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....i hope its still early for you.....i know you must feel emotionally worn out though
krissy - a little late, but i agree....a good cry every now and then is just helpful! sometimes you may not even know why you are upset or crying, but you feel better afterwards (its like toddlers throwing tantrums when they are utterly exhausted haha)
so ER was a little more physically draining than I thought - I kind of wonder if I have a touch of OHSS. By day 6 of stims I was feeling a lot of heaviness.....and by day 8 and 9, I had to come home after work and just lay down because I was having so much heaviness and twinges of pain.
Yesterday I had a lot more pain afterwards than I thought (and I tend to think I have a high pain tolerance ? maybe not ?). In the recovery room I need a dose of IV medicine just to take the edge off, as I was sitting with my knees to my chest from the cramping. I wasn't crying or moaning but I just could - not - get - comfortable! Thankfully they gave me a rx for a stronger pain medicine, and I needed to take that twice yesterday to help take the edge off and sleep.
This am, my lower abd feels better (although still tender if you press on my ovaries), but I have this diffuse discomfort throughout my abdomen.
I am trying to take it easy and rest a lot, as we are doing a fresh transfer. Hopefully I will start feeling better in the next few days. Using tylenol, heat packs, rest, and the stronger medicine only if needed.
Maybe I just over did it during stims? I was working a lot, so I could have a lighter work week this week before transfer (very thankful for that right now)!
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Also having a hard time between 1 and 2 embryo transfer. I am trying to think about it more as the clock is ticking (if we have enough healthy ones to transfer, too). My doctor is pretty conservative, and she has said she will most likely recommend a single embryo transfer, as we are young, its our first IVF cycle, we responded well to stims, and our lab work is straightforward.
However, another dr in the practice has said 1-2.
My dr is actually pregnant from IVF, and is due any day (we didn't think she would see me towards the end of stims or retrieval - but she did my retrieval yesterday!). So, I may have another dr in the practice doing the transfer.
We are paying out of pocket for everything, and neither of us is interested in a ton of debt because we are desperate for a biologic child. We have talked about adoption if conceiving on own just isn't happening. Right now, we have obviously agreed to at least one fresh IVF, and we are hopeful that we will have enough embryos so we can do one frozen IVF. From there though, if we still don't have a "reason" why things aren't working, I am not sure we are going to want to still move forward physically/emotionally/financially. We will cross that bridge when we get there.
The point of all that is.......given our financial limitations with multiple cycles of IVF, my HEART wants the best chance, and my HEART wants two embryos to transfer.
However, my HEAD says to go with my dr and transfer one.....who has taken GREAT care of me.....I trust her 100% and she has gotten us this far, with a great stim.
DH and I are both in the medical field, so we know some of the problems associated with twin pregnancy and the increased risks. But, to be honest, despite our background, we are not objective during this. Plus, reproductive endocrinology and infertility is the opposite end of our specialities.
I am expected a call today with the fertilization report, but after today, we may not hear from them. If there are problems with the embryos progressing, they will call us for a day 3 transfer.
I need to know, going in on Saturday, what we are going to do.
Sigh.....sorry for the long post.....I am just so absolutely torn! There are so many decisions during IVF that many people will never have to think about! Like what will happen to your frozen embryos if one spouse dies, or you get divorced ..... I mean, what people think about that stuff and have to make decisions on that?!