Those that TTC together, Stick together!! 4 BABY BOYS/3 BABY GIRLS

[loveinbinary]

I sort of found out at 14 weeks. I had a late 12 week scan because my first scan put my dates back by 8 days. I asked the tech if she was able to take a peak to try to see the gender, not expecting much of course, and she said she 'thought' it looked like a boy but was unable to say more than that because he wasn't being very cooperative and the placenta and cord were in the way. I already knew it was a boy and her saying that confirmed it in my mind but dh and I scheduled a private scan at 17 weeks to find out for certain because I have NO patience lol.

 

[nypage1981]

I have no idea when I find out! Have 16 week doc appointment 4 th of may and doctor has o order a scan then but think they do it at 20 weeks. Oh doesn't think we need to know sooner. I can't wait!

 

[loveinbinary]

You could always schedule a private scan. Dh didn't think we needed to find out any earlier than the general 20 week scan, but I couldn't wait lol. He also doesn't really see the need for another private scan within the next week or so to get 3D/4D images for the baby book I'm going make. I think it's a guy thing. He loves the baby as much as I do, he just doesn't see a need for vanity scans. As he told me "it's not like I'm going to look at them ever again, but if it's what you want and will make you happy then it's my job to give it to you". I think we have a stronger bond with the baby at this point since we are the ones carrying it so the scans tend to mean more to us. Plus, if you schedule a private scan you could take your daughter. Maybe seeing her little brother (or sister) on the scan will help her come around?

 

[rosababy]

Dee, I'm sorry about af.

2 people at work announced their pregnancies today. I'm feeling really down.

 

[Deethehippy]

Dee, I'm sorry about af.

2 people at work announced their pregnancies today. I'm feeling really down.

I'm sorry you are down Rosa, it feels like so many people are pregnant around me too or have young babies
Keep your chin up - we can do this - we will get our BFP's !!

Love -This cycle i am trying Agnus castus or whatever it is called, it is said to regulate hormones and help the body create progesterone, i wonder if mine is a little messed up since the MC as i now spot for a few days before AF which i never used to do so hopefully it will do me some good.

 

[loveinbinary]

Rosa- Remember you aren't out yet! Aren't you testing in a couple days? Things sounds really promising for you this cycle and my fingers are tightly crossed. Still having a ton of cm?

dee- I was going to try soy isoflavones as I've read nothing but good things about it. It's supposed to be natures clomid. Hopefully Angus Cactus will do the trick! It's too bad our bodies can't talk. Uterus, what do I need to do to get my bfp? " well _____ is wrong so take ____ to fix it ". hah if only.

 

[nypage1981]

Dee that sucks about af coming. Sorry.

Rosa sorry you are down. I cried like a baby when my own sister old me the news that she was pregnant. It was so hard. I also had a girl at work due same as me when i midcarried and another pregnant. It sucks so bad. Some day you'll be there.

 

[charchar92]

hi everyone

my name is charlene can i ask a question please?

how do you find out if you have any good egg's inside of you because i have cysts on my ovaries.. i was told after i lost my baby i was unable to have children. but i read something someone put about finging out if you got good eggs.

can anybody help me please thank you

xx

 

[loveinbinary]

C'mon ladies it's Wednesday!! Let's get chatty!!

Updates everyone!!

 

[rosababy]

hi everyone

my name is charlene can i ask a question please?

how do you find out if you have any good egg's inside of you because i have cysts on my ovaries.. i was told after i lost my baby i was unable to have children. but i read something someone put about finging out if you got good eggs.

can anybody help me please thank you

xx

I'm not sure, but isn't there a blood test...fsh or something? We haven't gotten that far into the testing yet. Sorry I can't help more.

Afm, AF came this morning. I had brown spotting and dull cramps last night, so it wasn't a surprise. I had a meltdown last night...sobbing about why me, and will this ever happen for us, etc etc. Pity party over. I'm calling a fertility specialist this morning and making an appointment. I have 3 cycles of clomid left before my ob-gyn wants to do anything else, but I'm taking things into my own hands and making an appointment. One more month and it will have officially been a year of trying.

 

[loveinbinary]

Rosa- I'm so sorry af got you. Good for you taking things into your own hands and scheduling an appointment with a specialist. Were you still just bd'ing the days your doctor said? Maybe you aren't catching the right days?

 

[Kiki0522]

Rosa- I am so sorry. I am thinking of you! That is fantastic to make an appointment with a specialist! Keep us posted! Hopefully they will get you in quick! What mg of clomid are you on?

I hope everyone is well! I finally o'd again on cd 18 so I'm 6 dpo and just waiting.

 

[repogirl813]

rosa, I'm sorry af got you! That really does suck, I wish you the best of luck with the fertility specialist

 

[rosababy]

Rosa- I'm so sorry af got you. Good for you taking things into your own hands and scheduling an appointment with a specialist. Were you still just bd'ing the days your doctor said? Maybe you aren't catching the right days?

We were still bd'ing cd 12, 14, 16 and 18. Not sure which is the best anymore. To use opks and do it everyday, or let the build strength and dtd every other day. Doc said every other day was fine, but who knows.

