Spouses with low sperm count.

Hello everything-

I haven't posted here for a long time but is your DH taking any supplements? We noticed a huge improvement once DH started taking them. You can see many ladies on here had great improvements :hugs: on your ICSI journey. The problem is always the waiting, but in the meanwhile you can continue to try. Good luck on your journey! :dust:
 
Everything - I read your message and am with you. My husband has a v low sperm count. Don't know exact figures but it is under 2 million. Felt shocked and devastated for a while after we had confirmation there was a major problem (took 3 SAs for Drs to confirm). It is hard to cope when you see it happening so easily and naturally for most people. The GP has suggested ISCI for us but we have not seen a fertility specialist yet. Until I'm told there is no hope I will do my best to stay positive, although I do have my bad and sad days.

Managing friendships at this emotional time is particularly difficult. Try and stay breezy and feel free to vent here, happy to be a sounding board. I've found B & B an understanding and friendly place and it does help to talk to people going through similar x
 
Absolutely.. its a shame this thread isn't as active as other threads. All we can do is keep trying to improve those swimmers and hope. xxx
 
Hi girls,

Thanks so much for the responses! Bunny yes we have tried supplements, we persevered for abt a year with too many to mention but unfortunately for us it didn't make any difference and it got to the point he would have rattled I think if he took any more 

Like most of you I'm sure, I have good and bad days, when I feel particularly down I tell myself when it does happen (not if, WHEN - today's a pma day!!) then we'll appreciate it all the more because the waiting has made us realise what a gift it really is...

Thanks for listening ladies and taking the time to post back, I really appreciate it xxx
 
Welcome! Yes, I know the feeling. I have too many moments when I withdraw not only from friends but family and even some activities. It doesn't feel fair especially when you see people who say they don't want there children or parents who are neglectful. I try not to judge...but my heart hurt. Every day I pray a prayer against bitterness. I really do.

Hang in there! WHEN it happens you'll be so surprised. All of us will. :hugs:

Hi girls, hope u don't mind me joining... My Hubby and I been ttc for nearly 2 yrs now, very low sperm count (3million) n motility low too so after much searching and trying different 'wonder tablets' I've kinda accepted it isn't going to happen naturally for us although every month I do still pray for a miracle. We have now had our first icsi appt thru nhs and waiting time is approx another 17 months, at the moment I'm feelin so down, terrified it's never going to be us, another close friend has just gotten pregnant (1st month tryin) n I can feel myself drifting away from my friends thru no fault of theirs simply because it gets harder n harder to deal with our own personal heartache each time. If I was a child I'd be lying on floor stamping feet just now - IT'S NOT FAIR! Hope u all don't mind me ventin here from time to time, my husband is wonderful but I don't like him to see me gettin too upset as I feel he blames himself and that's the last thing I want xx


I think we should start a support thread...or turn this thread into one. I took this as an information thread so I did not post as much. However, a group would be excellent. I see a couple of us regulars bumping into each other from this thread and the varicocele thread too. I see nothing wrong with posting about our journey, general life and doing a tracking heading where we keep track of those who get their BFPs or any other progress. That's the kind of support I am looking for.
Let me know if you all want to do it. I'll see it up. :)


Absolutely.. its a shame this thread isn't as active as other threads. All we can do is keep trying to improve those swimmers and hope. xxx
 
I'm up for it...
I am currently in my fertile period and always struggle how much bd we should do. Have tried every day and every other day. Deciding to just to it every day as have noticed that although count is down it does seem to help with motility. Who knows. Hope it's a good day for most of you xxx
 
Hi ladies

I'm currently on holiday but was checking in to see what's happening and just wanted to say it'd be great to make this a support thread. I'm still surprised to find others who feel exactly the same as I do and it really helps to know you're not the only one. Everything...I totally relate to everything you said in your first post, it was liking reading my own first post on here not that long ago.

I ovulated just at the beginning of our holiday so am waiting for af to start any day now. My rational brain says stop obsessing and just enjoy your holiday!! But its never far from my thoughts wherever I am.

