trying for 2 years...still no baby

[Laughing Girl]

Hi there,
traditional chinese medicine combined with acupuncture is working for me....the theory is that menstrual and hormonal problems are signs that the body is out of balance. Diagnosis, followed by herbs and acupuncture work together to redress that balance, resulting in regular menstrual cycles and hormones doing what they're supposed to when they're supposed to. Its no quick fix - 3 months in general, but I am seeing improvements after my first month.
Its worth looking into.
Good luck x x

 

[Peardrop]

If you are able to see someone with a greater specialism in this stuff, like a gynae, it sounds like you need that. The crux of the issue certainly seems to be your irregular cycles and your long periods. Is there a way you can do that in the US without it costing you lots?

I apologise if you are already doing this but I am trying to think of positive things you could do that will help someone sort out your problems and one other thing I would do to help would be to keep a diary of everything, however small (including all your previous tests, when they were done and their results and any comments by your doctor, your AF and all other symptons as well as things such as your weight - both from the past and into the future, your OPK's etc). That way when you are a talking to a gynae or another doctor; you don't waste any money etc going back over things/redo tests etc that have already been done and, of course, a pattern may emerge that a doc would see.

Lastly, I would chart your temperatures whilst you are waiting for any future appointments. Use fertility friend. Again, this would help you and/or a healthcare professional to get a slightly different insight into your situation and may show whether or not you are ovualating etc plus it allows you to log other symptoms, when you BD, any meds that you are on etc etc (plus the lessons it sends you are also very informative.)

Lastly, although I have NO personal knowledge on any of these problems (I have just started TTC), there seems to be many variations of things such as PCOS and again someone with a specialism may be able to help more than a regular doctor.

I really hope you are able to find a way of seeing someone else. A huge hug to you and let us know how you progress.

 

[louisaL]

hi hun, sorry to hear your struggling but ur in the right place for support. from ur first few posts the one thing i picked up u saying was that u keep having positive ovulation tests. What are the lines like cause you will get faint ones which will get darker and darker as soon as their as dark as the control line then that is when you ovulated. the faint ones are negatives.

i would def recommend doing the fertility friend chart.its free, just take ur temp every morning as soon as u wake up put it in the chart and take the opks. when the opk line is dark and as long as ur temps are right the chart should tell u when u have ovulated. 14-16 day after test and fingers cross u should get there...sounds so easy right? we wish lol

 

[iwantbebebad]

OP, in your photo you look to be a normal weight, and if your blood work came back OK, and the US came back OK, then are you sure there is no problem with your partner's sperm?

Being overweight can affect a woman's fertility (I am overweight), because being overweight can lead to insulin resistance which can lead to higher levels of testosterone and no ovulation, even if everything looks fine on an US.

Does your partner take vits and do you both have healthy diets, no smoking/low alcohol intakes? Are you BDing every other day or every few days, every day during ovulation.

Irregular periods usually signal lack of ovulation, according to research I have read. I would go and get a second opinion regarding why you may not be ovulating.

Yeah I hear you. I was like I said diagnosed by two gyns as having PCOS. WITHOUT DIAGNOSTIC TESTING they put me on Metformin to "Shed my PCOS weight" (I am 50lbs over, but just lost 41) and GUESS WHAT?? I gained 23 lbs in two weeks on metformin. I finally quit taking it and switched doctors. What do you know? I am hypothyroid.. Now on synthroid and getting thinner everyday and feel great. GYNS CAN BE HOLES SOMETIMES LOL

 

[shawty2707]

WELL.....I have tons of information to look over I think I will end up going to a gyno. I mean then they can give me pointers. Now i have just been spotting for like a week. Hopefully my period will stop!!! After about 4 months i'm going crazy!! Im not like completely over weight. In fact the only placed i gain weight is my tummy. I can tell i'm overly bloated. I just really can't seem to find anyone who has the same problem as me....I hope i'm not broken forever

Anyways, so after i have the sperm usually just wants to come right out...its so hard to keep it in. Could this be a problem or why I might not have got pregnant yet? Usually we finish when he is on top or doggy style. (God i feel so blunt right now :S).

I just want to thank you all for your imformation. This site is SO WONDERFUL! All your input is greatly appreciated!

 

[LankyDoodle]

Shawty, what comes out is actually the seminal fluid. The sperm continues its journey in vaginal fluids, but does not take the seminal fluid with it; this is what leaks back out.

 

[shawty2707]

Shawty, what comes out is actually the seminal fluid. The sperm continues its journey in vaginal fluids, but does not take the seminal fluid with it; this is what leaks back out.

Ok well i'm glad to know this SO many ppl told me to leave it all in as long as you can and let me tell you what...thats hard work! lol

 

[iwantbebebad]

LMAO I love you Shawty-- Semen rushes out of me too. It is all I can do to hold it in. I was getting distressed because my DH said it never did that with his ex... Honestly its always done that with me. I felt weird. I never asked though.
Carrie1983- Thank you for making this clear lol. I have been like upside down and indian style...now i can let it go bye bye and know the baby juice is on the way minus the mucousy friend that wont cling on lmao
Shawty- It hurts me that you even hinted that you are "broken".. You are so young and completely UNDIAGNOSED... You might be having a simple hormonal situation that can be brought under complete control with the right care of a gyn.... If you dont like em dont go to em. Trust me. If you do see a gyn they will probably do some blood work that you may have already had done like LH levels and such to find out where you actually are in your menstrual cycle vs the bleeding (could be "spotting" not actual menses)
Anyway, I have learned a lot from the IVF forum lol and they would tell you to keep good hope. They have been diagnosed as having difficulty and are happily finding other solutions although difficult at times I am sure. I bet with the RIGHT doc you will snap back full force and probably beat me with the BFP... I am rooting for you... I liked you from the start lol...
HUGS!

