Teen Dad To Be Worried About Gender

[BeckHanson]

Well my girlfriend is pregnant (we are both 17) and will be finding out the gender tomorrow. I am nervous with myself because I really want a girl but will be fine with a boy, but if it is a boy I am scared I'll be disappointed and I don't want to remember being disappointed with that for my kid's sake? Is it alright to be disappointed with your baby's sex?

 

[ClairAye]

It is surprisingly normal, but you'll love your baby no matter what

We didn't find out the sex and I swear I could not have accepted having a girl to begin with, I NEEDED a boy, but now I'd love a girl and I know that if he was a girl I would have loved him just as much

 

[BeckHanson]

The funny thing is everyone just assumes I want a boy because I'm the dad, but I don't. Me and my girlfriend (fiancé actually) both want a girl qnd it worries her too that she'll be disappointed.

 

[ClairAye]

It normally wares off (unless in serious gender disappointment) as you get used to the idea, then you won't be able to imagine it any other way

 

[mayb_baby]

I don't think you will be disappointed when you see your LO on the scanning machine, as soon as you see them and they determine your baby healthy, excitement usually sets in regardless of gender
Just think of all the pros of either sex
Good Luck

 

[Court and bub]

I just had my gender scan and I really wanted a baby girl but I found out it was a baby boy I wasn't disappointed I was just so happy that my baby was healthy you will love your baby no matter what

 

[iluvmyfamily]

You ever heard of people set on one gender and not wanting to even think of having the other gender?? Most women I know love little baby boys. Me, I only wanted girls. I have 2 girls, 2 boys. After I found out I was having a boy in my 4th pregnancy (3rd was a miscarriage), I was upset but happy for DH. As time went on I grew used to the fact we were having a boy. Once he was born it was fine. With my 5th pregnancy I was hoping for a girl but then I realized we have 2 girls, 1 boy. It'd be nice to have another boy for DH. But when I found out it was a boy I won't lie, I got very upset. I was SO SURE It was a girl. Now that I have my 9 month old baby boy in my life, I could NOT even for a split second imagine my life without him and he's just meant to be my baby boy. So I do think you and your fiance will be ok if it's not a little girl. It may take some time but you'll be ok.

 

[lunar]

Initially, I really, really wanted a girl. I thought I'd be disappointed too if I had a boy. However, the moment I saw my son move around on the ultra sound machine, gender didn't matter at all.. I was so happy that he was healthy, in the end, the gender didn't matter at all. I love my son, and I couldn't imagine a girl now!

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

It is more common than you'd think. I was so sure I was having a boy with my first, I was shocked when I found out it was a girl, but happy. I love my little girl. good luck!! Either gender, you really will be over the moon

 

[MummyMana]

I had my heart set on my first being a boy, but now I know she's a girl I couldn't picture it any other way. My partner was made up that we're having a girl and so am I tbh, I still want a little boy but I wouldn't want to change that I'm having a girl this time

 

[lizmageeful]

(hope it went well, but just in case, there is a gender disappointment forum on here that is really helpful and supportive. )

 

[mummytokeelie]

my oh really wanted a boy and yes he was a bit disappointed when he found out she was a girl but hes a fantastic dad and she adores him no matter what gender you have you will love them don't feel guilty if you feel a bit disappointed xx

 

[jozylynn896]

I wanted a boy SO bad. Thank God I am because I feel I would have been SO disappointed with a girl!
I know exactly how you feel.
I hope you get a beautiful healthy baby girl

 

[BeckHanson]

Just wanted to tell you guys it's a girl!!!
You have no clue how happy I am
The news literally made me cry.

 

[lizmageeful]

Congrats on being team pink!
I find it interesting how into it fathers get about having baby girls. My OH is the same way, super excited that its a girl.

 

[jozylynn896]

Aw congrats, happy you got your baby girl

 

[teenmommy15]

its okay to be disappointed about the sex. i really wanted a boy and got a girl its okay to be disappointed because you'll eventually come to terms with it and be happy

 

[fl00b]

I wanted a girl with Finley but OH wanted a boy. I was a bit disappointed but honestly I'm so happy I had a little boy you'll love him/her no matter what

 

[mayb_baby]

So glad you weren't disappointed and congratulations on team

 

[mother_of2]

The funny thing is everyone just assumes I want a boy because I'm the dad, but I don't. Me and my girlfriend (fiancé actually) both want a girl qnd it worries her too that she'll be disappointed.

I think it's nice that you want a girl first. My husband wants a girl first which is surprising since most men want a boy. It's a nice change of pace. I wonder what makes men desire a boy first. I know it's unfortunately the reason why so many girls are not wanted in other countries due to a one child policy.