I hope you're all doing ok
Xx
 
Hello girls I agree to make a support thread, I used to come on here alokt, but it seems to have gone dead, thought I would stop by and check and see if anything has picked up. well as for me I am 41 had a tubal reversal in april of last year been trying to concieve for 13 months and still no BFP, Hubby had a SA and results were good except for morphology,hubby goes for a scrotum ultra sound the 21st of this month, and if it comes back ok, then doc is going to do a hsg to check the tubes to make sure they are still opened. If they are they doc says then we will do a IUI. It really has been a long road,and still have not reached the end. Hubbys doc did find a veriocele, but it was extreamly small and not even a issue to fix, sooo am scared that I will never get my BFP, it hurts each and every month to see those BFN. SUPPORT SOUNDS GREAT< HUGS HUGS FRIENDS
 
Hello ladies,

A support group would be great! It makes a difference when you have others who are sharing the same struggles as you are. At the moment I'm waiting for AF to show up and we are hoping to have some sperm frozen in June for our August IVF. In the meanwhile we are not obsessing in trying and just taking it easy.
 
I've subscribed to this thread so I can see when someone has posted, if everyone who is interested does the same that might help to keep the thread alive and we can all chat to each other.

It is difficult to know which threads to subscribe to and I'm kind of collecting them at the moment :dohh:, although this one is particularly relevant for me.

For us, sperm count is so low that I'm not sure we can do all that much to improve it. But we don't want to make a bad situation worse so I'm encouraging hubby to take multivitamin, eat reasonably healthily and not drink too much. Our GP told us not to get stressed about number of times to have sex, just once or twice a week. It looks like it will take a miracle to get preggers naturally so will be looking at emotional rollercoaster of IVF, eek!

Lyns148, hope you are having a wonderful holiday and taking it easy, hope everyone else has had a good day x
 
Hi ladies,

I too would be up for a support thread, I've also subscribed to the thread so will try and check in as much as I can.

Little of bit of info for u all so u can know me a little better, I'm 30 live in Scotland and have been ttc now just under 2 yrs, love wine, Saturday night telly and my cat! Oh and my Hubby lol, we have had our 1st hospital appt at Glasgow royal and go back on 6th June for hubby's genetic testing results (we were told a count continuously under 5 million can sometimes point to a chromosome problem) after that providing alls well with his tests we should be gettin our icsi towards the end of next year, that is if it hasn't already happened all on it own before then, I'm always hoping for our own little miracle.

Xxx
 
Hi Everyone! Its been a while since I last posted on here, but we havent really had much news, and have mostly been playing the appointment waiting game :/

However we have finally got our first appointment with a fertility clinic on the 28th May - I cant wait to get going!

To anyone on the NHS though, its worth giving clinics a ring and see if they get any cancellations, if the date you have been given isnt ideal?

Our original appointment was for the 9th July, but I rang them up about it because I am 35 in August, and thats our PCT's cut off for being able to apply for NHS funding if you go for IVF. I explained all this to the clinic and she was soo understanding - basically I had to keep ringing her back every few days, and eventually they got a cancellation and moved us forward :D Worth a shot?!

Aside from that I havent got much other news, OH has been taking vits, wearing boxers, abstaining from hot baths LOL and he has even started acupuncture and is about to start some additional supplements too - if this lot hasnt made a difference I dont think anything will! I'm hoping we will get a 2nd SA done during/after our appointment as I really want to know if its done anything to help.

Anyway, I'm just off to catch up on what Ive missed - but tonnes of luck and baby dust to you all!!
 
Good Morning, Ladies! :flower:

I want to apologize for being away from the board for a while. The last few weeks have been crazy.

