Stressing about gender

CrazyMumma

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So this is mine and DH's first together - we each have a daughter from a previous relationship.

We decided before we even conceived to stay Team Yellow - thinking that we would have 1-2 more after this one.

Unfortunately - my pelvis is not coping with the pregnancy, I was on crutches at 11 weeks, am now using an old lady walker and wheelchair. I cannot drive as my legs 'lock' and spasm. My left leg sits at least an inch shorter than it should be, and I am in pain 24/7. No way am I doing this again.

Therein lies my problem - ever since we realized this would be our last I have been stressing. I want a son. I want a brother for our girls and a son for my husband. If this one is a boy I will be content without having more - but if its a girl.....

I don't want to feel incomplete for the rest of our lives :(
 
Hugs, it's so hard knowing it's your last shot. There is always the option to adopt a son later but that isn't for everyone. I can understand how you feel but in reverse. I want to give my sons a sister, and with 4 of them already it's looking increasingly unlikely.
 
I felt like this too. I will be 41, so I just don't think another is in the cards for us. We are having our 3rd boy. I was sad at first, but I am ok with it now. I am pretty excited to meet the little guy. The only thing giving me mixed feelings is that I know I would be over the moon if it was a girl. So although I am pleased to be having another sweet son, I am not feeling the same as if I thought it was a girl YKWIM? We were team yellow with our first 2 and had planned on it this time too, but a glitch meant we found out by accident that our 3rd is a boy. I was super bummed to know at first, but now I am kind of happy knowing. If you are really struggling, perhaps you want to reconsider staying team yellow?
 

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