Trying to conceive #1 Buddies!

[Lawes1987]

AF is now two days late. I'm CD31, either 12 or 14dpo and still getting

 

[Earthylove]

Sorry about the bfn lawes! Keep us posted on any updates!

Afm, I'm on cd9 and the opks are getting a little darker. I'm going to start daily testing tomorrow so we'll see how that unfolds!

How is everyone doing?

 

[Lawes1987]

I'm out. AF arrived this morning, heavy and bright. 3 days late. Just as I was about to take another test. Oh well

 

[Trr]

Hello ladies!
Hoping I can join your group? Currently cd2 and going on my 4th cycle of trying. I'm exhausted already lol

 

[MagicDance]

Super - Yeah youre right. Everyone is entitled to fun
Your cycles sound fine btw! I wouldnt worry that youre irregular. Everyone has a few off track cycles but if you know your cycles well then you sound pretty okay to me.
For me (at the time I was coming off various med treatments for skin conditions) it was more lengthy I mean like 40 days or extremely short and bleeding between periods which was a nightmare >.< I can still have 28 -34 days but my Gp said that was fine and the 34 days was because I was ovulating late which I dont seem to do anymore.
Vitex (agnus castus helps to settle your hormones and help with any imbalance) I hope that helped I do tend to waffle.

Lawes1987- sorry for the witch catching up with you All the best for the next round.

Trr - Welcome! Im obviously bias but this is a great group to join Dont be exhausted it will soon be that time again Good luck.

 

[lvksa]

Already have a bunch of open circles. Last month it was because of travel, but now I realized how it is impossible to temp at a consistent time on weekends here. I can do it during the week because I wake up at the same time for work, but here is is a cultural norm to be awake until 3-4 or in the morning when with family or for social events. When that happens I end up just sleeping and temping when I do wake up because otherwise I haven't had enough hours of sleep to temp at my regular time >_<.

I'm going to try and see if I can find opks at the pharmacy here. I'm not sure if I will find them or not, but hopefully. Maybe that will help me be a bit more confident about O day. So far my two different charting programs have given me different suggestions for O days.

 

[Earthylove]

Hope you can find some opks ivksa! I'm sure that will help with detecting o since temping sounds a little tricky for you right now.

Yesterday I bought an ergo baby carrier from someone second hand, but in really good condition. It was such a good deal, I couldn't pass it up! I made a really low offer on it thinking the person would say no way, but they accepted. Hah! I felt so crazy though for buying baby things when I'm not even pregnant.

 

[Trr]

Earthy- I did the same thing for a bassinet and a playpen this week. Sometimes you have to let the crazy out.

 

[supergongjoo]

@lawes sorry af showed. new cycle new hope as we say in thie thread lol


@earthly im on cycle day 6. we are going to bd every other day after cycle day 10 and every single day during my fertile window. I REALLY REALLY wana end the year with a growing bean

@trr welcome! You are gorg miss! i am also biased but this group is filled with support and sprinkles of tips.

@ivska have you tried amazon? they sell opks for cheap and deliver

 

[psychochick]

Haha my friend who is done with babies was giving away pregnancy stuff like pillows and stuff and I claimed some months before I was trying. :X

Sorry about the AF lawes, nothing worse than getting your hope up and then getting it dashed. These days I'm actually relieved when AF comes early or on time heh, so I can stop thinking about it.

O is either today or tomorrow, if signs are right! It's rabbit BD time!

beemeck, haven't heard from you in a while, how'd the doc go?

magic: hot zombie makeout, love it. I actually feel kind of inspired now. Feels like an opportunity to really mix up the sex life.

 

[MKaykes]

Ha! Glad to hear I'm not the only one picking up baby gear before getting pregnant! I got a free co-sleeper from a family member, and just picked up 3 bags of maternity close from a friend who is done having babies after 2. Saving myself some money, but hoping I'm not jinxing our chances. I was so hopeful last cycle, I thought it would be a good time to get the maternity close, then AF arrived.

Welcome to the group Trr!

How early do you ladies usually start OPKs? I've been pretty regular, but find I get equal lines for several days and then 1 day with a much darker test line. I've been worried I actually have too high of levels of LH, but since it does get darker then I get a temp rise, I think things are working okay?

