the worry is wearing me out. Want to share some pma.

[lilwelsh1]

i imagine many of you feel this way? I cant dare to look forward too far in case anything bad happens. I am constantly scolding myself for daring to dream of bumps midwife appointments scans and delivery suites. I cant even think about what i plan to say to the doctor tomorrow when i go and get this pregnancy confirmed. Wish i had a crystal ball.

So i have decided to take this pregnancy in small stages, enjoy the time i have at this very moment. I found out i was pregnant 4 days ago. Im getting it confirmed in the morning that will be 1 milestone done. (i didnt get confirmed last time, i found out at 5 weeks and mc 5 days later) then i will plan to sneak up to the point i mc last time and so on.

If anyone else wants to join me in enjoying each day passed with no problems feel free. I know it sounds terrifying, but i just want a few moments of not over analysing every twinge, every new symptom or feeling.

Today im still pregnant, and im feeling positive. No problems for the 4 days since bfp!

 

[hb1]

It's good to see some PMA It's so hard after a loss - it's def the best way to go working a milestone at a time

I def am glad to get through each day - I am feeling much more positive now - still have the odd wobble but much happier.

The early days did go sloooooowwwwwlly - if felt like forever so once you get past your 12 week scan I am sure time will start to zoooom by

hx

 

[stay.positive]

I am totally with you on just appreciating every day. I think this is the best strategy. Right now I am in the thick of morning sickness and as much as it sucks, it is a milestone too so I am trying to appreciate the experience and just be glad for every day.

 

[Razcox]

Loving the PMA (and the little pup in your avatar, is that a sibe?) i think you have to just take it one day at a time, celebrate the small victories along the way and worry about the war later.

I saw my bubba on sunday and all was well, today i am 6+5 weeks and all is well

 

[foxforce]

Yes definately a day at a time, I'm feeling more positive now although very early and this week is a milestone for me. I have awful ms along with other symptoms which I am grateful for but it's very debilitating.
Staying as positive as poss Stress does you no good!

All the best Lil and gorgeous pup!! x

 

[Mizze]

i imagine many of you feel this way? I cant dare to look forward too far in case anything bad happens. I am constantly scolding myself for daring to dream of bumps midwife appointments scans and delivery suites. I cant even think about what i plan to say to the doctor tomorrow when i go and get this pregnancy confirmed. Wish i had a crystal ball.

So i have decided to take this pregnancy in small stages, enjoy the time i have at this very moment. I found out i was pregnant 4 days ago. Im getting it confirmed in the morning that will be 1 milestone done. (i didnt get confirmed last time, i found out at 5 weeks and mc 5 days later) then i will plan to sneak up to the point i mc last time and so on.

If anyone else wants to join me in enjoying each day passed with no problems feel free. I know it sounds terrifying, but i just want a few moments of not over analysing every twinge, every new symptom or feeling.

Today im still pregnant, and im feeling positive. No problems for the 4 days since bfp!

Good for you. PMA is the best thing for getting through the most difficult first 12 weeks and beyond!

Milestones are an excellent idea - that is how I got myself through to the first scan, then the 12 wk scan, then the Nuchal scan, their results, 16 wk scan, 20 wk scan, feeling baby move etc etc etc

And although it feels like some of those milestones will never come - they do I have 2 left now - 37 weeks and full term and BIRTH!!

I still cant believe im now over 33 weeks and the big 40 is looming large. PMA all the way - I needed and used it over the last 24 hours as the baby was measuring small so they sent me for a scan. Now although all the scans so far this pregnancy have been fine and previously "hastily arranged" scan had bad outcomes and it nearly sent me into a total spin - but I kept it together using PMA and - baby is PERFECT and measuring spot on PMA and feeling her move kept me sane over the last 24 hours from mw appt to scan. But by the time we got to the scan I was barely nervous - I was feeling her so much I KNEW everything was going to be fine - and I was right.

Congratulations on such a great attitude - it does help -it aint always easy and you will have bad days and times but it does help hon honestly.

Mizze xx

 

[cgweegee]

Your attitude will help. That's how we approached this pregnancy..just small steps. It's led to a lot of little celebrations. I have good days and not so good days but I think that's all part of the journey. Best wishes to you.

 

[cindersmcphee]

Thats what I am planning this time. I am 5 weeks today. First step is to get to 6 weeks stress free. As I started spotting at 5 weeks 3 days last time and mc at 6 weeks.

 

[lilwelsh1]

Thank you all. I passed a milestone today - got my pregnancy confirmed, didnt get to last time (thought i had at least a week before doc really needed to know and waited) couldnt wait this time, was too nervous and too excited. the doctor was brilliant, said some very encouraging things to try to help me not dwell on the last pregnancy too much, he said usually mc is something thats likely to be something starting wrong and that u can feel if its going to go well or not, think i know what he meant. i feel good altho cautious but every little twinge isnt all consuming, i may feel different tomorrow but today i feel happy. will face tomorrow when it arrives.
Mizze, good luck for birth and beyond, glad LO is ok, they scared me about size on both my children. they were born smaller than average but nothing scary.
Razcox it is a sibe, im a huge fan. i wont keep one tho as we had a bad experience with one we planned to buy so i have a jack russell and a collie x now lol. congrats on all being well. such good news
all these happy stories are very encouraging. i guess that bit of caution never leaves, but i plan to enjoy each day as it comes who knows before we know it it will be d day and we will all wonder y we were so worried.

 

[humblebum]

Yep, taking one day at a time here, tomorrow I will have passed the stage I MC last time. I just want to fast forward the weeks!!! xx

 

[lilwelsh1]

congratulations humblebum! Thats my next step to conquer. I have 6 days til im at the point i began to mc last time, getting scary. Re-reading this thread helps tho. Xxx

 

[Baronessgogo]

What a wonderful idea having spent the last 5 weeks in a state of complete panic i wish i would have done what you are doing.