I just needed to vent on here to some ladies who understand...
I found out that we are expecting baby boy #2 on Friday last week, and I have been REALLY struggling with the news. I cried all evening Friday and periodically on Saturday and Sunday every time I thought about it. I still tear up when I think about it. I just so wanted a girl so that we could have one of each. I have struggled a lot in the past year because I have had trouble relating to my son as he is getting older -- he is just so into sports, trucks, rough and tumble stuff... and because of this, he naturally gravitates to my husband because they share common interests. He is such a "daddy's boy." It makes me sad that I haven't gotten to experience the "mama's boy" that everyone talks about. I also don't think that we will have another child, so I am mourning the little girl that I will never have.
I've also noticed that people seem so sympathetic when I tell them we are having another boy - it is depressing. They always qualify their congratulatory wishes with "oh, well at least DS1 will have a buddy" or "well I guess you will have to try for a girl!" It makes me feel like I got the short end of the stick, which isn't right. I don't understand why having more than 1 boy makes people sympathetic - like I am just a pitiful "boy mom." Everyone assumes that having 1 child of each sex makes a "complete family" -- which implies that having 2 boys is an "incomplete family." It makes me feel so much worse -- like I am supposed to be feeling bad about it.
I just needed to vent. I know that I will get over it at some point, but it just dampens the excitement. I'm not nearly as excited because we already have everything we need for a boy. Thanks for listening to my whining!
I found out that we are expecting baby boy #2 on Friday last week, and I have been REALLY struggling with the news. I cried all evening Friday and periodically on Saturday and Sunday every time I thought about it. I still tear up when I think about it. I just so wanted a girl so that we could have one of each. I have struggled a lot in the past year because I have had trouble relating to my son as he is getting older -- he is just so into sports, trucks, rough and tumble stuff... and because of this, he naturally gravitates to my husband because they share common interests. He is such a "daddy's boy." It makes me sad that I haven't gotten to experience the "mama's boy" that everyone talks about. I also don't think that we will have another child, so I am mourning the little girl that I will never have.
I've also noticed that people seem so sympathetic when I tell them we are having another boy - it is depressing. They always qualify their congratulatory wishes with "oh, well at least DS1 will have a buddy" or "well I guess you will have to try for a girl!" It makes me feel like I got the short end of the stick, which isn't right. I don't understand why having more than 1 boy makes people sympathetic - like I am just a pitiful "boy mom." Everyone assumes that having 1 child of each sex makes a "complete family" -- which implies that having 2 boys is an "incomplete family." It makes me feel so much worse -- like I am supposed to be feeling bad about it.
I just needed to vent. I know that I will get over it at some point, but it just dampens the excitement. I'm not nearly as excited because we already have everything we need for a boy. Thanks for listening to my whining!