On April 30th, my DH graduated from the Nuclear Engineering Technology program at our local technical college. This was a brand new program which started in September 2010. He already had his Bachelor of Science in Physics with a Chemistry and Math minor from our local 4-year college. On May 7th, he started his internship at a nearby nuclear plant. I am extremely proud of him. :amartass:

Graduation was at 7:00 pm, but Hubby had to be there no later than 5:15 pm. We made sure we left early to make sure to have plenty of time with traffic.

We were almost to the Civic Center and had to stop at a red light about 5 to 10 minutes up the road. We were stopped right next to the college where I work at the main library. As the light was going to turn green, Hubby put his foot on the gas and nothing happened.

I had no idea that anything was wrong and thought that DH didn't realize that the light had changed. Then I hear him saying, "Oh, no! What's going on?"

The car was trying to turn over but couldn't. The "crossing guard" they have at that corner finally came over and full of attitude and was as stupid as a person can get. He kept saying that we had to move and Hubby kept telling him and showing him that the car wouldn't go. You would think we did this to make his day difficult.

He finally called Public Safety. They came and called a tow truck for us. They were nice enough to drive us the few minutes left down to the Civic Center. I told DH how ironic it was that after all the federal background checks he had just gone through, he arrives at graduation in a police car. LOL!

Hubby got there right before 5. We thought we had a way home with a classmate of Hubby's but we got separated from her. We stood out in front of the Civic Center for a while until another classmate of Hubby's came swinging by because he was wondered if we made it home all right. He gave us a ride home and picked Hubby back up for their exam the next morning. Gave him a ride back home afterwards, too.

I thought I knew what happened with DH's car. He takes it to the dealership in Thomson for servicing. For a few months, they've encouraged us to have the timing belt changed. It would cost about $900 to replace. I was trying to wait until we had some more money in the bank. I had a bad feeling the belt finally went.

We had the car towed to a local repair shop we’ve done business with before. They called me the next morning and told me that the belt had either broken or slipped. He asked if we were moving when it happened. I told him that we were stopped at a light. He told us that probably was the best then because when the belt broke, if it bent any valves, then we would have a bill of over $2000.

They called back later in the afternoon. God was continuing to look out for us because no valves were broken. They would replace the timing belt, the water pump, and the serpentine belt. The thermostat was starting to go bad, so it would be replaced. Also they noticed a fuel line leaking on the back wall. They would replace it at no cost for us. It would be ready Thursday.

Thursday morning they called and said that the fan wasn't coming on at low speeds. The fan needs to be replaced.

Hubby picked the car up Thursday afternoon. All the repairs came to $1673.46. :shock: :sad2:

My last period started on April 20th, so I’m waiting to see if I’ll still be on a 28 day cycle this month. If I am then I should start this Saturday. I haven’t had any PMS symptoms until late Tuesday afternoon. My nipples were “at attention” and very sore. (My nipples don’t usually stick out.) Sorry if this is TMI! :blush:

Yesterday and this morning, I woke up with a lower backache and my nipples still sore. What surprised me was my breasts were sore. I’ve only had that as a PMS symptom twice since I began menstruating. By the time I got to work, I was shocked at how sore and swollen they were. The swelling and soreness has been coming and going all day.

I’ve been constipated or not going very much at all for about a week now. Lots of darn gas though.

Putting on more weight and going to sleep at the drop of a hat. Poor DH has the worst time trying to wake me up to get a shower so I can go to bed. I know I can thank my Adult Growth Hormone Deficiency for all that. I haven’t been giving myself the nightly shots as I should. I think my level of growth hormone has plummeted again. :sleep:

I tested using the ovulation strips, starting the day after my period ended. I did see a second line after a few strips, but, this time, I never saw a definite second line. The three or four times, I saw the line it was always faint. I’m guessing I didn’t ovulate this cycle.

I did try a couple of things differently this time. I’ve used the Instead Softcups before, but I would have hubby put one in directly after BD. This time, we waited about 10 minutes and then he put one in.

Also, DH usually would keep thrusting while he ejaculated. This time I asked him to just push in as far as possible and stay still until he felt he had finished. Then I asked him to finish thrusting to make sure everything had come out. :sex:

I’m still taking the Fertility Blend For Women. I finished my first bottle on May 13th.

