The dumb $&#% people say to those LTTTC

[Sexki11en]

Oh Terces, you've just reminded me of a corker from my DAD!

'He is putting it in the right hole isn't he'? !!!!!!!!

SK x

 

[Mommyagain]

My cousins pregnant wife turns to me and says be glad its not you going through this. (said SEVERAL times during her pregnancy) I would LOVE to be in her shoes.

 

[Leah29]

another one said to me today

"get a puppy instead, less work"

She is lucky i didn't smack her one

 

[Damita]

Oh I have people with children who don't behave and they always say you don't want children they are a nightmare..

 

[wannabemummyb]

A lot of the ones mentioned above, the new one two of my friends with no kids say "just get drunk... It happens for loads of people....."

Hmmm they say this every couple of weeks, i'm board of explaining 1. That this is a shocking idea 2. That its mainly about timing etc.

My mum (who i dont have a great relationship with) "once you get rid of the pcos (ummm mum its not a curable diease in that way) you will fall straight away"

 

[Mariposa21]

Best one for me is "you do want kids don't you??" after trying for 6 months and no pregnancy announcement. And we can't forgot the "it will be you next" brigade! Hubby has has vasectomy reversal and had someone come up to me and ask "well what will you do if it doesnt work as they rarely do" completely floored by that one x

Stuff them all girls! At least we will remember it and be better more empathetic individuals xxx

 

[Armywife84]

"Well, you could always adopt." -Are you going to lend me the $25,000 for adoption?

"You need to buy ovulation tests and start charting your temperature." -Been there done that.

"You can have my children." -Gee, thanks. I can't wait to coddle your bratty, undisciplined 5 and 8 year olds.

 

[terces]

Oh Terces, you've just reminded me of a corker from my DAD!

'He is putting it in the right hole isn't he'? !!!!!!!!

SK x

Aren't people AWESOME!! The next time someone asks if I know how to get pregnant, I think I'm going to say, Nope explain it please!!

 

[Azreal]

How about 'you can't fight Mother Nature' ?!

I might not be able to fight ol' Mother Nature but I can smack you hard...

 

[CHILLbilly]

I had an Inlaw cousin mention she really wanted to be a cousin to a new baby..or however she worded it.....asked when were going to have one......
on her defense...doesn't know we have fertility issues...BUT we have been together 7 yrs ..anyway.....
I told her She can lend us the $10,000 for IVF if she wanted one so badly... ( new baby cousin).....
she felt like shit......went to my husband( her cousin)..and said how aweful she felt saying what she did) I feel so guilty as she didnt know we have issues....and also didn;t know we were pregnant but had etopic in June., this was in october, so still very painful!

BUT my Mom who does know...that I have only one tube...and we have been trying 3 plus years... has told me....you need to relax, don't think about it, go away...ect... EVEN tho she tried for a long time for me....
but she's my Mom so I don't get mad at her......

I don;t think people even know the hardships of infertility, unless they go thro it themselves.....
and some people are just oblivious.....

( I actually remember responding to someone being on fertility drugs, saying ya I may need those too, cause i'll be to old when I decide I want kids ( i was 32..... idiot!!!!!)

 

[Mariposa21]

I know this is a bit on a tangent but just had husband say "well Christmas is all about kids anyway" and then when I said I wouldn't know he gets angry. Thanks darling for that one x

 

[loopz]

rarrrrrrrrrr everyone says this, anoyinnnnnnnnnnggggggggggg xx

 

[NavyWife84]

I was with my mom and my sister (who has a 11 mo old) this weekend (both of whom know about my LTTTC). I had a really crappy few days in the beginning of the week but was able to pull myself out of it for our annual Christmas cookie baking day. We were briefly talking about my HSG coming up and how I am trying to stay positive. I was talking about how I am not going to my best friend's cookie exchange because everyone going is bringing their babies and it would be too hard. I was saying that the holidays are really hard, but I am trying to be positive. My sister said, "I know it is hard, but you can't ruin it for everyone else." I wanted to slap her and tell her that she has no clue how hard it is (she got preggo first month trying) and I was so sorry that I ruin everything for everyone. I hide my sorrow so well and when I am with my family (2 nephews and 1 neice) I act like nothing is wrong. Then when DH and I go to bed I cry myself to sleep on his shoulder.

