Struggling with the wait

[berniebiron87]

Hi ladies,

I'm sorry I just need to vent a bit....

It's been a week since my scan. I was meant to be 9+3 (by my lmp) but baby was measuring 5+5 with no heartbeat. Next scan is next Thursday. I'm really struggling with the wait. The MW and specialist have told me there is every chance baby is just measuring a tad small and that my dates are off. They have called it an "uncertain viability" pregnancy but when I spoke to them, they seem optimistic. Continue with my folic acid ect. Even booked my next antenatal appointment.

By my dates I should now be 10+3. I've not had any bleeding or cramps. But also no pregnancy symptoms either. A HPT still gives a very strong positive. If I've had a missed miscarriage, surely by now I would be showing signs thaty pregnancy has failed? If my baby died 5 weeks ago shouldn't something be happening by now? I'm so frightened and frustrated.

I just needed to vent sorry...

 

[shannonleigh]

that does sound a tad strange, but with missed miscarriages you never know..the best way to cope for me when i had to wait for my news was to expect the worse, i sunk it into my head that it's happened and I learnt to accept it, but I carried that tiny bit of hope with me just incase, unfortunately I was right and I did suffer a missed miscarriage but that doesn't happen in every circumstance, if you expect the worse and it ends up being good news you'll be shocked, over the moon because you wouldn't have expected it, if it's bad news you've already prepared yourself. I really hope things do go well for you and I've read so many stories like this before which have turned out fine and it's just down to being out on dates, I have my fingers crossed for you.

 

[junebaby08]

your dates are probably just off same thing with me I'm supposed to be over 6 weeks but I know I'm not because I have irregular cycles, dont give up yet

 

[berniebiron87]

Thank you for the kind words

Sorry to hear of your loss shannon

I've convinced myself it will be bad news. I look at my folic acid and think what's the point. Then part of me says if baby is ok you'll regret it! Argh just want it to be next week already.

I was on the pill so no telling when I ovulated and I when I got a faint positive it was on a 20ml sensitive test. The ultrasound tech *could* have measured slightly wrong. I *could* have been 6ish weeks.

There are just so many factors and what ifs.

Thanks for letting me vent

 

[mel28nicole]

I don't want to be a Debbie downer but when I had my MMC I was suppose to be 14 weeks and the baby was measuring 8 weeks with no heart beat. I was going on 6 weeks since the baby stopped growing and I showed no signs of a miscarriage at all

Based on your LMP when did you get a positive on a HPT? It could be possible that your dates aren't right but if you got a positive a while ago, it could be a MMC. but if you just got the positive a couple weeks ago, then the measurements could be right

 

[berniebiron87]

Don't worry about being a downer! I appreciate the honesty

Well according to the scan date I would have been 1 week pregnant when I got my positive. This is my main reason I'm not clinging on to the hope everything will be ok. It sounds cold but if I've had a MMC I just want it all to be over. Feels like I'm trapped in a horrible nightmare.

 

[mel28nicole]

I know how you feel sweetie. I went to my appointment at 13+6 and they couldn't hear the heartbeat. They kept telling me very thing fine, might just have trouble because I have more weight in my stomach. I knew something was wrong. Went to the ultrasound and the tech couldn't see anything abdominally so that pretty much confirmed it to me. Vaginally she said it looked about 8 weeks. I had a D&C the next morning to end it all. I was a mess for a few weeks but I stayed positive and I got pregnant again 3 months later. Don't give up hope hun

 

[dan-o]

Don't worry about being a downer! I appreciate the honesty

Well according to the scan date I would have been 1 week pregnant when I got my positive. This is my main reason I'm not clinging on to the hope everything will be ok. It sounds cold but if I've had a MMC I just want it all to be over. Feels like I'm trapped in a horrible nightmare.

If you mean 1 week since conception, then that's about right for a faint positive!! Could just be your dates!

 

[skinnysmrs]

I am useless with dates etc, waiting on an early scan myself.

Didnt wanna read and run. I am thinking of you and hope and pray that you will be okay and all will be alright. xx

 

[berniebiron87]

Thank you and sending my good luck for your scan

I'm have a bad day. The girl (I use the term loosely) my husband is having an affair with told me I was a terrible person for bringing a child into the world and that it is ruining THEIR relationship. Apparently she doesn't know I may have had a MMC but I still can't believe her vile attitude.

The worst thing is my husband is refusing to call her on it