Thoughts on this....??

[stacie-leigh]

Each to their own, why does it matter to us or anybody else if she still breastfeeds? If they are both happy then fair play x

 

[chloeandbaby]

iv not read the whole thread but....

i dont bf, through personal preference

i think its up to the mother to do what they think is best for the child...

i also think that moms in the UK dont bf for as long as they do in other countries for some reason... so maybe thats why it is seen as more odd here?

each to there own, as long as we are all looking after our babies who cares if one has more boobie time than another??

 

[Palestrina]

Personally I think it is rude the lady said that, and as said, its not my cup of tea, but each to their own.

I woudl like to comment on some interesting points though and some personal opinion.
For me, I do too wonder for whom's benefit it is for and in my opinion, maybe its more for the mothers, and an aspect of not wanting their baby to have their own independence, letting go, etc. but thats just my psychology training coming in..

Also with regards to the sexual comments with boobs, my breast feeding book mentioned that it is common to get slightly aroused when breast feeding your baby, and so the fine line between them being 'sexual' or not is not that defined.

Finally, with the comment people make on other cultures, we are not living in those cultures, just as they are not living here. Maybe they would like to try our way, and might prefer it? We have a much more conveient, busy, working world,(in the West) where talking a baby into a client board meeting in a sling is not deemed appropriate, but thats our culture. Its the way we are. the fact that many do not extend breastfeed, is not a sad reflection on our society, its our culture. We dont not need to learn from other cultures, as many ways would not fit.

May I ask what BF book you have read that says that? I can't relate to that, I have never felt aroused by my baby BF. I don't discount it as a possibility but according to my experience it is absurd.

Of course we have our own culture. But in this globalized world it's possible and even necessary to learn from each other. Why not make our society stronger?

 

[heather91]

How many of the fromula feeding moms would give a four year old a bottle in public? I will not give Jaxon a bottle in public past age 1. I find it strange for a toddler to havea bottle (a nuk, or dummy too) past age one in public.

I feel the same about breast feeding. But I dont think its wrong to do extended breast feeding at all. I think its great, keep up the good work. (however, I can see where if you were flying, well thats a different scenario all togther, I woudl probably give a bottle, so I wouldnt think odd to bf).

I wouldn't think twice about giving tiffany a dummy or bottle in public. She still has both! I wouldn't NIP over a year though I don't think. No idea why, I just wouldn't. I FF my daughter and im BF my son.

 

[special_kala]

Personally I think it is rude the lady said that, and as said, its not my cup of tea, but each to their own.

I woudl like to comment on some interesting points though and some personal opinion.
For me, I do too wonder for whom's benefit it is for and in my opinion, maybe its more for the mothers, and an aspect of not wanting their baby to have their own independence, letting go, etc. but thats just my psychology training coming in..

Also with regards to the sexual comments with boobs, my breast feeding book mentioned that it is common to get slightly aroused when breast feeding your baby, and so the fine line between them being 'sexual' or not is not that defined.

Finally, with the comment people make on other cultures, we are not living in those cultures, just as they are not living here. Maybe they would like to try our way, and might prefer it? We have a much more conveient, busy, working world,(in the West) where talking a baby into a client board meeting in a sling is not deemed appropriate, but thats our culture. Its the way we are. the fact that many do not extend breastfeed, is not a sad reflection on our society, its our culture. We dont not need to learn from other cultures, as many ways would not fit.

May I ask what BF book you have read that says that? I can't relate to that, I have never felt aroused by my baby BF. I don't discount it as a possibility but according to my experience it is absurd.

Of course we have our own culture. But in this globalized world it's possible and even necessary to learn from each other. Why not make our society stronger?

Yea i dont think thats true

 

[My_First]

The book was 'Bestfeeding' Breast Feeding - This one https://www.amazon.co.uk/Bestfeeding-How-Breastfeed-Your-Baby/dp/1587611953 Page 80. "Sexual feelings are also normal during breast feeding". Re reading, 'arousal' was the wrong word, but the principal is the same.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Bestfeeding-How-Breastfeed-Your-Baby/dp/1587611953#reader_1587611953

And I absoluly believe in learning and accepting about other cultures, not necessairly adopting it.

 

[mumandco]

I bf my lo and he is 1 on Monday I have no intentions to stop nip,ds1 will be 3 in nov and if he needed his dummy whilst we were out I'd give it to him

I wish peoples attitudes were different when it comes to bf i get asked all the time if I'm still feeding him,when am I going to stop and oh my god you'll be feeding forever!

I'm hoping that I will never give into the pressure to give up I will feed my baby for as long as he wants the milk!