 

[shawty2707]

Lol oh you guys are amazing! You all know how to make me feel better! I mean maybe it is something so simple like that. I mean i'm not unhealthy at all (i am pretty lazy and I dont work out) but if blood work and all these tests are coming back good then wtf. I dont think the doctors would lie to me if something THAT serious was wrong. I see SO many unhealthy people spitting out kids and I get so damn jealous. But we all do! lol. Ohhhh i just wish things could some more simple in life but by the time i get my BFP i will cherish and love this child more than words can say. I am working hard for my little boy (yes we really want a boy!). I give hope to all you who are TTC as well. I'm praying for all of us!


GOD BLESS!

 

[iwantbebebad]

OK FIRST THE BOY LMAO They are pottymouth pains in the butt-- but they ARE mommas boys lol... I know I have the nine year old... You wouldnt BELIEVE what I hear sometimes. No its really not that bad..Just an EXTREME preoccupation with anything fart,butt or toilet related... I really wanted a boy too. I was convinced that I wouldnt get what I wanted and would have a girl. I named her and everything. On the day of the ultra the doc said "Hung like a horse." I screamed A BOYYYY!!! And he has pretty much been my right hand man since. He is so collected. When me and my DH fight (rarely lol) He says "I'll get the suitcase mom." Now how is that for being on your side lol...
I only have one you know. I asked my sister (who has three) if she loves them all the same. It sounds dumb but when you have just had one for so long its hard to imagine sharing or even worse, what if you loved the new one more? She just laughed and said she felt the same. She said she loved them all for WHO they were- different people. Makes sense. Yes Shawty get your butt on the phone tomorrow am and find a doc that sounds cool... a GYN... Before your appt get together all your test results and patient charts. Its a pain in the ass, but it saves you money because hopefully the new doc wont retest completely unnecessary stuff. Like I just got tested for PID. OK. Whatever lol. I am in a committed mono marriage for seven years. I actually got scared. I was like "can it stay dormant for seven years?" NO! So yes, take ALL your stuff. I am to the specialist on Wednesday. I don't want to pay labs on another PID test. Hell why not test me for Clamydia too lol?? Anything these days to make a buck. Watch out that you dont get taken- the economy is bad and people (even docs) are scamming because normal folks arent going in for silly things anymore. We too broke! I called the vet tonight because my dog was crying and they wanted $120 just to see her not including the $400-$500 for tests.. Not even guessing what was wrong. Now when a dog costs more than eval of your reproductive system there is a problem. My SPECIALIST charges $192 and that includes a full pelvic. LMAO.. The dog seems to be doing ok. Hopefully she doesn't die in the night.. That would suck... Anyhow... Wow a book... Well I am past comments lol.. We are like in full discussion now.. I cant wait to see you succeed. And I feel your pain. I got depo when I was sixteen and bled mud for seven months. It SUCKED!
Hugs!
Sarah

 

[iwantbebebad]

PS Thanks for the tour of your bathroom lol... Love the ceramic statue behind you... Have worshipped that same one several times in my younger years LMAO

 

[iwantbebebad]

PPS Shush about health... I am a hog lol.. SO FAT!!! I got complacent then my thyroid went out and BOOM big pig. Slowly losing though. If I had your bod my DH would have probably already knocked me up.. Oh that was horrible. I didnt mean that. I love me. Whats not to love lol.....

 

[shawty2707]

Don't worry about your long discussions because I enjoy every minute of it! I have been up for 24 hours now. Not sure whats wrong with me...I have had cramps so bad they double me over and I'm barely even spotting! Its unbearable! So about my charts and labs and stuff...how do i get all of that stuff?! Do i just call the clinic and go pick them up? I think i found a place i'm going to call tomorrow! But with my work schedule and all i probably wont be able to get in until next week tuesday or wednesday (my 2 days off a week IF i'm lucky!) Speaking of dogs my red nose pit is a big whiney b*tch....he is SO needy and craves for attention and if he doesn't get it he barks and whines and whimpers...UGH! He is so damn cute but such a pain in my ass...ecspecially when I'm in this pain...he is the last thing i want to deal with!


wantbebebad- do you have a myspace or facebook?!

 

[shawty2707]

My DH is constantly all over me..he is like a dog in heat. I have no problem in that department!! lol

I think everyone who has seen that pic has pointed that out, lol. I get a lot of "sh*t" for it but its all in good humor

 

[iwantbebebad]

 

[iwantbebebad]

Hey girlie! I haven't heard from you in awhile! How are things going? Any luck, any news anything? You are a sweet girl and you deserve your bfp very soon. I hope you are well.