CD 8 for me, so probably will start OPK testing late this week or this next weekend.

 

[AnitaKFS]

I'm new here. Trying to conceive #1 and rapidly losing hope. We had our first IUI almost two weeks ago now, and, despite several symptoms, I had a BFN on a pregnancy test today.

 

[supergongjoo]

@mkayes im usually the same. i start testing with opk around cd 11. i usually get a few days of almost as dark test lines then occasionally darker test lines for 1-2 days before getting a very clear negative.
i havent bought anything for future baby but i have an entire folder in my phone with announcement ideas, and baby room ideas lol

@anita welcome! so sorry to hear about your struggles. i find myself losing hope sometimes too. its HARD to stay positive. at least for me. i find it helps if i let myself just be sad and frustrated for a day. just to let out all those emotions. And then i get back on the grind. i remind myself that god is just making me a much stronger woman and future mom. and how fulfilling and satisfying it would be once my little one comes knowing i stayed strong ( for the most part lol) throughout the difficulties.

 

[MKaykes]

I too have a hard time staying positive, but I have a coworker who tried naturally for 11 months before conceiving, with no intervention, just the waiting game. Her second child only took 2 months of "trying." I really try to hold out and know that when the time is right it will happen and it will all make sense when it does!

 

[emmy_jo]

Hello ladies! I would like to join your group as well! :wave:

A couple years ago, my hubby and I (we're 24) decided that we were gonna let nature take it's course and NTNP getting pregnant. Went on for 4 years like that and nothing! So we decided to get a little more serious and I got on BC for 6 months because last time I stopped taking my BC I got pregnant the first cycle off (though it ended in mc) and thought maybe it would happen again (but carry to term this time) and just got off it last month (Sept. 13th). This is our first cycle TTC and I think I'm out already. I've been steadily spotting for 12 days now, so I know my cycle is all screwy from getting off BC... We are now impatiently waiting for this weird AF to stop so we can move on with the next cycle.

I am planning on using OPKs and temping but I've never done either before and had a couple questions...
-Do you ovulate when your temp spikes or dips?
-Is trying every other day better than every day?
-What cycle day should I start testing with the OPKs?
-What is your CM supposed to look like when you're ovulating?

I'm pretty clueless about all the methods of TTC and any help would be VERY much appreciated!

 

[Trr]

Hello ladies! I would like to join your group as well! :wave:

A couple years ago, my hubby and I (we're 24) decided that we were gonna let nature take it's course and NTNP getting pregnant. Went on for 4 years like that and nothing! So we decided to get a little more serious and I got on BC for 6 months because last time I stopped taking my BC I got pregnant the first cycle off (though it ended in mc) and thought maybe it would happen again (but carry to term this time) and just got off it last month (Sept. 13th). This is our first cycle TTC and I think I'm out already. I've been steadily spotting for 12 days now, so I know my cycle is all screwy from getting off BC... We are now impatiently waiting for this weird AF to stop so we can move on with the next cycle.

I am planning on using OPKs and temping but I've never done either before and had a couple questions...
-Do you ovulate when your temp spikes or dips?
-Is trying every other day better than every day?
-What cycle day should I start testing with the OPKs?
-What is your CM supposed to look like when you're ovulating?

I'm pretty clueless about all the methods of TTC and any help would be VERY much appreciated!

Oh so many questions...

Ovulation usually happens with a temp rise noticed the next day. If you are using a charting app like fertility friend then it won't confirm you have ovulated until you have 3 days of high temps and by that time you missed your chance. I use OPKs to let me know when I am about to ovulate then the high temps confirm that I actually ovulated.

There is mixed information about doing the deed everyday vs every other day. My husband and I did it every day in my fertile period and still nothing. So we are going to try every other day this cycle. See what happens.

I usually ovulate on day 13 so I start testing at day 9 or 10. I have a 26 day cycle usually.

CM took me a while to figure out. I didn't think I was getting fertile cm until I really started looking. When you are fertile it will turn to water or egg white consistency. Egg white is the better one. Now get ready for too much info but it was very useful for me. I had to reach up using 2 fingers and touch my cervix to find my egg white cm. do that then pull them out and stretch your fingers like you are giving a peace sign. If it stretches between your fingers and your OPKs are getting darker, I would say it's go time.

