The Disabled Mummy's Group

[Nanaki]

Angel2Fire, I am near you... I am from Burton On Trent. Original from Heanor, Derbyshire, then moved to Derby then moved to Burton!

That's strange, I woke up really miserable and angry for no reasons and got teary this morning, because I am really fed up with things, also headaches on the top of it! My friend thinks I might have PND? Also my hubby had to go to chemist to see if there is another way to get my headaches to go away, got this 4Head that put on ur head.

x

 

[sophxx]

I'm from be Manchester! X

 

[Abblebubba]

How are all you girls tonight?​

 

[ShadowRat]

:wave: hey girlies

I'm from Devon, so not so close to you all, but that's ok: I'd be waaaay too shy for a meet up anyway probably!!

Angel, I went to parentcraft classes before Vincent was born, but haven't been to any groups as such. I was the only one in the parentcraft classes in a wheelchair, but I don't think people treated me differently really

We took Vincent swimming today for the first time and he loooved it!! And I had my first acupuncture session today too, it was really good, he only did my right arm but I definitely feel the effects! I hope it lasts for a good few days, it's great

So to answer your question Abble honey, I'm grrreat tonight! Hehehe...
You ??

Shadow xx

 

[ShadowRat]

Hey girlies, how are we all? I'm counting down the days till I get my shiny new EPIOC, can't wait!!

Hope those of you suffering with PND are feeling okay today I'm thinking of you all.

Shadow xx

 

[Abblebubba]

Heya shadow

I couldnt feel more on my own today i feel awful, im so upset and so alone and my boyfriend just isnt helping with tyler and i just want to sit and cry.

I hope you are ok?
maybe a dumb question but whats a EPIOC?​

 

[ShadowRat]

Oh Abble my love, huge big for you sweetheart, wish I could come round and keep you company... We're always just a PM away on here, please do feel free to have a rant or anything whenever you need to... I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend isn't helping enough, maybe you need to have a chat with him and let him know that you need more from him?

P.S. EPIOC = Electric Powered Indoor/Outdoor Chair (wheelchair) xxx

 

[stephwiggy]

Heya shadow

I couldnt feel more on my own today i feel awful, im so upset and so alone and my boyfriend just isnt helping with tyler and i just want to sit and cry.

I hope you are ok?
maybe a dumb question but whats a EPIOC?​

hun we will arrange a meet asap - altho will have to wait till this stinking cold i have is gone !!

huuuge hugs

 

[ShadowRat]

Evening ladies, how are we all? Abble, hope you're feeling a little better today... Snuggle that gorgeous little guy and try to take it easy sweetie

My acupuncture has worn off after about 3 days, which is less than I'd hoped but hopefully next time I will be able to make it last a bit longer by doing some electro stuff (sounds a bit scary! But apparently he basically hooks the needles up to an electric pulse machine and apparently it'll make the effects stronger and last longer)
I'm also stupidly fatigued today, just totally heavy and exhausted for no good reason I get it quite a lot, but hadn't had it this bad for a good few weeks. Hopefully a good night's sleep will reset me a bit!

Love to all

Shadow xx

 

[Nanaki]

Hello Hello, sorry I wasnt been on here for few days. Been done the baby's clothes washed, and still counting down the days to the baby's due date! I am getting bigger each day! My friends asked if I am able to walk cuz I looks so huge, I said yes, I am able to walk but not long time. And my Bump has dropped and the baby's head is now engaged. I wanted the baby to come out now! Nothing major going to happen yet!!! I am getting tired and cant do much things I did like to do, let alone the kittens come up to me and purring! Love to you all xxxxx

 

[ShadowRat]

Awww Nanaki, in no time at all you'll be looking back on being pregnant and it'll seem like an eternity ago!! It did for me, anyway!! No matter how prepared you are, it's still such a massive life change, everything will be different (But good!!)
I remember washing all of Vincent's clothes before he was born, it's so much fun to see them all drying on the line hehe!! Hope you're not getting too bored or too painful, hang on in there, your little one will be with you soooo soon now!

Shadow xxx

 

[Nanaki]

Thanks Shadow, for that. I hate to be waiting for the baby to come cuz it is a waiting game! We are trying anything to get it going like get contractions starting... But it is not easy really I guess. xxx

 

[ShadowRat]

SEX!!!!! I think I've heard that that's the only one that really works!!! I'm afraid I had a caesarean (cos of my condition) so can't help you much with tips etc! xxx

 

[Abblebubba]

Cuddles to everyone hope you are all feeling a lot better than me my PND is making me an emotional trainwreck, its killing me.

