Trying to conceive #1 Buddies!

[beemeck]

welcome new gals !

It's nice to have some newbies here with all of the excitement of TTC - it's contagious and just what we needed. Been feeling refreshed since my doc appt where everything was clear and my vacation with spa time and pool time, so hopefully all of these things do the trick for me. Good luck to you all and

 

[psychochick]

beemeck: omg I didn't know about your DH's journey with his family, that sounds like a tough situation I was almost married to someone whose family just literally didn't want him to get married, to anyone it seems like. They had some bad abusive/control issues. He tried to stand his ground but I could tell it hurt him a great deal and I also felt a lot of pressure being his only family. Not to mention the situation hurt me as well. He couldn't hold out though so I called off the wedding, which worked out for the best for both of us. That was several years ago but I can still recall the weight on my chest from it and that's how I felt reading your post

I really hope the situation doesn't add too much stress to your TTC process. As you said, both of you are capable and just need to let it happen. In the grand scheme of things, a few extra months is just a blip in time.

And yes I see you're 1DPO yay! it's time to let it go and focus on something else while we wait.

 

[beemeck]

beemeck: omg I didn't know about your DH's journey with his family, that sounds like a tough situation I was almost married to someone whose family just literally didn't want him to get married, to anyone it seems like. They had some bad abusive/control issues. He tried to stand his ground but I could tell it hurt him a great deal and I also felt a lot of pressure being his only family. Not to mention the situation hurt me as well. He couldn't hold out though so I called off the wedding, which worked out for the best for both of us. That was several years ago but I can still recall the weight on my chest from it and that's how I felt reading your post

I really hope the situation doesn't add too much stress to your TTC process. As you said, both of you are capable and just need to let it happen. In the grand scheme of things, a few extra months is just a blip in time.

And yes I see you're 1DPO yay! it's time to let it go and focus on something else while we wait.

aw thanks PC He is from India and the first person in his family (they go back "thousands" of years) to go against having an arranged marriage. so needless to say, there was LOTS of drama. Things are calmed down now as they have stopped speaking to us, and it's honestly for the better. He is hurt, but they were toxic and my family is wonderful and loves him so much. I just know that he is beyond ready to create his own family and in a way get closure by making sure not the make the same parenting mistakes they made. Sounds like your situation was for the best. I used to tell myself that I would leave him so that he could have his family, but the reality was that I never could, and didn't think they were good for him anyway. He is so happy now and has no regrets, so our situation worked out for the best too.

now what can we focus on for the next 2 weeks??! lol next weekend is super jam packed with halloween parties, but I only have one this weekend - go figure. by next weekend I should know! must. keep. busy. you'll know soon! FX for you big time and chart is looking good for sure

 

[Erin6714]

Maybe I'm just frustrated because I feel like this is on me - since we fell pregnant the first try, I know we are both capable. But since that pregnancy ended up almost taking my life and my uterus, I know we must not be getting pregnant now because of my body and healing process, not his. So I feel like I am failing and constantly letting him down. I can handle tracking my own ovulation by myself, but it's like it thinks I need help with it. If he's in the bathroom when my thermometer beeps, he runs out to ask what the temp was that day it just drives me nuts!

I know I should appreciate that we are totally on this journey together, and when I do get my BFP again I'm sure it will be so nice. Since his family has now disowned him, he is desperate to start a family of his own and I want to be able to give that to him so badly. so c'mon body - work! officially 1 DPO..... trying to just breathe and think positive.

So sorry to hear about your first one. I'm sure he feels like he is letting you down too though. I think that's just in the male nature...you know the whole "me man, me must provide" thing. And since the majority of the journey is very much yours, he's trying to be involved in the only way he knows how, the only way he can. So many women would absolutely die to have their husband be as enthusiastic as yours. I know you know that, but its just so true.

As for me, today is AF day...and so far nothing! I'm trying so hard not to get my hopes up just yet and also fight the temptation to go ahead a test. A couple girls at work are like "go for it!" and other are like "just wait a few more days, make sure you're really late"....and I keep going back and forth myself!! Its exhausting!!

I completely split down the middle... but a little background on why im so torn....im like clockwork. Literally. You could set your watch AF with me. So even 1 days late is enough for me to be overexcited. Help! Please!! I need thoughts or experiences please...to distract me if nothing else lol

 

[beemeck]

thanks erin! I really do know that I'm lucky to have him be so super supportive, I'm just so high strung with all of this failed TTC

as for you missy - It all depends on what your thoughts are about seeing a BFN, although honestly, if you are past AF and it's going to be a BFP, you would see it by now. some people avoid testing early because they might get a BFN and then get a BFP 4 days later, but I would hardly call this testing early! Some also would rather have AF show up then to look at a neg test. Someone on another thread said it interestingly - that it was like a double let down - first the neg test, then AF. I myself would have tested already and would totally be testing now! But that's because I just cannot wait if I know there's a possibility of me knowing sooner

it's a great sign that you are like clockwork. I'm so excited for you! let us know. I say test BUT you have to do what you think is best for you.

 

[Erin6714]

So, I decided not to test last night or this morning. And I'm glad because I'm cramping a little this morning. I haven't fully started but I can feel that I'm probably getting ready to. I know its only month #2 for us, but I'm still really bummed. The girls were so sore this month that I thought for sure this might be it...but its not looking like it.

