when she found out she was pregnant, poor child, it would have started to feel stuff by 19 weeks! congrats to you and don't rise to her pettyness, you dont need her as you have all of us!! ) ! if you want to talk pm me im always here for a girly chat! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[TashaAndBump]

Sounds like she's just immature I'm afraid - Like she doesn't know the responsibilities of being pregnant and becoming a parent. If she did go out clubbing every weekend when she was pregnant and didn't care then that's probably why she doesn't understand that you can't and won't support you - because she has no sense of responsibility - In fact it sounds like she has no sense, full stop!

I hope you can find yourself some nicer people to surround yourself with, and that you so-called friend pulls her head out of her arse and realises what a good friend she could loose with you, what exactly you are going through and that it wouldn't hurt to be a little supportive of you in a life-adjustment that must be a little difficult to say the least!

Some people are idiots. You always have the people here on this forum to turn to for understanding when it feels the people around you don't have a clue. It can be very lonely being 18 and pregnant... A lot of people don't understand - but a lot of people on here do!

...You will see in time who are your real friends, who will be there for you, and who the idiots are that you're better off without. Some people do come round in time and are there for you regardless of whether they understand or not, others need to be cut loose I'm afraid.

 

[Reedy]

last night my m8 asked me if i wanted to go out for her birthday, she is going clubing in liverpool but by the time her birthday comes round ill be 25weeks pregnant, so i said i dont think it was such a good idea

You sound very mature for your age & maybe your friend is jealous of that fact bcus you want & love you unborn child very much & she couldnt do that with her own x
I think she is being very rude & quite a cow to you & would ask her what her problem was, she may be worried that she is losing her best friend (just my opinion) but she is going completely the wrong way about it x

Oh & congrats on your pregnancy hope you have a happy & healthy 9 months x x x

 

[LongRoadAhead]

Woah hun I dont know what to say apart from she doesnt really sound like much of a best friend to me!
Everyone takes pregnancy and miscarriage differently and she really went the wrong way about it but maybe theres a part of her that is jelous of you, and the fact that your keeping your baby and she lost hers. She may of acted like she didnt care that she lost her baby but Im sure deep down shes hurt, and upset, who wouldnt be having to go threw such a horrible ordeal. ):
But that is no excuse to treat you this way.
Id say you should talk to her about it and explain how shes making you feel.
When I told my best friend she didnt react very good either and had a go at me for wanting to 'waste my life away' and shes still being a cow about it all and doesnt want to talk to me if I mention my baby which I think is selfish but theres nothing i can do.
If shes upsetting you then tell her and see if she changes
Keep you chin up sweetie
Xxxxxxx

 

[pennysbored]

You know, that sometimes still happens to everyone. I'm 28 along with most of my friends, but when you are on a different path, you are on a different path. I'm amazed at which of my friends have handled my pregnancy well. It hurts when someone you thought you could count on lets you down, but all you can do is focus on those around you who get where you are at. She's being a bitch, and better to find out now then later.

 

[Ju_bubbs]

Whoa, with best friends like that, who needs enemies, eh!? As others has said she just sounds very immature and definately lacks any understainding of responsibility! If you ask me 18 is a perfectly reasonable age to settle down IF thats what you want to do, no one has the right to judge you for it! And well done on not wanting to go out clubbing whilst pregnant.. if you were my best friend I'd be proud of you!

 

[mrscookie]

people like that make me sick... Your better off without some silly little girl influencing your life.
You have your head screwed on by the sound of it, I know alot of people who go out clubbing while pregnant, I made the mistake of ''popping out for my mates birthday'' a few weeks ago... but unfortunatley, what was supposed to be a quiet drink turned into them dragging me from pub to pub, my feet throbbing and them lot hammered while I was on lemonade all night.
I was in a different town to where I lived and had to stick with them as I couldnt afford the taxi home alone, and when I mentioned how I cant cope with the walking and the dancing as my feet hurt I was told ''were going soon'' and you could tell there were eyes rolling.
Dont get roped into anything you dont feel comfortable with babe, I know i would never make that mistake ever again, your comfort, well being and most importantly your baby is the most important thing
xxxx

 

[mmommy22bbe]

Wow, I have a friend like that who is always on my case for "growing up too fast". To me, it sounds as if she is really jealous. It is wrong of her to betray you like that since you have always been there for her. I think you should tell her how you feel. She is being really immature.

 

[Elli21]

sometimes when you go through life changing things you find out who your real friends are hun xx

 

[Beth_18]

Whoa, with best friends like that, who needs enemies, eh!? As others has said she just sounds very immature and definately lacks any understainding of responsibility! If you ask me 18 is a perfectly reasonable age to settle down IF thats what you want to do, no one has the right to judge you for it! And well done on not wanting to go out clubbing whilst pregnant.. if you were my best friend I'd be proud of you!

thankyou so much this really made me smile today
x x x

 

[Beth_18]

thankyou to all that replyed to this. your all lovely on here! x

 

[lammy456]

she is jealous and wanted her baby thats why she is acting that way

 

[Beth_18]

she is jealous and wanted her baby thats why she is acting that way

i know, but me and our other friend offerd to help her what ever dision she made but i think she was waiting for her OH to say lets keep it but he never did.

 

[princess_x0]

Hey!
I'm so sorry your friend is treating you this way! You don't need her. I think maybe she is jealous and scared. Jealous because maybe she regrets doing what she did. And scared because she may think she is losing you, when as I'm sure you can tell her, that she isn't, things are just going to change!
She's being immature and spiteful. And if she couldn't even go and do it properly when she was pregnant. You know, the safe way, get a termination. Then she obviously was way too young to have a baby, actually WAY too young to even have sex. If you can't deal with the consequences then don't do it. That's what I say. Pffft to her!
Your doing what's best for your's and your baby's health. And that's what you should be proud of. Fuck her, and all her little bitchy friends. You are worth ten of them! Don't let them get you down hun xxxx

 

[dizzy65]

wow thats intense i couldnt handle if my bestfriend was doing that too me...

 

[bootyb]

Friends are the ones whu stick wit u in your darkest hr hun.... she pay attention to her... i know its really hard especially as she is your best friend... but sometimes your best friend is your best enemy as they know you most of all nd they know which buttons to press to tick you off... i have learnt that in the last few yrs... jes be proud you made the right decision for you. *HUGs*