morag99
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Hi everyone,
I just need to get some opinions on how I feel as I am not sure if I am worrying for nothing, or if I am being selfish?
I am booked in for csection, so know when my baby will be here..anyway, it's my OH's first child and first grandchild on his side, although I do have a DD. We asked his mum if she wanted to come and stay for a few weeks after the baby to help out (she lives in another country) as OH can only take 1 week off work. Anyway...since then, things have sort of snowballed, his sister and dad also live in other countries, and his sis is wanting to come and stay, it hasnt been arranged yet but she has asked. And I found out on Friday that his dad has booked to come and stay for 4 days on the day I get out of hospital!
We dont even have the room for 2 of them, nevermind 3 and now I am worried that my DD will have to give up her bed, which I really dont want because it will be strange enough for her to cope with having LO arrive, I dont want her to feel like she is being made to give up her room.
Also, my own dad who only lives 5 mins away is now talking like he is going to be at my house every day, and my friend last night was saying she will have to change her shifts at work so she can come to the hospital!
I just feel so smothered already, and the baby isnt even here yet! I am the type of person that likes to have my own space anyway, and I struggle with people being over bearing and feeling like I cant be myself in my own house.
What do I do ladies? Do I just grin and bare it and not be selfish? I dont want to say they cant come but I am feeling so overwhelmed with it all, and I am going to get no time at all with my OH and DD on our own being a new family
I just need to get some opinions on how I feel as I am not sure if I am worrying for nothing, or if I am being selfish?
I am booked in for csection, so know when my baby will be here..anyway, it's my OH's first child and first grandchild on his side, although I do have a DD. We asked his mum if she wanted to come and stay for a few weeks after the baby to help out (she lives in another country) as OH can only take 1 week off work. Anyway...since then, things have sort of snowballed, his sister and dad also live in other countries, and his sis is wanting to come and stay, it hasnt been arranged yet but she has asked. And I found out on Friday that his dad has booked to come and stay for 4 days on the day I get out of hospital!
We dont even have the room for 2 of them, nevermind 3 and now I am worried that my DD will have to give up her bed, which I really dont want because it will be strange enough for her to cope with having LO arrive, I dont want her to feel like she is being made to give up her room.
Also, my own dad who only lives 5 mins away is now talking like he is going to be at my house every day, and my friend last night was saying she will have to change her shifts at work so she can come to the hospital!
I just feel so smothered already, and the baby isnt even here yet! I am the type of person that likes to have my own space anyway, and I struggle with people being over bearing and feeling like I cant be myself in my own house.
What do I do ladies? Do I just grin and bare it and not be selfish? I dont want to say they cant come but I am feeling so overwhelmed with it all, and I am going to get no time at all with my OH and DD on our own being a new family