trying before af

[Tmb0047]

I see no one has posted in a few days but thought I'd pop in and say "HELLO" anyway!

I am so sorry that all of you ladies have had to go through a loss. I recognize a few names in here from a December Due Date forum I had started.

I had a D&C last thursday (June 5th) after an ultrasound showed an empty uterus ( I would have been 12weeks and 6days). I was bleeding and clotting heavily the day prior and I believe I passed the baby then. I'm guessing baby died a few weeks back as I never heard a heartbeat or had an ultrasound to confirm anything and I never passed anything that resembled a baby. My guess is that it was still really small or I possibly had a blighted ovum...I guess I'll never know.

Anyway, my DH and I chatted about our plan of action and neither of us want to wait. A Fall/Winter baby is ideal for us but we have decided not to waste months of waiting just so that baby's arrival will work better for DH work schedule. Plus, due to my stupid long cycles and lack of ovulation, passing up any chance at an egg would just be silly.

I hope we can liven this forum back up and support each other until we all get our rainbows?!?!?

 

[Bug222]

hi tmb0047- so sorry to hear of your loss xxx

 

[MissJenn_xx]

tmb - Sorry for your loss

A winter baby would have been ideal for DH and I also. I tried to catch the first egg after my d&c in on May 8th, but unfortunately I got my AF last week, but were hoping this cycle is it! FX

Good luck to you!

 

[mcwhmm]

Sorry to here of your loss! I'm 5 weeks post mc today and no signs of af. I had positive opks and ovulation symptoms on June 1st. I'm hoping I really O'd. I have been getting positives last weekend on frers but they weren't getting darker. I have read that it is possible to have residual hcg and still ovulate and get pregnant. So we will see! I'm actually happy with either now. If I get a bfp I will be ecstatic but af will be okay too bevause then I will be back on a cycle

 

[Tmb0047]

Thanks ladies

DH and I did the deed last night (sorry, tmi). I was so nervous as it was only 5 days post D&C. They said to wait two weeks but there was just such a need to be close intimately right now. Kind of feels like it helps with the healing process....

How long did it take for all you ladies to test negetive on HPT's post loss? Mine are still showing really strong positives. I'm going to test again on Friday and then wait till the following Friday and test right before my follow up. I just want it to be negative.

 

[Bug222]

mine are showing negative now.. but yesterday was the first one i have taken so I dont know when they would have actually turned neg. Im 22 days after cytotec

 

[mcwhmm]

Mine showed strong positive for about a week and then faint for another week and now idk what's going on

 

[babytoes]

I tested negative about 2 weeks after my miscarriage. Been doing the deed with hubby since then!! Lots of luck to you all xx

 

[mcwhmm]

I had a dip in temps today, but not below the cover line. I also had crampig this morning and when I wiped my cm looked slightly brown.. But I could have been over examining it lol. We will see though!

 

[Tmb0047]

Mcw - how many DPO do you think you are? If you HPT's had turned negative then they shouldn't start to turn back unless you are indeed pregnant. Have you tested again?

Thanks ladies for answering my question. I'm 1 week post D&C today. I'm going to test tomorrow to see how my test are looking. Hoping it will start getting light now.

 

[mcwhmm]

I am anywhere between 9-11 dpo. My tests on wondfos were negative but then when dried had a sligh shadow on them. The first one that looked negative was on the 23rd so if it's left over hcg, which I think it is, it must have plateaued for 20 days. Also, my tests are not getting darker. I'm going to wait until Monday and then see. My doc did a test on the 27th but did not check betas and he said it looked negative and my ultrasound showed that everything had cleared and passed and my uterine lining was built back up for next cycle. I'm supposed to call them on Monday if I still have not gotta ad

 

[kits]

I know everyone's body is different and I'm not trying to preach, we've all had our own devastating experiences but ladies we're told to wait at least one or two cycles because one way or another we need to fully heal.

Just because we feel ready we may not be physically ready and vice versa.

I know it's not easy, believe me I know.. Maybe we'll never fully recover but give yourselves healing time.

I appreciate there's lots of stories of success with those who tried immediately after a mc (not talking about chemicals) but there's also lots of ones that just lead to more more MC's & chemicals.

After about 11 weeks after my 9 week mc I started the gym again & when I tried to do sit ups where you raise your legs I just kept getting sharp stabbing pains. All that time I thought I had fully healed, but nope.

It wasn't until 2 full AF cycles where I could do them.

Wishing you all the very best & loads of sticky

 

[mcwhmm]

I got af. At least now hopefully I am regular!

 

[Tmb0047]

Mcwhmm - Sorry to hear that AF arrived....but yay for the positives of it - regular cycle and on to a new cycle! Did it take you long to conceive last time? Hope you guys catch the egg this month and baby settles in for the long haul ��

AFM - Bleeding seems to have stopped! I thought I was going to spot forever �� Followup is Friday...counting down to that!

 

[mcwhmm]

I am trying to look at the positives! My period ended now and I am anxious! Lol I don't even know what to expect out of this cycle. I was so regular before! My af came 35 days after my mc started, but 31 days after I passed the sac, and my cycle pre pregnancy was 31 days. So who knows! I got pregnant with my daughter a week after stopping birth control and then with this pregnancy I fell pregnant just a few months after getting the implant removed, so I have always fallen prefnant easily.

It's a good sign that your bleeding bad stopped and you are only spotting! I know I felt like I was going to bleed for ever!

 

[Bug222]

sorry AF arrived mcw.. hopefully this is YOUR cycle!

I know what you mean about feeling like you will be spotting forever- I spotted for 23 days- thought it would never end!

 

[Tmb0047]

Wow, 23 days?! I guess I won't complain then because I'm only on CD13 and my spotting stopped about 24 hours ago now....I'm just hoping it stays away now!

 

[Bug222]

haha- yeah a looonnnngggg 23 days! lol I think about 2 weeks is considered "normal" but for some reason my platelets dropped when I MC so I was passing clots for almost 2 weeks

 

[Tmb0047]

Geez, that's horrible. What day are you at now in your cycle?

 

[Bug222]

CD 27.... my cycles are usually 25 days so I have no idea what to expect from this one!