GL and hope this helps!

 

[beemeck]

hi girls! I've missed you!

hi new ladies and hi over here trr!!

although I'm exhausted from some crazy times in Vegas, I am feeling really good about my TTC journey. I had my Dr appt last week. As expected, my Dr was very aggressive with figuring out what's going on. I got my bloods taken that day and he called me the next morning. He said that my hormone panel looked great and that the symptoms I'm experiencing may be left over from my methotrexate shot (a type of chemo used for ectopic pregnancies) or from stress. I don't feel stressed really - every month I'm convinced I'm pregnant and then just feel sad when I'm not, but I think stress must be playing a role. I relaxed by the pool most of the weekend, got a massage and facial, and really think I just need to keep up with these type of things to relieve some of the stress. As predicted, I think I am O'in early this month (guessing today is the day but will see what today's OPK says - I'm expecting it to go lighter).

So overall just feeling refreshed. Glad that my hormone levels are normal and now just trying to be calmer about the whole process. My temps got messed up from Vegas - traveling, drinking, not sleeping, time difference, hot weather and sun etc, but back on track now after I had to discard 1 I can see my SO's point about not traveling close to O. I had EWCM the first day there and panicked. Luckily I packed my OPKs and they were negative. Was going to BD every other day this month, but did already panic there and can't resist BDing when I know I'm fertile. hopefully this is it. can't wait to catch up with all of you xoxo

 

[psychochick]

I am planning on using OPKs and temping but I've never done either before and had a couple questions...
-Do you ovulate when your temp spikes or dips?
-Is trying every other day better than every day?
-What cycle day should I start testing with the OPKs?
-What is your CM supposed to look like when you're ovulating?

I'm pretty clueless about all the methods of TTC and any help would be VERY much appreciated!

Welcome

The only thing for certain is that your temp will generally be higher after you ovulate. You can take a look at the fertilityfriend gallery: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/cg/ Some people's temps dip on the day of ovulation, but some don't, so that's not a clear sign at all. That's why you're not supposed to use your temperature to predict O, but only confirm O.

If your cycle is x days, and you've never used OPKs before, I would start x/2-4 or something like that. Just for the first few cycles or something, and then once you figure out your pattern, you could do it a little closer to suspected O. And BD every other day even if no positive OPK and if you temp as well then a clear pattern will emerge and you will still have your bases covered.

Every other day vs. everyday depends on the person. We usually do every other day until fertile window in which case I want to do it as close to O as possible so we end up doing everyday or something like that.

This article is very good about describing your CM:
https://www.babycenter.com/101_what-cervical-mucus-looks-like-through-your-cycle_10351429.bc

It took me a while too to understand cm because sometimes i get in there and it just feels like some sort of liquid, but just make sure you get a glob of it from your cervix and then look at the texture and stretchiness.

Hope this helps

 

[psychochick]

beemeck: woohoo las vegas! I actually never felt "relaxed" in las vegas but it is a lot of fun hahah. Glad to hear your hormones are normal. I also just got +opk yesterday, which is actually a day later than the past few cycles. Also first time having ovulation spotting in years! I know it's supposed to be normal but it's not normal for me. I just don't like surprises unless they're >=5DPO lol.

Also I just received royal jelly, am taking a teaspoon with hot water first thing in the morning now. Tastes like honey so pretty yummy!

 

[beemeck]

beemeck: woohoo las vegas! I actually never felt "relaxed" in las vegas but it is a lot of fun hahah. Glad to hear your hormones are normal. I also just got +opk yesterday, which is actually a day later than the past few cycles. Also first time having ovulation spotting in years! I know it's supposed to be normal but it's not normal for me. I just don't like surprises unless they're >=5DPO lol.

Also I just received royal jelly, am taking a teaspoon with hot water first thing in the morning now. Tastes like honey so pretty yummy!

haha you're right, it typically isn't relaxing but I made sure to stay by the pool and soak up some sun as well as getting a massage and facial at the spa. the night got hectic though

I know the feeling about surprises - I don't like them either. But maybe I'm desperate at this point and just want something different since the past months obv haven't been working ! so fx it's a good sign for you!