The LTTTC thread for everyone.

[crystal443]

Well FS told us he treats women well into their 40's and just had a woman 42(yes, Liz on DHEA) pregnant with twins and so far its going great

It really depends on the individual as well some ladies are really fertile and some are not Don't let it get to you though, if she thinks after 35 is too old then she probably shouldn't be a FS

 

[H0pefulagain]

I don't know. I'm bad at age guessing but I'd bet she's in mid to late 50's. We decided she probably ate her young and has no clue what wanting a child is or she might have been a tad less abrasive.

 

[crystal443]

how old is this "specialist"? and I do use the term loosely

I was wondering the same

 

[Jennifer01]

I don't know. I'm bad at age guessing but I'd bet she's in mid to late 50's. We decided she probably ate her young and has no clue what wanting a child is or she might have been a tad less abrasive.

 

[LLbean]

maybe she is bitter about her own age LOL

 

[Jennifer01]

Hope: Let me start by saying I hate that fs. What's the point of being in that field if you can't be sensitive to what people are going through? It's not even like what she was saying was correct really. Sounds alot like the first fs I went to-I called her robot hamster, she was very rodent like and also robotic! Bizarre! So since you asked for ages, I was 34 when I started trying hard, but about 32 when we started ntnp. I am 37 now I got my first bfp since I was 19.

Peace I'm sorry you have had a hard time with treatment. It will all be worth it one day soon. I can't even imagine, I'm terrible with medical procedures, you are so brave!

Milty So sorry about what happened, but the silver lining is of course you know now it's possible and you can use the "increased fertility" period for the next few months. Hope you are recovering well and looking forward to seeing good things from you in the near future

Ready, crystal, bmom, Alison, more, LL, anyone I've missed, good evening, hoping you are all doing great

Ive been a bit mia because I've been struggling with awful headaches and feeling a bit depressed, I think just from exhaustion. Of course Im terrified to complain (we talked about this before!) but I will say it hasnt been smooth sailing. Even if I'm not always replying, I'm always checking in on you all and cheering you all on from my couch! Love to you all!

 

[Milty]

Jen if you don't start complaining I'm gonna beat you with a wet noodle.

Also to everyone I know I'm from a different culture but I think you guys worry about being polite to much. You take others feelings far over yours when your the one reaching out for help. Happy said something really grat once but my brain is not working so I'll be looking for it. You guys need to speak your minds.

Hopeful I would have told that lady I didn't think she was being sensitive

Now I will say don't be like me and come down totally hard on someone not aware of what's going on (I still feel bad).

But that hussy of a FS knows dam well that women in their 40's get pg all the time. In fact last year or maybe the year before the two most common ages to conceive we're 22 and 42. You are paying for that consult ask her to do her job.

Ok I will shut it now

 

[H0pefulagain]

Thank you, ladies. I'm almost over my snit fit now...almost, but being female, I reserve the right to be fickle and go back at fussing again!

Milty, don't ever shut up. I for one, adore you and your candid thoughts!

 

[H0pefulagain]

Jenn, you have a reason to complain! Pregnancy is not glamorous, comfortable, or even kind to our bodies! It is much like labor but in a milder form. You get to be miserable for a while for an awesome end result. Please do complain, whine, fuss, moan, etc. That way when it is our turn, we can do so without feeling badly!

I do hope you get to feeling better soon and get to enjoy some of your preggers time!

 

[peacebaby]

Milty i love that wet noodle you're beating Jen with

Hopeful - I could relate an infinite number of cases where ladies 40+ have successfully given birth that we were told about by both my doctors but I really dont think the utter tosh that "FS" dished out deserves even that! Which century is she living in? I think you're right though she probably didn't like your dr calling her rather than sending you to her. Rather then be flattered by that gesture she may be have been professionally irked by it and took it out on you. If you're looking for someone who will work with your local doc,try Dr Bravermann. I know my dr who is an reproductive immune specialist has happily worked with Dr B on difficult cases- they put the patient's success above their ego's to get the job done. Also, once you get the book, you will have more information to go by.

Ready, my DH asked me the same question. I guess i felt bad that in 2.5 yrs I've had 3 bfps while that poor woman had none. She was lovely and not morbid at all but the burden of that sadness was unmistakable. About forgetting the difficulty of what you went through, I think that tends to happen with most difficulties/crisis we go through in life, once on the other side the memory of it all tends to fade. I think its almost a instinctive survival mechanism.

Jen, if you don't complain I'll worry. I want hear that you're feeling gross and falling asleep while standing If you're feeling awful it means your LO is growing nicely and your hormone levels are rocketing, so please complain, it's comforting to hear Besides only celebs can pretend its all fun, high heels and glory.

 

[Jennifer01]

For the record one of my best friends had her LO at 41, after 3 mc's. He is one and lovely and perfect!

I think I fell into the infertility trap of thinking that when I finally get pg obviously rainbows will shoot out of my ass. Rainbows are one of the only things that hasn't. Sorry TMI.

to everyone!