I ff ds1 and didn't feel any pressure to stop giving him milk from a bottle,he still occasionally has a bottle for bed

 

[tiggerpony]

The reason I stopped breast feeding my 3 day old (who is now 6 weeks old) was because I felt horrible - it hurt me and every time I looked down at her sucking on my boob (sorry if people dont like that expression but that is what they are doing - SUCKING ON YOUR BOOBS!) it made me think of my husband and on earth were we going to carry on with our usual sex life if milk was leaking out my boobs when HE kisssed them etc...the idea repulsed me. Also the fact I wouldn't be able to go to bed without wearing a bra - I hate wearing bras in bed they are so uncomftable.

If people want to breast feed their 4 year olds - whatever, it's up to them but IMO I find it creepy and I wouldn't do it. I would never say anything to anyone if I saw them breast feeding their toddlers - it's their choice. And if people get aroused by their babies breast feeding I'm sorry but there is something seriously wrong with them.

 

[patch2006uk]

I think as many people get aroused by BFing as have orgasms during labour/childbirth. It is most definitely not sexual, but I have heard that some people have quite a pleasant sensation while BFing. It's not something I can relate to.

And I really do think that if people aren't able to separate feeding a baby from having their husband suck their nipples, that is more an indication of something being wrong with their body image. Breasts are for babies. End of.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

my friend still BF a 3 1/2 yr old. I dont think its a huge issue. Its up to her. The only thing I would say is the child can not do anything, they do babify him to much and fuss over him and treat him like a newborn. I dont think the 2 are connected but I feel she is struggling to stop feeding him rather then him wanting it.

 

[jessie_m]

I actually remember listening to a radio talk show a few years ago about the subject of breast feeding and sexual arousal, and it was shocking how many moms called in and admitted that they felt a bit aroused by breast feeding. I for one don't know how as it hurts so damn bad at this point. But it does happen.

 

[Natsku]

It does feel nice, not in a sexual way, but in a calming, relaxing way. Its kinda hard to explain really. Though it did hurt like hell for the first two months

 

[Blah11]

The reason I stopped breast feeding my 3 day old (who is now 6 weeks old) was because I felt horrible - it hurt me and every time I looked down at her sucking on my boob (sorry if people dont like that expression but that is what they are doing - SUCKING ON YOUR BOOBS!) it made me think of my husband and on earth were we going to carry on with our usual sex life if milk was leaking out my boobs when HE kisssed them etc...the idea repulsed me. Also the fact I wouldn't be able to go to bed without wearing a bra - I hate wearing bras in bed they are so uncomftable.

If people want to breast feed their 4 year olds - whatever, it's up to them but IMO I find it creepy and I wouldn't do it. I would never say anything to anyone if I saw them breast feeding their toddlers - it's their choice. And if people get aroused by their babies breast feeding I'm sorry but there is something seriously wrong with them.

Personally I dont mind giving up something like my OH fondling my breasts for a short time as BF is really good for my baby Its not long in the grand scheme of things and after a few months you stop leaking so much anyway. & you can go to bed without a bra once you stop leaking.

 

[Blah11]

It does feel nice, not in a sexual way, but in a calming, relaxing way. Its kinda hard to explain really. Though it did hurt like hell for the first two months

i honestly dont feel anything when i BF amelie Its like numb or something LOL

 

[cherryglitter]

im learning loads from this thread lol! i thought your boobs leaked constantly throughout breastfeeding.

 

[LoraLoo]

It does feel nice, not in a sexual way, but in a calming, relaxing way. Its kinda hard to explain really. Though it did hurt like hell for the first two months

i honestly dont feel anything when i BF amelie Its like numb or something LOL

I'm the same I thought u SHOULDN'T be able to feel anything as the nipple goes to the back/top of their mouths?

 

[Blah11]

im learning loads from this thread lol! i thought your boobs leaked constantly throughout breastfeeding.

mine leaked for bloody ages. I think amelie was about 10 months before i didnt need to wear breastpads but i dont think thats usual.

 

[LoraLoo]

im learning loads from this thread lol! i thought your boobs leaked constantly throughout breastfeeding.

I thought that too when i first started! Its just because you make so much milk at first and yor body needs to learn how much it needs for your baby. Mine stopped leaking completely after about 6 weeks

 

[Blah11]

It does feel nice, not in a sexual way, but in a calming, relaxing way. Its kinda hard to explain really. Though it did hurt like hell for the first two months

i honestly dont feel anything when i BF amelie Its like numb or something LOL

I'm the same I thought u SHOULDN'T be able to feel anything as the nipple goes to the back/top of their mouths?

no idea.

 

[cherryglitter]

does your nipple go back that far then? no wonder it's painful when you're not used to it.