This morning

[fannyadams]

Did anyone just watch the debate about locking a toddler in their room?
Without wanting to start a for/against row I thought the results of the 'worm' were really surprising!

 

[leahtaba]

this will deffo end up in a debate! i think they just done what was right for their child and no one should judge. im not surprised about the result because the father had a much better argument than the women IMO.

 

[MrsButterfly]

It's a really interesting one because my gut screams its wrong but when I listen to the man I can totally understand why they did it. And after experiencing sleep deprivation first hand I get their desperation. Just think with all these things, you have to make the right decision for you and your child. What works for one won't for another.

 

[fannyadams]

That's why I thought it was interesting.
When they started I thought he'd get ripped apart but people could clearly understand why he did what he did.
Says a lot for knowing the whole story not just a headline.

 

[Dragonfly]

I didnt see it on tv but read the story and am disgusted to be honest. I dont care who rips me apart for saying it I feel no pity for them parents at all in what they did to that child. No human should be subjected to that treatment ever. Not a child!

 

[Kristin52]

I'm in the US so not sure. But what happened?

 

[Dragonfly]

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2250785/I-locked-toddler-room-night-save-marriage.html

 

[Cheska]

What works for someone won't for someone else.

The closh being thrown back at the woman's head though was classic!!!

 

[omfgski]

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[Beccaboop]

Before hearing his arguement i thought 'no thats just wrong!!' but after hearing that the child was putting himself in danger by getting up during the night and turning on the oven and getting hold of knives and that they had tried everything else to get him to stay in bed and sleep i thought i think in that case i mightl ock him in!! And it seemed to of worked for them after just 3 nights and at least he was safer in his room!

 

[fannyadams]

I might have missed a bit but did he say why he was so against the son sleeping with them? I know it's not ideal for a lot of people (me included) but if that would have solved the problem I'm interested why they didn't just go with that for a while.

 

[omfgski]

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[leahtaba]

the child wasnt getting out of bed to get in the parents bed he was getting up and messing around the house. if this child would have injured himself in the night whilst u supervised these parents would be vilified! sometimes you just cant win, good on him for speaking out. these parents are hardly cruel! they resulted to a desperate measure in a dark time and it worked for them! who are we to judge, even if we personally would not do it, its up to them to raise their child and they are not doing anything illegal or outting him at risk so i dont really think anyone has the right to have a go at them.

 

[Laucu]

It really annoyed me when he dropped in that he was falling asleep in meetings trying to close million pound deals. SO WHAT?! What a bloody show off.

 

[fannyadams]

But he became clingy, and would go berserk when we tried to leave, waking at the tiniest movement. He’d scream until we came back, or wander downstairs to find us.
This would happen five or six times before he fell asleep. It made evening relaxation time impossible.

This part of the article made it sound like he wanted to be with his parents. I may have read more into it though.

 

[MrsButterfly]

It really annoyed me when he dropped in that he was falling asleep in meetings trying to close million pound deals. SO WHAT?! What a bloody show off.

He totally lost my sympathy at this point too.

 

[Dragonfly]

They have him locked in the room like a screaming caged animal, as the article said. And they work all day and the son goes to bed from 7 to 7am. Makes me wonder do they actually spend any time at all with their child? working parents would spend time later on in evening even if it meant stories in bed with their child. I am sorry they seem quite selfish to me and have no time for that child. I have so much pity for that child. And I know as a nation we arnt child centred at all so many will disagree with me.

 

[Laucu]

They have him locked in the room like a screaming caged animal, as the article said. And they work all day and the son goes to bed from 7 to 7am. Makes me wonder do they actually spend any time at all with their child? working parents would spend time later on in evening even if it meant stories in bed with their child. I am sorry they seem quite selfish to me and have no time for that child. I have so much pity for that child. And I know as a nation we arnt child centred at all so many will disagree with me.

You're right I think he probably wanted more time with his mum and dad!

It doesn't sound like they tried that hard to me. If they didn't want to cosleep then I wonder if they tried anything like the supernanny techniques. I know supernanny isn't for everyone but her methods are certainly a lot more gentle than that!

and actually, although getting up 37 times in one night is unpleasant, it's not actually that bad. I seem to remember watching an episode of supernanny when the child got up about 100 times!

 

[AngelofTroy]

What an emotive topic!

To be honest I can understand it as it became a real safety issue. I work with a boy who is blind and has learning difficulties, he went through a stage of leaving his room in the night, quietly so nobody knew and wandering around unsupervised. His mum was really worried, but social services told her not to lock him in as it violated his rights, then one time he fell down the stairs. His mum was distraught. Luckily he wasn't badly hurt, but all social services would suggest was a protective helmet.. which seemed ridiculous as he woke up at night and did this, surely they didn't expect a child to sleep in a helmet?! I don't honestly know what she did in the end, but I hope she didn't feel too judged if she did chose to lock him in. She's a fantastic mum by the way, she devotes her whole life to her little boy, and he's come a lot further than anyone ever expected thanks to her hard work and love.

 

[jaybee]

I didn't see the TV. But read what dragonfly posted.
IMO, IF and as long as they had tried everything and I mean everything and the child was still getting up and getting into dangerous situations, then I can understand what they did.
However, I also think that as some others have said, that they possibly didn't try it all.