Totally Talkative, Crazy 1st-timers (NTNP/TTC #1!) - [22+ BFP's & 18 babies born!]

[flapjack10]

I missed OBEM. I hope it's repeated because I don't have one if those fancy new fangled recording devices.

I only want my DH there with me. My Mum's a stone faced nurse (that's the nice way of putting it) and she'd do my head. She's one of these people who says 'you can't be feeling that' or 'I knew that' when she clearly didn't. I think my hubby wants her there though he keeps asking me and when I say no he asks if I'm sure over and over!

Hi Sharris! Hope you're well! Thanks for the congrats!

Xxx

 

[mrsswaffer]

i had my mum and df with me at the hospital. my mum played more of an active role but that suited df fine as he didnt really know what to do with himself anyway bless him lol although saying that, we both have said that for the next baby we want it to just be the two of us

joo, please dont be scared of labour! i know its easier said than done though. im the type of person who thinks their arm has fell off if i get a papercut but i coped really well with labour. no shouting/screaming/moaning or anything! the one thing i remember thinking to myself with each contraction was 'one step closer to baby' i also remember telling myself (in my head, or out loud who knows!) during contractions that as soon as it hits its peak it'll go and it made them feel half as long as i was only focusing on one half of them if that makes sense??

ps sorry for typos/bad grammar etc, im typing one handed as i have a sleeping max on my lap!

Some good tips!! I'll try to remember to do that - I suppose a lot of it comes down to positive thinking.

FJ, I'm sure OBEM can be found on 4OD.

 

[Aurora CHK]

4od is being weird, do you have any cable/satellite? X

 

[flapjack10]

I don't have tinternet - just on my phone. Le sigh!

Just freeview - so poor!

xxx

 

[Aurora CHK]

I meant on telly, do you have Virgin or Sky etc, or just terrestrial?

 

[Aurora CHK]

If just terrestrial, its repeated on Monday at 11.05pm, kinda late but maybe worth it?

 

[flapjack10]

Ooooh much too late for me these days! Thanks for checking hun. It is channel 4 so it'll be repeated a million times on More 4 or Really!

xxx

 

[disneydarling]

Just watched this weeks OBEM, there's no way I could have my mum there!

I love my mum so much and we are so close, I talk to her almost every day and she's always the one I want to comfort me when I'm upset or angry about something, but I really don't want her there for the birth. I feel like it is a thing for just me and my husband to experience together, and I want all other family members to stay well away from the hospital until I feel ready for them to visit.

Has anyone been watching the US version of OBEM? It's on 4od. Lots off women on that show have multiple family members there for the birth and loads more waiting outside. I would find that so awkward and intrusive. It's great for them as they obviously have a lot of support but it would be my worst nightmare. When I'm in pain the last thing I want is loads of people around me, and when baby arrives I would hate for it to be some sort of competition as to who holds her first!

 

[flapjack10]

I suppose it's a bit of a culture thing. Bet their hospitals have massive waiting areas too whereas ours are just a couple of chairs in the corridor by the labour ward.

I agree with you though DD I wouldn't want that either. Nevermind the fact that they could be waiting in the comfort of their own homes - so nicer for them!

xxx

 

[Smile181c]

I had no problem with visitors but my hospital rules were only 2 visitors at a time and there was only 2 visiting slots a day so it was quite gentle I was so out of it after I just kept falling asleep, sometimes in the middle of my sentences!

 

[Aurora CHK]

Oh God, I'd hate to have loads of people waiting on me to give birth! Just me, DH and a doula, I think. I might not even tell people it's happening until after its happened, don't want people texting us asking inane questions or facebooking about it! Guess I'm quite private really and suspicious of people's motives!

When I got engaged, I told my best friend in person, who then told his girlfriend on the phone, and she immediately went on my Facebook wall and posted 'congratulations on your engagement, wheee! exciting!' and I was just so annoyed, I was like 'are you really congratulating me, or just wanting to show off? Why post that on my wall before I've even posted anything about it myself, and you could have just asked him to pass on your congrats, or even PM'd me if you wanted to say something directly to me? It just looked like it was about 'being the first' and it was soooooo inappropriate! I hate it when I see on FB walls things like 'congratulations on your baby's birth' before the family have posted. Stop attention-seeking by trying to make it look like you're dead close to the person, but actually doing something that a real friend wouldn't do (steal their thunder and reveal details of their personal lives).

When I got married, people kept texting me and my family on the morning asking questions, it was like 'er, we're kinda busier than you right now, its too late to ask us where the venue is/what the colour scheme is - refer back to whatever you've been sent previously, or get creative - ring the venue, ring another family member, bring a change of accessories... its kind of not about you at the moment?!'