Rosa- I am so sorry. I am thinking of you! That is fantastic to make an appointment with a specialist! Keep us posted! Hopefully they will get you in quick! What mg of clomid are you on?

I hope everyone is well! I finally o'd again on cd 18 so I'm 6 dpo and just waiting.

I'm on 100 mg of clomid, and I got in with the specialist for May 18! I had my calendar open for July, thinking it would be the first time I could get an available appointment, but I took May 18th! It makes me a little sad that we even have to go through this much. I really was hoping to avoid the testing, and quite frankly am surprised that it's gotten this far into the process. My dh says we might as well go in May. Why wait until the summer? I'm a little concerned that my ob-gyn will find out and be upset with me. His instructions were to try clomid for 5 months and then call him back. Well, sitting around waiting doesn't work for me, and by THAT time, it will have been 14 months or something! Before we even START testing?! No, thanks.

 

[Kiki0522]

May 18th! That is awesome Hun!! I wouldn't wait around either. Don't worry if your obgyn will be upset. It's completely up to you what you want to do! I am in a similar spot with my obgyn. She wants me to do ivf but as long as I have my one open tube, I'm going for it. We can't sit around and waste more time trying things that aren't working or may not work. We plan to begin trying not knowing how long it will actually take. Then it begins to take so long we look back and think that we had no idea it would take THAT long. It's not fair at all. If we knew how long it would be, we would have started trying long before we did! I think it's great that you got the appoinment. It can only help and hopefully shorten your ttc journey! Fx'd for you!

 

[loveinbinary]

Rosa- no offense, but 4 days a month doesn't seem like the way to go, at least in my opinion. Especially considering you aren't guaranteed to ov in the early days you bd. Every other day sounds like it could be better, maybe try that and bd any extra days you two feel up to it? A lot of people get worn out with the trying everyday, can't really blame them, but if you are both in the mood for a few days in a row I say go for it. It can't hurt anything. I wouldn't worry about your obgyn finding out. The specialist would have to have your permission to speak with your ob-gyn about your treatment. I can't blame you for not waiting. I wouldn't wait either. Doctors think it's so easy to just sit around and wait until this time or that when they have absolutely no idea.

Kiki- grats on ov'ing!! 6dpo, how do you feel? Why is your ob-gyn pushing you for ivf? We know you can get pregnant on your own and since you still have one good tube it seems a bit drastic, considering for most it's a last resort.

 

[Kiki0522]

Love- thank you! I'm feeling pretty good! Temps are good so I'm happy about that. They actually look very similar to the month I conceived so fx'd. Im not getting my hopes up though. My cycle was crazy this month.
My obgyn wants me to do ivf because I only had one tube to begin with when we started trying due to endo and cysts 3 years ago and had surgery to remove the right tube and ovary so when we concieved, the ectopic was in my only tube which can cause more damage. But I had the hsg and it was open so I'm going for it til my tube is beyond repair or blocked completely. I think my doc just wants to take the sage approach.

How are you feeling?

 

[rosababy]

Kiki, your chart DOES look great!! FX that this works for you!

Love, we dtd other random times, not just 4 times a month. And clomid makes you o (or is supposed to anyway) 5-10 days after the last pill, which it is apparently doing for me. I honestly see no use (for procreation purposes that is) to dtd on cd25 for example, when the likelihood of my o'ing is very very low. Now with that said, no, I am not temping or using opks, so I do not know when I am o'ing for sure. But since clomid is supposed to make you o a specific amount of days later, and my cycles have been the appropriate length, I'm assuming that's what it's doing. No offense taken. I was just following the doc's orders. When I hear people doing it "every day" or "every other day", I'm assuming they mean in their fertile period, not the entire cycle. But who knows. The first cycle, we dtd on cd 19 and 21 as well, but that didn't work for us either. Who knows. We'll see what the fertility specialist has to say.

 

[loveinbinary]

Kiki- so glad to hear you are feeling good! Fingers crossed those temps provide good news soon!! I can see your doctors point of view on ivf, but I personally agree with your approach. Keep at it for as long as your body will permit. If your tube is still healthy and clear I see no reason why ivf is necessary unless it's a route you wish to take at this point. Plus ivf is really expensive and never a guarantee. I'm keeping good positive thoughts for you!

As for me, I'm alright. Absolutely exhausted which has left me feeling, not sick per se, but very run down. I ended up leaving work early yesterday to go to the doctor because I was having pinching pains and pressure really low in my abdomen which had dh and I worried. Luckily the doctor said it was nothing serious, likely to be muscle spasms and that it's my body's way of telling me I need to take it easy. It's a hard thing to do when I work 5 days a week standing on my feel for 8-8.5 hours at a time. On a better note, I finally caved and bought maternity pants. I feel like a whale but they are so much more comfortable lol. My mom came out on Saturday and we went shopping. We bought lo's coming home outfit, it's adorable!! Bought a few other little things for him too.

 

[loveinbinary]

Rosa- oh okay. I was under the impression you were only dtd those 4 days. I can see your point in not dtd so late in a cycle as the chance to ov is, as you said, slim. I always thought the everyday or every other day method referred to the whole cycle, but I would imagine it depends on what one is up to as it could go either way. Hopefully the fertility specialist will have some idea that will get you your bfp ASAP.