hellodarling
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So, I'm 37, hubs is military and gone a lot, will be gone for significant period of time soon. We have been trying for over a year, I'm borderline perimenopausal, cycles range from 16 days to 53 days. I"m not PCOS and I do get functional cysts so it looks like I ovulate every now and then. The first few months of negatives, in my mind I was like "ok, well, next month!" And never made a big deal out of it.
Last month, month 11, I mentioned to my husband "I"m just surprised and bummed it hasn't happened yet", thinking well, "next month for sure!"
So, I'm not completely out yet but AF doesn't feel like she's anywhere around, today I tested (assuming it was a 29 day cycle, today would have been AF showing), BFN. It could be another 53 day cycle for all I know though.
It starting to get to me. I always thought "next month" but our chances of "next month" are terminating and now, the reality of that is setting in.
I finally told him today that it's getting to me. I'm sad and it's more than disappointing now. He didn't really respond, I think that's because feelings are gross. lol... He's said previously that maybe it's him, maybe his sperm is no good. I need him to get in and get tested but there's not time for that with his schedule. I don't know how much to press to be honest, bc I never wanted this to become stressful; however, it's becoming more and more that way.
How much do you tell your hubby's or SO's about how you're feeling? Especially the disappointment and sadness, maybe even the depression that sets in?
How do you cope with the bummers?
Last month, month 11, I mentioned to my husband "I"m just surprised and bummed it hasn't happened yet", thinking well, "next month for sure!"
So, I'm not completely out yet but AF doesn't feel like she's anywhere around, today I tested (assuming it was a 29 day cycle, today would have been AF showing), BFN. It could be another 53 day cycle for all I know though.
It starting to get to me. I always thought "next month" but our chances of "next month" are terminating and now, the reality of that is setting in.
I finally told him today that it's getting to me. I'm sad and it's more than disappointing now. He didn't really respond, I think that's because feelings are gross. lol... He's said previously that maybe it's him, maybe his sperm is no good. I need him to get in and get tested but there's not time for that with his schedule. I don't know how much to press to be honest, bc I never wanted this to become stressful; however, it's becoming more and more that way.
How much do you tell your hubby's or SO's about how you're feeling? Especially the disappointment and sadness, maybe even the depression that sets in?
How do you cope with the bummers?