trying for 2 years...still no baby

[iwantbebebad]

Yeah I agree about abortion BIG NEGATORY!!! Stupid people. Not caring about all those loving parents who can't conceive. Not us of course lol. In addition, adoption wasn't for me either but if it was, do you know how HARD it is to adopt in the USA? I don't make enough money or a big enough house according to the government, forget love and family. IT IS IRRITATING!! Thank you Shawty I agree about my blessing and thank you for your wishes on my second. I think everything will be ok for you and you will get that BFP very soon.... Hugs!

 

[iwantbebebad]

Hey Shawty what is your DPO? or OD?? Where you at babe? Put a ticker up they are fun to count down with!! Oh and I PROMISE the minute you say to H*LL with it, you will get knocked up immediately lol. It will happen. My husband laughs and says I will probably not conceive our 2nd until I am menopausal and he is in his 60's like Hugh Heffner. I think he would look good in the red robe lol

 

[shawty2707]

I just joined this site today so i'm kind of slow on the ticker thingy haha. How long have you been tryin for #2?! I agree wit the red robe I like that idea! lmao.

 

[shawty2707]

I was just looking at the tickers and since my periods are so irregular how do i go about putting in all the information?! I'm soooooooooo lost lol

 

[iwantbebebad]

well i would just use the one i have, i copied it from someone else. go to the site and input your last period and how long your last period was. that will give you an idea. i skipped a couple cycles so i just used my "common" cycle length with my last date of period. Dont be lost lol I joined last night at 2 am and put up like 40 posts lol that nobody cares to read lol. Just venting though nothing important. I got blood drawn today for life insurance. The nurse was cool and asked for a quantitative pg test. That will tell EXACTLY how much pg hormone there is. I guess if its 5 and up you are pg. Unfortunately, the results wont come back for two weeks lol and i will have AF by then.. POOP

 

[iwantbebebad]

Oh been trying for #2 since December 31, 2008. Not long. But like we talked about, I have waited since Nov 2002 to EVEN TRY! Additionally, I still dont know if my husband has sperm at all. Who knows. Only God I guess.

 

[iwantbebebad]

Do you know the lingo yet? LMAO I have just figured out some of it today.... Tricky ... Still dont know what DH means of BD... HMMMM Husband and some kind of sex lmao

 

[shawty2707]

lol these forums can be pretty addicting...I've been at work all day and got NOTHING done but sit here and read through a bunch of these. I must say it keeps me busy! lol. I dont even remember my last period cause this one has been going on for almost 4 months straight now...it will be heavy then it will slow down, stop and thats when i cramp REALLY REALLY bad and then i'll start spotting brown...its never ending and stressing me out! I just want it to go away. I swear to god i have pcos but the doc says no! ugh!

 

[shawty2707]

well when ppl are using the abbreviations i just google them I google everything imaginable! haha...i'll catch on quick i hope...i was really stumped when i seen BFP...i was like what the helllllll...there are so many of them!

 

[iwantbebebad]

Hey what was your birth control before you had all the bleeding problems? Was it depo? I guess even if it was it would have gone away by now. I bet the doctor wants to put you on BC pills to even you out huh? UM NOOO! Well I read (google of course) that you cannot OV while on menses. Dont know if it was true. When did you get a break that you THINK you ov'd?? AF SUCKKKKKKS!!! But you might not be having menses eh? It might be sporatic spot bleeding and not a true endometrium shed. So you might be ov-ing in between bleeding and spotting periods. What DID the doctor say? I am curious... Any hints to anything?

 

[iwantbebebad]

Oh yeah and what kind of cool job do you have that you can google all day Lmao Tell them to hire me too lol

 

[shawty2707]

Well i'm actually pretty ticked off at my doctor right now. I went in a couple months ago and told her my situation and that i think i might have pcos. she told me no and directed me towards an infertility clinic which would cost me thousands of dollars and i in no way can afford that! I went back just last week (AGAIN) and said i need to be seen again. Well its liek she didn't even hear me the last time i was in and she said well i think you might have pcos! i was like are you f'n kidding me?! after all the money i spend coming to this damn place you NOW take me serious!? I was so irate...but like i said everything came back fine i guess...thats what the nurse said when she talked to me...I just still think i have it...all my home ov kits are positive and i have SO many symptoms of it. in 2007 they did the ultrasounds for the first time and said that i had some follicals on my ovaries. they did one last week and said everything was perfect..i'm getting mixed answers and its driving me so insane! I dont know what to think. They did put me on BC over a year ago and i took it for like a week. I get so sick I just throw it up anyways. I'm one big mess!







