Support-Failed IVF can't do another??

[KittyCat82]

Nell thank you. You are one of the only people to acknowledge how hard it is. She keeps wanting to meet up and I just can't face it right now. I think if it had been me who was successful I'd have been more sensitive x

 

[KittyCat82]

Titi-did the ivf give you any answers as to why you haven't conceived yet? We are starting to think maybe my amh is bit low and could be egg quality?? It's so damn frustrating! The embryos last time were good quality though..x

 

[_Nell]

Titi and Kitty - it's so isolating isn't it? hard enough that you have to go through this, then you find a true buddy, only to sadly be left behind a little.

Jazavac - I know my amh makes no sense, that's why i had it tested 3 times, in disbelief and denial i suppose. It's reassuring to hear from someone else who's other tests don't really match up tbh.

 

[Jazavac]

Yeah, we tested mine twice because it simply made no sense for it to be so low once everything else came back normal. That's why I'm really starting to think the test itself is too new for everyone to know what exactly it is. But even our RE says that it can't be analyzed on its own because it doesn't say enough, or even much at all. In our case, he said, it's there to remind us that we shouldn't wait with TTC if we want to be on the safe(r) side and that we might experience some really shitty outcomes with stimulation and egg retrieval, where the latter is maybe even just in theory because of my good tests.

Frustrating!

 

[_Nell]

Jazavac - I was told not to wait too due to my amh, i had just 6months of hard ttc (with about 6mths of NTNP before). I'm glad i followed that advice even though i still don't have my bfp. My first ivf only 2 of 24 eggs fertilized, we had no sperm issues at all so it was a total surprise. It's a signal problem between the eggs and sperm apparently, they just sat together in the petri dish with no interest in each other it seems!. I have a theory that my eggs aren't sending out the 'come fertilize me' signal and similarly they aren't giving off the anti-mullerian hormone they should too. My eggs are mute, but thakfully look pretty and healthy LOL

i agree with you the test is just too new to be robust and to know exactly what it means.

 

[Jazavac]

I plan to insist on ICSI, if we do decided to take the IVF route and if we end up with any eggs, to begin with. That'd be for just-in-case purposes, I suppose.

I don't know. I guess I'm stupidly hoping for a miracle. I mean, I laugh because I don't particularly believe in them.

 

[_Nell]

I wish I had done ICSI from the off-set, if i knew then what i know now about ivf as the saying goes.

We all hope for a miracle, it's totally normal and it seems nothing is impossible with infertility as some people do get their miracle.

I'm a very logical, numbers and stats sort of person, but I still can't not try naturally....what if the month we didn't was THE month eh?

 

[Jazavac]

Yeah, that's how I feel about it. I love my numbers and stats, but... I mean, we're not infertile, we just have some issues, which are not even fully identified. After all, a low AMH woman's best bet is natural conception, they say.

Every once in a while I do feel like I should give up charting, temping, doing whatever, but then again, it'd probably be stupid to do so, as the effor is not really that big; it takes only a couple of minutes of my time on a daily basis and likely doesn't add up any more stress to my everyday life (and this is under assumption that stress actually might matter, which I don't really believe in).

 

[Titi]

Titi-did the ivf give you any answers as to why you haven't conceived yet? We are starting to think maybe my amh is bit low and could be egg quality?? It's so damn frustrating! The embryos last time were good quality though..x

no-it only gave us insight into everything being better than we thought. My lining stayed great-the eggs under microscope looked of great quality and everything we wanted to fertilize did on their own!!

 

[KittyCat82]

Titi that is the same with us-very frustrating. Because of this we were told this time to presume it was just luck (not particularly comforting)but this time we are going to try to get a few more (as I didn't respond so well) and get them to blast as apparently this can reveal a few more issues at this stage. My friend had unexplained for 5 years and took 2 ivf's to have number one then conceived number 2 naturally within 2 months . I know it's another 'success story' but it shows that just cos round one doesn't work doesn't mean it won't happen x

 

[Titi]

ha ha Kitty that's the exact same thing with a friend of mine. They tried for FIVE years and spent $30,000 on IVF to get number 1 only to get a surprise natural bfp for number 2 when the first one was about 1 year old!!!

But I always wonder if that means she would have eventually gotten pg naturally, or if your body just needs to know what it's supposed to be doing, and once you have one-it gets it!!

 

[hopeful_in_La]

hi there....are you still trying? just turned 36 & got 2nd bfn from frozen ivf today (never got to do a fresh bc i had hyperstim of the ovaries). 1st frozen got bfp only to miscarry a few days later. hubby & i have been trying since 2008. started fertility tx last yr - 3 failed iui. could really use a buddy.