emyandpotato
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I hope it's okay to post this here, wasn't really sure where to put it!
Basically I get my implant out in November and I am so torn on whether to TTC or not. If we wait, we will be waiting for another 6 or so years due to my work. Age isn't an issue- I'm 23- and OH isn't bothered either way.
If we TTC soon our situation will be living in a small rented house, have a car, OH has a job although not brilliantly paid, and for the first year of baby's life I will be finishing the last 60 credits of my degree with OU, so will be at home and not too busy. LO will be starting school that year. I was planning on doing my PGCE after my degree but that would probably be put off a few more years. The plus sides of doing it this way is that I could have as much time before doing my PGCE as I needed, whereas if I was teaching we'd have a mortgage and I'd potentially struggle with maternity leave and then have to go back full time or perhaps part time but with a big drop in finances. Rory and the new baby will be only four years apart which obviously in itself has pros and cons. I also work part time as a tutor and could likely keep this up with some childcare help from family. I also started setting up a small WAHM business a few months ago but with uni and work don't have loads of time but may have more time in the staying at home years with a new baby. When I went back to work we would obviously begin saving immediately for a mortgage and wouldn't have any more so maternity leave wouldn't be an issue and I could concentrate on my career.
On the other hand I could wait. This means doing my PGCE as soon as I finish my degree, getting a teaching job and saving for a mortgage, which we estimate we could afford within two years of me teaching. We would probably have to wait until I had been in my job a few years so that would mean not TTC until Rory was about 10. We would overall be better off but the concerns would be the mortgage issue when I went on maternity, and the concerns about having to go back to work full time after a year, depending on finances. On the plus side there would be less of a jealousy issue, and we can travel relatively easily with just one child. Also, I worry that I am not a good enough mum to deal with two children, though Rory adores babies and I'm sure he'd love helping and having someone to play with and look after.
Sorry this is so long! What would you do?
Basically I get my implant out in November and I am so torn on whether to TTC or not. If we wait, we will be waiting for another 6 or so years due to my work. Age isn't an issue- I'm 23- and OH isn't bothered either way.
If we TTC soon our situation will be living in a small rented house, have a car, OH has a job although not brilliantly paid, and for the first year of baby's life I will be finishing the last 60 credits of my degree with OU, so will be at home and not too busy. LO will be starting school that year. I was planning on doing my PGCE after my degree but that would probably be put off a few more years. The plus sides of doing it this way is that I could have as much time before doing my PGCE as I needed, whereas if I was teaching we'd have a mortgage and I'd potentially struggle with maternity leave and then have to go back full time or perhaps part time but with a big drop in finances. Rory and the new baby will be only four years apart which obviously in itself has pros and cons. I also work part time as a tutor and could likely keep this up with some childcare help from family. I also started setting up a small WAHM business a few months ago but with uni and work don't have loads of time but may have more time in the staying at home years with a new baby. When I went back to work we would obviously begin saving immediately for a mortgage and wouldn't have any more so maternity leave wouldn't be an issue and I could concentrate on my career.
On the other hand I could wait. This means doing my PGCE as soon as I finish my degree, getting a teaching job and saving for a mortgage, which we estimate we could afford within two years of me teaching. We would probably have to wait until I had been in my job a few years so that would mean not TTC until Rory was about 10. We would overall be better off but the concerns would be the mortgage issue when I went on maternity, and the concerns about having to go back to work full time after a year, depending on finances. On the plus side there would be less of a jealousy issue, and we can travel relatively easily with just one child. Also, I worry that I am not a good enough mum to deal with two children, though Rory adores babies and I'm sure he'd love helping and having someone to play with and look after.
Sorry this is so long! What would you do?