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[iwantbebebad]

Gosh that sucks. Yeah PCOS sucks. You have to take a blood test I guess to know for sure which you might have had. I didn't have it and there is still a chance, like I said two gyns said I had it but the reproductive specialist said no. I trust him more, he does that for a living. He said if I wasnt pg in a year to check my husbands sperm (nooooo) and then blood test my leutenizing hormones and check for pcos. SUCKKKKS... Well at least your ultrasound went good. That would rule out big cysts or fibroids which can cause a lot of bleeding. The u/s would have caught that. Hmmmm. What did google say lol. That is my primary care physician...Probably fibroids. Thats what it says I have because I have had uterine pain constantly since Jan 24. Hell I might not even be fertile. Nobody knows.

 

[Aria]

Unfortunately, being in America, you're kind of screwed. Check this for states that require any coverage and which three simply require plans with fertility coverage be offered to employers who can turn it down. It's insane that there are no laws requiring, at the VERY least, comprehensive diagnostics to be run. Insurance will cover medical problems caused by drinking a couple bottles of vodka a day or smoking an entire case of cigarettes every day, but nothing says that we can get full tests for a condition we didn't cause. THIS ISN'T FUCKING RIGHT!! We're lucky Apple picked the plan for some fertility coverage, but we're still in debt out the hoo-hah, and I can still appreciate the challenge of doing this with nothing. I never dreamed of any coverage at all. This shit makes my blood boil, really. I don't think people in the UK can fully appreciate the coverage the do have. This stuff is ALL covered as long as certain qualifications are met. We have no equivalent. Having children is a right in this country only for those who can afford it - free if you can have them naturally, or out of pocket or with some coverage. This pisses me off!

Sorry for the rant. I'm pissed that there haven't been more tests done for you, and really that is probably due at least in part, if not entirely, to insurance limitations. There is a reason why you're not pregnant, and there is a reason your periods are so insanely long, and you deserve to know the answers.

 

[shawty2707]

I agree 100%. I mean really how would anyone like to live like this?! I can't even live a normal life. Its been so bad to the point I have to skip out on work (or high school) or other things just because of this. I always feel like sh*t and I'm so moody all the time (I feel bad for my husband). I just want to cry sometimes. If i am constantly on my period how am i suppose to get pregnant? and if i'm not on the rag for 3 months AGAIN how is it possible? I feel like i can't win either way and maybe i should just stop trying. I hope, dream and pray someday i can be a mommy. My heart just melts when i see babies. I feel like i'm asking for too much because i'm so needy but thats why i was put on this earth...just sucks so much. I see you are pregnant Aria and congrats! Hope everything goes well for you!

 

[shawty2707]

I'm really starting to wonder if my doctors just aren't taking me seriously. I mean I am only 22 but i have been with my husband for over 2 years. We have talked about it A LOT. He always goes with me to my appointments. I just dont understand. I'm so upset because I thought for sure the last time i went in they would help me out. But i get the phone calls back that said everything is perfectly fine. If things were "PERFECTLY FINE" i wouldn't be wasting my damn money on those stupid visits to the stupid doctors! UGH!

 

[LankyDoodle]

OP, in your photo you look to be a normal weight, and if your blood work came back OK, and the US came back OK, then are you sure there is no problem with your partner's sperm?

Being overweight can affect a woman's fertility (I am overweight), because being overweight can lead to insulin resistance which can lead to higher levels of testosterone and no ovulation, even if everything looks fine on an US.

Does your partner take vits and do you both have healthy diets, no smoking/low alcohol intakes? Are you BDing every other day or every few days, every day during ovulation.

Irregular periods usually signal lack of ovulation, according to research I have read. I would go and get a second opinion regarding why you may not be ovulating.

 

[shawty2707]

My partners sperm count is good. He has a kid with his ex so I dont see a problem there. My periods are VERY irregular. I'll have it for 1-4 months straight then not have it for a couple months. But it seems i'm on it more than I dont have it. Should i go to a gyno?! would they help me out more than just my regular doctor?!

 

[shawty2707]

Another thing, I constantly feel bloated and I have gained weight. I used to average around 115-117 and now i'm almost 138!!! I always feel so crappy and tired and drained...I have been this way for about a year now. It just never seems to go away! I feel nautious at times. I guess it might just be the period symptoms CONSTANTLY! I just feel so damn helpless!

 

[LankyDoodle]

I would definitely think about seeing a gynae if your normal doctor is not giving a satisfactory answer to your problems. It really doesn't sound like things are as they should be, but only a gynae could tell you one way or another. Knowing a little about how the health care system works in the states, I would go for the gynae option.