Ugh...sorry...rant over.

 

[Snowglobe21]

"Take her to Hawaii for 2 weeks"
"your trying too hard"
"are you an engineer because not everything is cut-and dry" -in response to my fiancee asking why my cycles are 30-70 days long with random bleeding

all from my GP

 

[hopefulbaby]

"But you're so young! Don't worry you still have time"

God I hate that one....

 

[Azreal]

I was with my mom and my sister (who has a 11 mo old) this weekend (both of whom know about my LTTTC). I had a really crappy few days in the beginning of the week but was able to pull myself out of it for our annual Christmas cookie baking day. We were briefly talking about my HSG coming up and how I am trying to stay positive. I was talking about how I am not going to my best friend's cookie exchange because everyone going is bringing their babies and it would be too hard. I was saying that the holidays are really hard, but I am trying to be positive. My sister said, "I know it is hard, but you can't ruin it for everyone else." I wanted to slap her and tell her that she has no clue how hard it is (she got preggo first month trying) and I was so sorry that I ruin everything for everyone. I hide my sorrow so well and when I am with my family (2 nephews and 1 neice) I act like nothing is wrong. Then when DH and I go to bed I cry myself to sleep on his shoulder.

Ugh...sorry...rant over.

What I want to know is how come WE are the ones ruining for everyone else?... it is ALWAYS ruined for us and not just Xmas... do they ever take that into account?

 

[BearsMummy]

My friend who has 4 children, has recently and on more than one occasion come out with this corker:

'WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO RUIN YOUR LIFE WITH A BABY'

My response?

'You 'ruined' your life 4 times, love!!'

 

[StorkStalker]

My worst one ever (by my accupunturist)... Maybe it´s not you or your husband.. it´s you and your husband together... Maybe you and someone else would perfectly conceive and same for him..
Excuse me what??
I never went back...

 

[key24]

Stumbled across this thread and it really made me chuckle! I guess it is good to be able to laugh about the situation if nothing else

For the record my favourite is -
"You're not trying hard enough"

Also love the
"Once you've had one you could find that you have others really easy"

Yes I know that it can be the case, but think it is unlikely that if we're lucky enough to get pregnant through ICSI suddently we'll be popping babies out left righht and centre (although i'd be more than happy if that was the case)!

 

[Armywife84]

I was with my mom and my sister (who has a 11 mo old) this weekend (both of whom know about my LTTTC). I had a really crappy few days in the beginning of the week but was able to pull myself out of it for our annual Christmas cookie baking day. We were briefly talking about my HSG coming up and how I am trying to stay positive. I was talking about how I am not going to my best friend's cookie exchange because everyone going is bringing their babies and it would be too hard. I was saying that the holidays are really hard, but I am trying to be positive. My sister said, "I know it is hard, but you can't ruin it for everyone else." I wanted to slap her and tell her that she has no clue how hard it is (she got preggo first month trying) and I was so sorry that I ruin everything for everyone. I hide my sorrow so well and when I am with my family (2 nephews and 1 neice) I act like nothing is wrong. Then when DH and I go to bed I cry myself to sleep on his shoulder.

Ugh...sorry...rant over.

What I want to know is how come WE are the ones ruining for everyone else?... it is ALWAYS ruined for us and not just Xmas... do they ever take that into account?

Nope, because they never had to struggle to conceive. Plus, they don't take the time to try to validate our feelings instead of calling us selfish. I don't waste time on people like that.

Damn, if that would've been me..I would've came back with an equally nasty retort!