Haha, clearly Monday morning I'm such a grump. I guess I just don't love my family/friends as much as some of you guys do

 

[joo]

I've been poorly sick with this virus that's going around... Which I picked up at the health centre might I add! Anyway it felt like the flu (even though I had my flu jab months ago!), I was laid up in bed for a few days. I was up & about yesterday, but got my 1st full night sleep last night, no night sweats &feeling good this morning! So don't go to the doctors at the moment if you can help it, you might leave with more crap than you went in with! I don't know why people bother going to the doctor with it, they can't give anything out for it

Anyway regarding the birth, it will just be OH & me. I can't stand the thought of people waiting, talk about pressure! And I don't think we'll let anyone know until the baby is born - don't think OH & I will want to be answering calls & texts through the whole thing! I will definitely (if I'm lucid) post a little something on bnb though, that's different! X

I'm having a day of doing nothing, except putting my feet up & watching TV - MIL's orders! Don't need,to tell me twice xxx

 

[Smile181c]

I understand what you mean aurora! When I had my 20 week scan and found out what flavour max was I text my friend with a pic saying his full name and then before I'd even touched Facebook she'd wrote on my wall saying congratulations on max Daniel etc i was so pissed! Especially as I wasn't planning on putting his name on Facebook at all! Xx

 

[Aurora CHK]

I understand what you mean aurora! When I had my 20 week scan and found out what flavour max was I text my friend with a pic saying his full name and then before I'd even touched Facebook she'd wrote on my wall saying congratulations on max Daniel etc i was so pissed! Especially as I wasn't planning on putting his name on Facebook at all! Xx

Great example, Chlo. Clearly just showing off to everyone that you told her, subtle 'in your face' to all your other mates. I'm sure she doesn't REALISE that's what she was doing, but its still the case. Eurgh!

And JOO - will definitely update you guys, that's different though! Beyond friends or family!

 

[disneydarling]

Oh God, I'd hate to have loads of people waiting on me to give birth! Just me, DH and a doula, I think. I might not even tell people it's happening until after its happened, don't want people texting us asking inane questions or facebooking about it! Guess I'm quite private really and suspicious of people's motives!

When I got engaged, I told my best friend in person, who then told his girlfriend on the phone, and she immediately went on my Facebook wall and posted 'congratulations on your engagement, wheee! exciting!' and I was just so annoyed, I was like 'are you really congratulating me, or just wanting to show off? Why post that on my wall before I've even posted anything about it myself, and you could have just asked him to pass on your congrats, or even PM'd me if you wanted to say something directly to me? It just looked like it was about 'being the first' and it was soooooo inappropriate! I hate it when I see on FB walls things like 'congratulations on your baby's birth' before the family have posted. Stop attention-seeking by trying to make it look like you're dead close to the person, but actually doing something that a real friend wouldn't do (steal their thunder and reveal details of their personal lives).

When I got married, people kept texting me and my family on the morning asking questions, it was like 'er, we're kinda busier than you right now, its too late to ask us where the venue is/what the colour scheme is - refer back to whatever you've been sent previously, or get creative - ring the venue, ring another family member, bring a change of accessories... its kind of not about you at the moment?!'

Haha, clearly Monday morning I'm such a grump. I guess I just don't love my family/friends as much as some of you guys do

I completely agree Aurora! When my sister in law had just given birth last year, just as we received the phone call from my hubs mum and dad, his other sister had already posted on facebook a 'congratulations, its a girl, so happy for you' type of status, like it was a competition as to who could get it on facebook first. I think I am going to have some sort of rule that no family members can post anything on facebook either. gosh I do sound like a bitch haha.

We also took the wedding thing one step further, we were planning a big wedding that I was really excited about, all our families got too involved and we ended up going to Vegas and getting married without telling them
I know thats totally selfish, but I just cant handle people trying to get to involved with things even though they are our family and I really do love them a lot.

 

[Aurora CHK]

Disneydarling, I like your style!

People can be such eejits, eh?

 

[xopiinkiieox]

Just checking in...! I'm so busy with work these days that I just don't have the energy to login every night! Haha.

AF arrived for me awhile ago. But, a 27 day cycle! Much better than the 34 days I was having. Anywhoodles....nothing to report, other than co-worker had a baby girl Friday. So precious! Also, work stinks...and, to all!

 

[MommaAlexis]

My family was on a strict, "talk and I'll kill you" policy. They blabbed to everyone when I got engaged, I made it a point of telling them whoever talked without my go ahead was going to be excluded from everything baby related. I meant business lol. No one talked.

 

[disneydarling]

Lol Alexis, sounds like a good policy to me!

 

[Laura91]

Hi ladies Trying to catch up on all my subs - hard work when I've been slacking

OH actually thought that when I went into labour, we rang our families and they all came and waited at the hospital. Even better, he thought that my parents and his parents would be in the delivery room with us
Even when I discussed homebirth with him, he thought all our family would be waiting in my mums living room (having it at her house) - how awkward!

The Facebook thing, ugh. To start with OH didn't want anything baby/pregnancy related to be put on FB but I have family that I don't get to see often so wanted to be able to share with them - he agreed. Then he wanted it so that we didn't tell anyone the sex - I disagreed and he came round. We have decided though that we aren't putting her name on until she's born. There needs to be some sort of surprise!

OH's sisters really don't think though.

When we had our first 3D scan done, I sent both his sisters a sneak-peak of her smiling. Literally 10 seconds later I got an update on my phone saying that she'd tagged me in a picture - yep, she uploaded straight to FB

I then had to quickly send it to my parents and sister so they didn't find out through FB or through some friend/neighbour/random.
I think some people just don't think, at all.

I'll be having a strict "nothing gets put on FB until either me or OH have announced"