 

[peacebaby]

 

[sukisam]

Hopeful - sorry your FS was a bitch. The 1st one we saw said I was so old if I got pregnant I'd die & leave the children I have without a mother & did I want that?! The other we saw -after about 18 months we were so traumatised from first FS said we would only get pregnant by DEIVF so suggested going to Spain. Which may be true but it would be nice to have a dr on your side doing their best. Hopefully you'll find another dr who is right for you both

Hope everyone else is okay
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[Jennifer01]

Hopeful - sorry your FS was a bitch. The 1st one we saw said I was so old if I got pregnant I'd die & leave the children I have without a mother & did I want that?! The other we saw -after about 18 months we were so traumatised from first FS said we would only get pregnant by DEIVF so suggested going to Spain. Which may be true but it would be nice to have a dr on your side doing their best. Hopefully you'll find another dr who is right for you both

Hope everyone else is okay
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Oh my suki, how did you not punch that fs?! You are one patient lady!

 

[Bravemom]

Hopeful - sorry your FS was a bitch. The 1st one we saw said I was so old if I got pregnant I'd die & leave the children I have without a mother & did I want that?! The other we saw -after about 18 months we were so traumatised from first FS said we would only get pregnant by DEIVF so suggested going to Spain. Which may be true but it would be nice to have a dr on your side doing their best. Hopefully you'll find another dr who is right for you both

Hope everyone else is okay
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Omg That's disgusting And where have you been my lovely ,I have missssed you

 

[sukisam]

I did tell her she was in the wrong job and totally lacked compassion- I told her she should be ashamed to call herself a dr & told her I found her insensitive, brutal as well as being WRONG! I was supposed to have a vag ultrasound & i said theres no say i would have you anywhere near my body! Imade a formal complaint & refused to pay for the consultation & recommended they send her on a communication course. I was feisty but it did affect me a lot

Bmom- I missed you all too just been really busy & have had a horrible migraine the last 2 days. I'm 3dpo so I think we're cycle buddies hope you're okay sweetie

Peace- I hope you've recovered from your ordeal

Crystal- I know what you mean about regretting leaving things so long- me too most of all I regret the vasectomy but amazingly I have managed to accept it was the right decision at the time & you can only do what you think is right with the info you have at the time

Jen- feel free to moan whenever you want! When I was pregnant with dd it was only a couple of months of Emily being born sleeping and I was luking for England but felt I couldn't moan cos I was lucky to be pregnant again

Hopeful- hope you're getting over the video consult I cried for days after mine. Hope you're okay

Ready- I admire your ability to have lots of sex with 3 kids the older mine get the harder it is for us they go to bed so late now!

Hi to LL, HA, BF, and anyone else I've forgotten

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[Jax41]

For the record one of my best friends had her LO at 41, after 3 mc's. He is one and lovely and perfect!

I think I fell into the infertility trap of thinking that when I finally get pg obviously rainbows will shoot out of my ass. Rainbows are one of the only things that hasn't. Sorry TMI.

to everyone!

Jen your post has made my night! Thanks hun

 

[Jax41]

Oh wow, I can't believe how some of you have been spoken too by FS's, Health Care Professionals, whatever they are, god that's just terrible....

Suki, you know what you wrote to Crystal about regretting things about doing things at the time bc we thought it was the right thing to do, I know what you mean.... Hindsight is such a valuable thing, also scares the pants off you to and the odd F*** it why the hell did I do that if only we could go back and change the past instead we have to do what's best for the future....I'm giving myself my own pep talk here

Everyone

 

[Bravemom]

Oh wow, I can't believe how some of you have been spoken too by FS's, Health Care Professionals, whatever they are, god that's just terrible....

Suki, you know what you wrote to Crystal about regretting things about doing things at the time bc we thought it was the right thing to do, I know what you mean.... Hindsight is such a valuable thing, also scares the pants off you to and the odd F*** it why the hell did I do that if only we could go back and change the past instead we have to do what's best for the future....I'm giving myself my own pep talk here

Everyone

Jax you seem different and I like it

 

[Bravemom]

I did tell her she was in the wrong job and totally lacked compassion- I told her she should be ashamed to call herself a dr & told her I found her insensitive, brutal as well as being WRONG! I was supposed to have a vag ultrasound & i said theres no say i would have you anywhere near my body! Imade a formal complaint & refused to pay for the consultation & recommended they send her on a communication course. I was feisty but it did affect me a lot

Bmom- I missed you all too just been really busy & have had a horrible migraine the last 2 days. I'm 3dpo so I think we're cycle buddies hope you're okay sweetie

Peace- I hope you've recovered from your ordeal

Crystal- I know what you mean about regretting leaving things so long- me too most of all I regret the vasectomy but amazingly I have managed to accept it was the right decision at the time & you can only do what you think is right with the info you have at the time

Jen- feel free to moan whenever you want! When I was pregnant with dd it was only a couple of months of Emily being born sleeping and I was luking for England but felt I couldn't moan cos I was lucky to be pregnant again

Hopeful- hope you're getting over the video consult I cried for days after mine. Hope you're okay

Ready- I admire your ability to have lots of sex with 3 kids the older mine get the harder it is for us they go to bed so late now!

Hi to LL, HA, BF, and anyone else I've forgotten

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Good for you for complaining but I'm so sorry you were made to feel like that ,sorry for the migraine and I hope you got your shags in