pearlsandbows
Got our BFP on Xmas Day!
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Hi Everyone
I am 25 (26 in Dec), DH is 28 (29 in Feb). We've been together 9 years & married just over a year. We own our 3 bed house (with mortgage), & hubby is in a stable job (been there 7 years) although not on that much money (not enough for us to live on his salary alone anyway). I am in a temporary ongoing job with no idea of when or if it will go permanent. Between us we bring in about £32k so not a great deal but enough! We have discussed it & would really love to start trying for a baby - the only thing is my job, ideally I would like for it to go permanent to give me some stability & something to go back to afterwards. But then I think, I don't know if I will want to go back afterwards (it's quite a commute) or if they will accomodate less hours. I also don't know if or when it will go permanent and feel like I'm waiting for something which may never come or may be too long coming! I do really enjoy the job though and it's a great environment to work in with great people. If I can stay in the job until I would go on maternity leave I would qualify for SMP, & would obviously then have some time to find another job if I needed to. DH also has some savings which he has always said would be for when we have a child (not sure exactly how much I think about £5k!). I also would like to build my career - I have been to uni and graduated in 2009 but haven't managed to get my foot onto a permanent career ladder yet. I feel like having a child would also give me a clear break and when the time is right following this I would be able to look for something and build my career up with a family already started. I have it constantly on my mind that if I go for my dream job now I may get too involved/dedicated and it would put me off having a child for however long, and I really want a family and to not be too old when I do! My DH would really like to start trying now and is just waiting for me to say yes to be honest... I guess I am just scared of the unknowns but when I think about it like this I can't find a reason not to, as they say 'you always manage', then again I would like to do better than just 'manage'!
Trying now there is also that added bonus we could tell the parents on Christmas obviously this has no bearing on anything but just something nice I thought of!
Any thoughts would be so appreciated
xo.
I am 25 (26 in Dec), DH is 28 (29 in Feb). We've been together 9 years & married just over a year. We own our 3 bed house (with mortgage), & hubby is in a stable job (been there 7 years) although not on that much money (not enough for us to live on his salary alone anyway). I am in a temporary ongoing job with no idea of when or if it will go permanent. Between us we bring in about £32k so not a great deal but enough! We have discussed it & would really love to start trying for a baby - the only thing is my job, ideally I would like for it to go permanent to give me some stability & something to go back to afterwards. But then I think, I don't know if I will want to go back afterwards (it's quite a commute) or if they will accomodate less hours. I also don't know if or when it will go permanent and feel like I'm waiting for something which may never come or may be too long coming! I do really enjoy the job though and it's a great environment to work in with great people. If I can stay in the job until I would go on maternity leave I would qualify for SMP, & would obviously then have some time to find another job if I needed to. DH also has some savings which he has always said would be for when we have a child (not sure exactly how much I think about £5k!). I also would like to build my career - I have been to uni and graduated in 2009 but haven't managed to get my foot onto a permanent career ladder yet. I feel like having a child would also give me a clear break and when the time is right following this I would be able to look for something and build my career up with a family already started. I have it constantly on my mind that if I go for my dream job now I may get too involved/dedicated and it would put me off having a child for however long, and I really want a family and to not be too old when I do! My DH would really like to start trying now and is just waiting for me to say yes to be honest... I guess I am just scared of the unknowns but when I think about it like this I can't find a reason not to, as they say 'you always manage', then again I would like to do better than just 'manage'!
Trying now there is also that added bonus we could tell the parents on Christmas obviously this has no bearing on anything but just something nice I thought of!
Any thoughts would be so appreciated
xo.