The dumb $&#% people say to those LTTTC

[phoenixrose]

The title is pretty self explanatory. I'll start...

"Good things come to those who wait" or "patience is a virtue." Really? You try waiting 2+ years for something with no known end in site and tell me if you feel the same.

 

[Try Rocking]

Just relax and it will happen.


I hate that one.

 

[MKHewson]

I pretty much feel that anything, but its sucks your having a hard time...just drives me nuts LOL

 

[MrsCompass]

"You shouldn't think too much about it".

OR ...

"In God's time."

 

[phoenixrose]

"You shouldn't think too much about it".

OR ...

"In God's time."

I absolutely hate the 2nd one! I just wanna smack the ones who say that bs!

 

[Leah29]

"stop trying so hard"
"when you stop trying it will happen"
"if it is meant to be it will happen"
"it will happen when you least expect it"

 

[Bugbabe77]

"god really? I only have to hold my husbands hand and I fall" - yeah, and I wanna smack those ones right in the mush!

 

[phoenixrose]

"stop trying so hard"
"when you stop trying it will happen"
"if it is meant to be it will happen"
"it will happen when you least expect it"

Oooooooo! You hit the nail on the head with those! I have told people off for saying those.

 

[zanDark]

"stop trying so hard"
"when you stop trying it will happen"
"if it is meant to be it will happen"
"it will happen when you least expect it"

all of this LOL + when I had my first IUI I told my SIL that I hoped God would "say yes" ... when we found out that it didn't work I texted her to say that God said no and her reply was "he knows best..."

I know she didn't mean it in a hurtful way because she really wants me to get pregnant...but that really hurt

 

[berki]

"Whats meant to be will be"
"everything happens for a reason"
"Hang in there, it WILL happen eventually"
"You need to relax a little for it to happen"
"Are you doing something wrong"

Phhhhttt... some people.. the nerve... ugh

 

[TaeBoMama]

One of my friends said, "Maybe God isn't answering your prayer because you're conflicted about it." I asked her whatever in the world gave her the impression that I wasn't 100% sure I wanted another! Of course I want it or I wouldn't continue to TRY month after month! She also said the usual "Don't stress so much about it, then it will happen." So I told her that I don't stress until I'm in the 2ww, and by that time what's done is done. When I told that I had prayed that if it's God's will for us to have another, please help us conceive. She responded, "That's the problem, you aren't believing that He'll answer your prayer. You must believe He will answer it...and not say 'if it's your will.'"

I don't think I'm going to talk to her again until I get pregnant. LOL

And this one is minor, but I hate when people who know we're ttc ask me, "Any news yet?" So now I must continually tell people that I'm still not pregnant. I always tell them that as soon as I get my bfp, they will know about it! I have one friend that will ask several times a month. I keep explaining that I only get ONE shot a month! So irritating!

Good luck, ladies!

 

[Lizzy444]

"I don't know, but I just have a good feeling about this time..." (This friend has said this 3x!...and she's been wrong every time but still says it)

"The timing has to be just right..." (Really? Timing of what?)

"God is in control!" (Yes, I know He is, but is that really the best thing to say to me?)

"You don't want to go through labor anyway....just adopt and let someone else go through that." (Said by a family member)

 

[phoenixrose]

"I don't know, but I just have a good feeling about this time..." (This friend has said this 3x!...and she's been wrong every time but still says it)

"The timing has to be just right..." (Really? Timing of what?)

"God is in control!" (Yes, I know He is, but is that really the best thing to say to me?)

"You don't want to go through labor anyway....just adopt and let someone else go through that." (Said by a family member)

OMG! Someone actually said the last one! I think I would have smacked them. That why I liked our devious plan...we told his parents that we were ttc when I had to get my laparoscopy. But seeing as though my MIL is part of the 'cuban herald' she obviously told people, but then she tells them not to tell, so they don't talk to us about it . Of course that's out the window now cause we're not lying about why we had to move back into the in-laws...to save money for fertility treatments. But they still seem not to ask.

 

[Lizzy444]

Yes, someone really said that! It was one of my sisters, and I was like "uh, did you really just say that?!" I should add that she is also LTTC, but is scared of labor and is adopting.

Aren't families crazy sometimes? And they wonder why we sometimes don't want to tell them anything.

 

[Sexki11en]

Here's one I heard yesterday, and it has to be my favourite yet.

'Babies are a sign that god has not yet forsaken us'

WTF? I mean, WTF??? So god has forsaken me? Might as well give up now then eh?

SK X

 

[NavyWife84]

"You just need to go on a vacation, then it will happen." Oh, is that all it is? Because we have been on a few vacas since starting TTC. Are we missing some magic vacation baby making dust or something? Now vacations are a distant memory because we need the money in case we will be facing infertility treatments. Would you like to shell out the money and the magic dust?

"Don't you get tired of waiting?" Nope, not at all...I'm having the time of my life

I also hate when people complain about their kids, how tiring being a mother is, and how terrible being pregnant is...I wish I could go through that "misery"

You ladies have said the rest.

 

[phoenixrose]

Oh, please give me some 'misery'!

 

[readyformore]

"I don't know, but I just have a good feeling about this time..." (This friend has said this 3x!...and she's been wrong every time but still says it)

We must have the same friend!

It's really lost it's luster.

Apparently, having a cough, headache, itchy knee, hiccups, etc; are all early pregnancy signs. I think if I farted she would say, "Oh, I bet it's twins!"

 

[terces]

"Maybe your just not meant to be a mother!"

REALLY!! So that would me all the people who beat, neglect or throw their kids in the trash are meant to be "mothers"??? I don't think so.

Of course the classic, "You're trying to hard."

I actually finally responded to this one with, "I don't ovulate on my own, so no matter what I need help from a doctor."

"You do know how a baby is made, right?"

Nope don't have a clue....we hold hands all the time.

"Don't be upset if you don't get a positive test this month."

Oh yes and when I talk about how I can't wait to be a mother I hear things like. "A month of no sleep and you will pass that baby off on whoever you can!"

Probably not! I've waited to long for a baby and I will cherish every moment! I have a friend who also had difficulty TTC. She ended up adopting for other reasons and said I didn't let him go for a long time. Even if I was tired.

 

[TaeBoMama]

"I don't know, but I just have a good feeling about this time..." (This friend has said this 3x!...and she's been wrong every time but still says it)

We must have the same friend!

It's really lost it's luster.

Apparently, having a cough, headache, itchy knee, hiccups, etc; are all early pregnancy signs. I think if I farted she would say, "Oh, I bet it's twins!"

That's hilarious! My friend used to piss me off by saying, "I hope you have twins!"...but the funny thing is, at this point I'd love twins! So she can say that as much as she wants now!

I've enjoyed reading all of the dumb things people have said to you ladies. Haha. It's nice to talk about it with ladies who truly get it!

Take care, ladies.