To know the sex or not know the sex

[Angel]

My 20 week scan is next week and my OH doesn't want to know the sex of the baby(tho he is adament it's a girl),He said I could find out If I really wanted to.I am just wondering does it ruin the experience at the end?I didn't find out with my first cause I had a definate feeling I was having a boy.I also dont know if I could keep it a secret from my OH.

 

[bek74]

I found out what I was having with my 3, I don't feel as though it ruined to moment. Although if I manage to conceive again I won't be finding out,I will wait till the big day. I have already got 3 sons, so if it is another boy well so be it and if it is a girl well that would be a wonderful suprise.

maybe you could get the Dr to write it down and put it in an envelope and if you both change your mind you can open it together.

 

[Angel]

That is great advice Bek,I never thought of that.Thanks.

 

[Tezzy]

we found out and i thought i spoiled it a bit so this time we're gonna let it be a surprise

 

[Wobbles]

We were so excited with pregnancy with previous problems we wanted to know I did wonder if after I'd regret it but made it me bond more knowing she was not an it and calling her caitlin - im referring to a person if you know what I mean.

Good luck Hard lol You could always have that envelope idea and if one opens it they put in new envelope for the OH if they change mind too

 

[sophie]

With my 1st i never found out and it was such a lovely surprise, i have found out this time i couldnt wait, not even for the 20 wk scan lol. Anyway some days i wish ide waited but others i love knowing shes a she so theres good and bad points!
I def couldnt keep the secret lol im terrible! I would say go with what u feel best!
XX

 

[beanie]

I didn't find out with Seren and it was such an amazing moment when OH told me we had a daughter, when passing her to me (god I still well up at that). I am not going to find out this time either, and I am going to look for myself, fojus fe rihtto have OH tell me what we had no someoneI didn't know. I personally found it really helped especially as I had a tough labour and it was only the fact I was going to meet my baby and find out that kept me going at times. Plus I am not a fan of blue for a boy and pink for a girl so nurseries are neutral anyway and a for the clothes I just bought a few bascs and took my litte girl shopping, plus our friends and family spoilt her rotten. However some people like to feel organised so whatever suits you do it. I know people who found out and they were happy with knowing before the birth.

 

[Imi]

I found out with both my girls and i loved it ....

It made me bond like wobbs with them more cause i wasn't calling them 'it'

xxx

 

[TryingAgain]

We didn't find with out with our first 2 children & haven't found out this time either.

I don't feel like i didn't bond with my DD or DS, so i don't think i missed out on anything. It is such a wonderful moment when my OH has been able to tell me if we have a boy or girl & i look forward to him doing the same thing again!!

I was tempted this time to find out, my DD who is nearly 5 really wanted to know if she is having a sister, but i didn't want to risk them getting it wrong & her being disappointed. It isn't that long to wait!!

 

[beanie]

I never called my babies it, Seren was squigglybean and this one is spud, then it is always, them, they etc. Hate the word it, makes baby sound like an object

 

[beanie]

We didn't find with out with our first 2 children & haven't found out this time either.

I don't feel like i didn't bond with my DD or DS, so i don't think i missed out on anything. It is such a wonderful moment when my OH has been able to tell me if we have a boy or girl & i look forward to him doing the same thing again!!

I had to remind OH, he was too busy smiling at her and I was like "well...what have we got". Half expected hiom to turn round and go "a baby"

 

[TryingAgain]

Come to think of it, i've never called my babies 'it' either, usually just baby, or any nickname that we have at the time.

 

[TryingAgain]

I had to remind OH, he was too busy smiling at her and I was like "well...what have we got". Half expected hiom to turn round and go "a baby"

Sounds like something my OH would do too, when our DS was born i think he was glad he wasn't going to be outnumbered by girls!!

 

[Fruitymeli]

its your choice if you want to then go for it !
But i am so glad i did not find out because i think it will be a lovely surprise for the birth day
which is 3 days away yey

 

[Angel]

Goodluck Fruity,Thankyou for all your advise,It took me back to when my son was born and that moment that I was told I had a son.
I don't think I will find out,and I know what you mean about nicknames,my son was smeggles(red dwarf ref my OH's idea).I need to come up with a nickname for this one lol.

 

[Wobbles]

Good luck Meli

Smeggles lol Cute My li girls a little moo - I should stop that really! lol

 

[Stef]

I was far too excited that the excitment got the better of me and I couldnt wait to find out. I dont think it will ruin the moment though. The shopping etc is so much fun

 

[turbo_mom]

I still have a debate going on in my head about whether or not I want to know as well... I want it to be a suprise but at the same time I want to start buying gender specific and I want to break the news to everyone in an unforgettable way. I have 3 more days to think about this LOL it's going to drive me nuts!!!

 

[Angel]

I know what you mean turbo,My scan is tomorrow and I keep changing my mind.UGH

 

[Wobbles]

Good luck Angel