Yesterday i finally ralised that im useless.
Ok so i woke up, and i fely horrible i hadnt dressed my son in couple of days my mum had done it for me before i woke up.
So i said to my mum 'im going to dress tyler this morning' so she sais 'Fine do what you like you want to do it all yourself do it' see im in a wheelchair so she helps with tyler a lot.
she put him down and went down stairs, i got all tylers clothes together and then realized the nappies were down stairs so i put tyler in his cot where he couldnt fall out ect. and went downstairs i then asked my mum to go get tyler and bring him down as i cant carry him safely down the stairs.
she says no you wanted to do it all yourself you do it.
tyler was then crying upstairs for 5 mins when she finally decided to go get him.
She put him down for me to dress inbetween calling me a stupid cow, usless ect
Then when i was dressing him he was just screaming he hated me. i know he did

i was crying my eyes out trying to dress him and i was heartbroken that he was just crying, he was hungry and i just felt usless.
My mum came in and picked him up and told me i cant look after him properly all by myself so i shouldnt try, said hes beter off without me.
I was silenced and fell apart inside i love my son to bits and i try sooo hard for him, i cant do everything on my own no, but i do try with all my life.
I dont want him to hate me.
This probably sounds so muddled up but im just soo upset.
I feel inadequate and usless after all i went through to bring him in this world and im hardly any use to him.

Sorry to moan at you all i just feel awful.​

 

[stephwiggy]

you are not useless !!!

look pnd can make you feel that way and over whelmed ! i am here to chat xxxx

 

[ShadowRat]

OMG Abble sweetheart, I am gobsmacked. You are NOT useless by ANY stretch of the imagination!!! Look at the tenacity and strength you had to try to do all of that for him!! I must say I am really horrified by what your mum said to you. It can be a stressful time for the whole family when theres a little baby around though, so I really really hope that's why she was so harsh with you It's not an excuse, though: I hope she gives you a very sincere apology after that.
Tyler does NOT hate you, either. Babies cry my lovely, and sometimes they just pick really bad moments to do it when we are at our emotional weakest and can't cope with it. But he KNOWS you are his momma, and he LOVES you unconditionally. I know it all looks so hard from where you are right now, but the PND will pass my love, it really will, and you are so so brave to be going through that on top of everything else that you have to deal with. God, I have tears in my eyes just typing this, I really feel for you so strongly my love, I wish wish wish I was closer so that I could help you somehow. Is there anyone you can call, if not a friend then maybe some kind of organisation to just talk things through and hear an outsider's common sense telling you how well you are doing with everything?

I'm sooooo sorry you had to deal with your mother being like that, WELL DONE for dressing your boy and everything, you are a superstar and don't let ANYONE tell you otherwise. Tyler will love you sooooo much when he is older, he will understand quite how hard it all is for you and how much harder you had to work than other people to bring him into this world. He will be eternally grateful.

In the meantime, don't ever apologise on here for telling us about it all, keep pouring it out, it'll feel a bit better to rant about it and we're all here for you!! If you feel brave enough some time soon, maybe have a very frank convo with your mum and explain to her that you want to do as much of the little things as you possibly can to help you get through the PND. Her outbursts are NOT going to help.

Sending huge hugs and lots of love and strength!

Shadow xxxx

 

[Nanaki]

SEX!!!!! I think I've heard that that's the only one that really works!!! I'm afraid I had a caesarean (cos of my condition) so can't help you much with tips etc! xxx

Shadow, I have been done sex for a while, it does starting the contractions but stopped afterwards! I am trying to find raspberry leaf tea, and will eat pineapples later!! xxx

 

[ShadowRat]

lol good luck Nanaki!!! You'll have to tell us what works, if anything!

 

[stephwiggy]

hey ladies - i am having a rite balls ache of it atm - my pain had gone from a stresdy 4-6 to a 8-10 and my backing is in spasm 's omg i am in sooo mucg god damn pain !! just had to get hubby to help me shower and wash hair - he hadnt had to do that in ages !

Taken some diazapan (sp) and hopefully that will relax muscles but serioulty hurts


winge over for now


hows everyone else

 

[Nanaki]

lol good luck Nanaki!!! You'll have to tell us what works, if anything!

I will!! Bought a pack of Strawberry/Raspberry Tea... Got to try that tonight! xxx