The losers club

[sapphire1]

We can be if you want to be

 

[Eliza_V]

Sorry to hear that sapphire! He sounds depressed tbh, that's how DH acts when things aren't going well at work.. He expects every other area to be crap as well, so pushes everything and everyone else away and goes on "self-destruct", and when the wife doesn't have the time/energy/inclination to keep reassuring them constantly then they just don't bother anymore! It's bloody horrible! It's taken us starting to divorce and him sleeping in the spare room for a couple of months for him to realise what he would be missing. Unfortunately he still slips up and mentions the 'D' world when we're arguing, but I think he's starting to realise the damage that causes, as he may be able to forget it after an argument but I certainly don't.

Have you guys considered counselling, either relationship counselling or some CBT for his issues? I am doing online CBT at the moment for myself and have been doing some research and printing articles/research relating to our issues, and have been gently approaching DH with them (one of our issues is him never wanting sex, and I'm finding "More Sex Daily" website quite helpful for dumbing it down for him.. I found one on the male midlife crisis here https://www.moresexdaily.com/thesexthieves/male-mid-life-crisis/ ) I'm making a big song and dance about how actively making positive changes in my life (online CBT, research into what changes we [not just him] can make as a couple, and taking up pole fitness) has affected my mood and how it's affecting our relationship for the better, and encouraging him to do the same, and praising him when it goes well. It's like living with a 5-year old sometimes with the amount of reassurance and praise I'm giving him, but it seems to be doing the trick for now

I'm blabbing honey, sorry! I hope things improve though, and maybe the move will do you good

 

[Natsku]

Wahay lesbo lovers!

I do hope things work out, really hoping the move helps

 

[sapphire1]

Vixie. I should mention that DH has been divorced before - I have a 14 year old stepdaughter who lives with me, and he walked out on them when she was 8. She self-harms and has suicidal thoughts, we're a right bunch! I have always had in the back of my mind that he's done it once, he'll do it again - my fault for being stoopid, I should have known he was trouble! I dunno if your fella is a typical Yorkshireman, but mine definitely is - hell would freeze over before he considered getting help I might trick him into looking at the link though The relationship counselling thing reminds me of when we went to the cinema (on one of our first dates) - we watched 'Sex & the City' and there's a bit where Miranda and Steve have marrriage counselling. DH had a complete fit of laughter, proper girly high pitched and everything, and everyone in the cinema stared at us like we were crazy

 

[Lettuce]

Ah bums. would a good kicking sort him out? Which one of us has the biggest shoes? I've got size 7 DMs about somewhere...
Glad you're feeling better nats.
Jen is a little better, had a nice day, but feeling the urge to shop! I bought a new buggy tho, a black zeta vooom with White spots! should arrive by the weekend!

 

[Lettuce]

https://www.amazon.co.uk/ZETA-VOOOM...sr_1_16?s=baby&ie=UTF8&qid=1335989029&sr=1-16

 

[blondey]

Love the buggy Lettuce!

That's sucky Sapphire. Maybe a move will do you both the world of good. It's easy to drift apart when you spend so much time apart. You lose the closeness and start to forget why you need each other.

OH's on nights and has just left for work. I'm off tomorrow so AM and I might go to gardening club.

 

[Fabby]

We've got the zeta vooom but plain black. Think Emmy has the plum one. Brill buggy! Awww its like a looser baby buggy!

 

[Lettuce]

Lol at the loser buggy! its just cos DH forgets to take ours out the car sometimes so I'm stuck without transport. So this way we can keep it at my mums and use it as an occasional buggy and for holidays and stuff.
Oh gardening club sounds fun! Were going to try baby sign tomorrow.

 

[Fabby]

We got it for holiday too but been using it already. It's so comfy and rory loves it more than the £650 pushchair he had as a baby always the case. If this buggy gets ruined on holiday then I've already decided I will be ordering another one. It's great, can't fault it.

 

[Emmy1987]

Excellent choice of buggy

Aw Sapphire sorry your DH is being a knob I have a pair of new rocks with 4 inch platforms if you want to borrow them and give him a kick?!

Nats hope you're back on your feet soon and excellent news that you're still alive

We're in Lincoln this week, went into M&P yesterday, really miss it! Manager said she'd have me back lol *gets packing*
Got Doo a pink horse rocker from toysrus yesterday too, aunt had a £10 voucher so got it for £12.99

Going to the IL's today then meadowhall tomorrow well excited about that, not been since I was pg!

Went out for a drink and cinema last night, aunt put Doo to bed and bless her when she woke up this morning and saw us looking at her she was so happy

 

[Natsku]

Awwwwww

Tired, think I might try and snooze a little.

 

[sapphire1]

Ooo, lovely buggy Lettuce!

Gardening club? Sounds interesting, I've never heard of anything like that before!

Aww bless Doo. Emmy, I live 20 minutes away from Meadowhall!

Hope you're ok Nats

 

[blondey]

Gardening club was good. Basically it's like a normal baby group but you get to play outside in the garden. Planting seeds, splashing in puddles, playing with soil, drawing on the floor with chalk. AM was absolutely filthy. She looked like orphan annie!!

Just put madam down for a nap, zapping some soup in the microwave and then going to settle down and watch trashy tv. OH should be up in about an hour too. Might take a quick trip to ELC. Got a 20% off voucher. Let me know if anyone wants it emailing to them!

Have a fun trip Emmy!

 

[Natsku]

Gardening club sounds fun.

Snoozed all afternoon except for when I got woken up by a phone call from the baby clinic - was Maria's 15 month check up and I completely forgot about it

 

[blondey]

I think you have a reasonable excuse for forgetting it Nats!

 

[Fabby]

Gardening club sounds brill, wish we had one here! Rory's a proper outdoor boy!!

I'm so excited, Rory's new big kitchen is ready to collect!! Going fetch it tomorrow so dh can put it up when he gets in from work tomorrow. Got it at a brill bargain, £250 reduced to £110!!!! He loves playing with the kitchen at the groups we go so should be a big hit. Can't wait. My mums so kind to of brought it him. I had her looking on gumtree then she rang me back and said they had got this one in Argos, I'm going to buy it him!! She's ace.

Rory's been in bed for 6pm last two nights. This morning he still slept in till 7.15. He only had 1 hour nap both yesterday and today so obviously is shattered, not sure why he's only having 1 hour

 

[Lettuce]

Hello all! Hope we are all well. I've had a nice day too. tho I bought clothes for Jen.... Shhh. Don't tell DH!

Ohhh, interesting thread in BC...

 

[Natsku]

oo oo BC drama???

Brill bargain on the kitchen - I'd love to get one for Maria but they're usually way too expensive, gonna save up for christmas I think

 

[Emmy1987]

I've missed meadowhall! I'd love to live 20 mins away!

OH has been chucking up but keeping everything crossed that he's still up for meadowhall.......

Oh I'd love a play kitchen! (I mean... Doo would...)

Gardening club sounds amazing, although I think I'd go ott with wipes the whole time

How are you feeling Nats?