Hubby and I last BD’d on May 13th. That was his 38th birthday. Afterwards, I told him how wonderful it would be if we had just created another birthday to celebrate. He got misty eyed. :cry: (I forgot that it was Mother’s Day, too.)
 
Ladies, I am so glad we opted to make this a support thread. Is Tiffy still around or is there anyway for us to track BFPs?

Also where are you all in your plans of action?

Right now dh is taking zinc only. We both plan to take fertilaid starting next month I think. Also we just stopped actively TTc and went to NTNP for awhile as we felt ttc was getting a bit stressful. Also trying to live a bit healthier.

Basically we're taking a very conservative approach right now. We've been put on hold for treatment by two FS. They want dh sperm count up and my weight down before we proceed forward.
..so right now natural BFP is all we have as hope right now.
 
Hi ladies, I'm new here to BnB and to this thread....little older, but only a few years, 27 to be exact :)
We have been TTC for about 14 months, I have a child from a previous relationship but DH has none. We just had a SA done by my ob-gyn recently, and they didn't specify all of the results like you got, she said the urologist will go over those with us next month :-/ but basically, 97% were dead, and the other 3% had low motility. We go to urology next month, hopefully they can tell us what's wrong of if it is fixable. I haven't had a chance to research much of anything seeing as we just found this out. Oh, those were the results to his second SA, the first one was the same thing, ordered by same dr.
He does have a few health issues, was diagnosed with PKD (polycystic kidney disease) right after he was discharged from the army 16 months ago, but kidney dr said that shouldn't affect anything, unless his kidneys were shutting down...he gets slight testicular pain off and on about once a month, but his urologist and GP at the VA hospital found nothing on the ultrasound(s) they have ordered, or so they have told us.
Several of his buddies he went on tour with have came back sterile. He has heard that the malaria medication they gave him to prevent it aided in sterility.
It's a mess. We stuck with the VA for so long after his discharge, and dr's on base bc you expect them to be some of the best...but now I'm wishing when we started trying he would have got checked out by an outside dr.
Sorry this was so long, I don't have a lot of people to vent to....many of my friends/family are judgemental or they are preggers and think I'm being....jealous or spiteful.
 
Welcome lacilyn! :hugs: sweetie. I'm sorry you are going through this. There are medications that can lower your sperm count. Have you tried any supplements? Or have you tried looking up the medication they gave him for malaria to see if it does cause any sterility? Don't worry about venting, that is why we have these forums. Best of luck to you.
 
We ordered FertilAid just yesterday. We had no idea anything was for sure wrong until Tuesday. I mean, after the first SA, the dr said it was possibility that there was an infection since white blode count was high, or that the lab screwed up. Me being the ever optimistic, I chose to think it was a fluke. So I just ordered FertilAid yesterday but dh is hesitant to take anything the dr doesnt prescribe. Though if i have to grind them up in his coffee I will! LOL jk. maybe. idk. I have looked into the malaria medication but everything I read contradicts everything. If that makes any sense. I am going to do a little bit more research into that! I will be sure to keep you posted!
 
Lacilyn,

Welcome to the board! :hugs:

My DH takes Fertility Blend For Men. He had been taking it for a few months when I came across MotilityBoost and CountBoost. Both state that they are formulated to take along with FertilAid. Hubby takes them with his Fertility Blend. Maybe taking these two with the FertilAid will help your husband.

https://www.fairhavenhealth.com/motilityboost.html

https://www.fairhavenhealth.com/countboost.html

We have wonderful ladies here on the board and we hope we can be a source of hope, friendship, and knowledge for you. Praying for you. [-o&lt;
 
Thanks so much GeorgiaBelle, I will be looking into motility boost. We want another baby so much. It is so nice to be able to talk to women on here without being judged :) So, he should take the fertilaid, alond with motility boost and the count boost?
 

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