 

[beemeck]

you never know! I don't want to give false hope but I will say that I had a lot of cramping after my BFP - I would go to the bathroom to see if I was bleeding - that's how convinced I was that it was AF. And I even ran all over Italy to buy another pregnancy test (we were on our honeymoon) because I was sure AF would be showing up... so you just never know

 

[Erin6714]

OBSESSION IS A REAL THING.....my cramps have backed off to almost nothing, which I will say is a little unusual. Normally, AF's first day is like the flood gates opened and I feel like I've been beaten with a baseball bat. I've had a little bit of light brown spotting and that's it so far, which is also a little unusual for me because normally once the cramping starts within 30 minutes, again, the flood gates usually open. I'm trying not to be too hopeful...but you know how it is...

Question though, does anyone else ever get that throbbing, achy feeling in your inner thighs when you're cramping? That is the worst...only having a little bit of that at the moment, but I just wondered if anyone else experiences that.

 

[beemeck]

it's all sounding good to me so far.... FX

I don't think I've experienced that sensation before? hmm

 

[lvksa]

Hi ladies. I'm not very good these days at checking in. exams coming up. I'll be spending most of this weekend with my laptop on the couch writing up finals.

 

[Erin6714]

Sorry for any excessive posting and the play by play of my bodily funtions...but honestly that's why I joined this thing....so, my little bit of spotting has also completely stopped. I have never cramped with no flow. I don't think I can resist testing at this point. I'm picking some up after work and if there is still no AF by the end of the day I am testing in the morning. I'm starting to feel a little excited, which is probably a bad idea but when I went to the bathroom and realized that I still had nothing going on down there, it kind of hit me that this is really not how this normally goes for me. And this tiny little ball of nervousness started to form in my belly....am I as insane as I feel at the moment?

 

[beemeck]

Sorry for any excessive posting and the play by play of my bodily funtions...but honestly that's why I joined this thing....so, my little bit of spotting has also completely stopped. I have never cramped with no flow. I don't think I can resist testing at this point. I'm picking some up after work and if there is still no AF by the end of the day I am testing in the morning. I'm starting to feel a little excited, which is probably a bad idea but when I went to the bathroom and realized that I still had nothing going on down there, it kind of hit me that this is really not how this normally goes for me. And this tiny little ball of nervousness started to form in my belly....am I as insane as I feel at the moment?

no that is exactly what these threads are for! and it's so funny - you get engrossed in other women's stories and then I'm like oh I wonder what so and so's CM is like today, lemme sign on

do you have any idea when you O'ed? I know you weren't tracking a lot, but even before tracking I had very definitive O pains.

and you aren't crazy! I got pregnant on our first try and was kind of like, oh wait - shit. I wasnt' expecting that! then I was jumping for joy but it is all kind of crazy when you think about it. Go get those tests girl - even if AF shows this time, you'll be needing them !

 

[Erin6714]

Well, its funny that you ask that because most of the time I will feel an O pain on one side or the other, and like you, its usually pretty distinct, occasionally I wont feel anything at all though. This month I don't remember feeling anything at all, but my app told me it was supposed to be on the 7th and we DTD on the 5th and the 7th.

Having said that, in Sept (month #1) I was told it was going to be on the 11th but I was positive that I felt it on the 9th...well I made sure we DTD on both days for good measure....but no cigar. And even as I type this I'm back to very mildly cramping again, but still no flow.

 

[beemeck]

yeah, some months I'm doubling over with O pain and other months don't notice a thing! It's so odd. Keep us posted!!

 

[MagicDance]

Hi ladies. I'm not very good these days at checking in. exams coming up. I'll be spending most of this weekend with my laptop on the couch writing up finals.

Hey girl Good luck with it all.

Im not very good at getting on either these days, works too stressful atm and its driving me bonkerssss

 

[MagicDance]

Hellooo.. (Just catching up on everyones goss. Im missing so much I will try and make more effort to get on) Hope everyones well and Hi to all the noobs

anyone left who hasnt ovulated yet? Im always behind you guys haha.. best get on the Raspberry tea Im cd 15.. hoping to O soon x

 

[lvksa]

@MagicDance
I dunno if I have or have not. I'm CD 17. Calendars have predicted O for either yesterday or the day before. Don't feel my charts are too reliable due to temping at different times. I guess I'll see if I get a temp rise here in the next few days. Also, haven't had any EWCM yet. Possibly watery, but I always struggle to differentiate cm with his leftover fluids.

 

[Erin6714]

MY BOOBS HURT!!....and I'm just gonna leave that there.

 

[MagicDance]

@MagicDance
I dunno if I have or have not. I'm CD 17. Calendars have predicted O for either yesterday or the day before. Don't feel my charts are too reliable due to temping at different times. I guess I'll see if I get a temp rise here in the next few days. Also, haven't had any EWCM yet. Possibly watery, but I always struggle to differentiate cm with his leftover fluids.

Same here.. I have been ovulating earlier previous cycles so was just being cheeky in expecting it now.. Also have b/d perfectly but will have to be patient and keep it going me thinks
Hopefully you will def be able to tell from your temps now. Yeah know what you mean about the lovely (not!) leftovers. My ewcm is something I can't miss so I know I haven't ovulated as have a little cramping alongside.
We will join the tww soon

 

[MagicDance]

MY BOOBS HURT!!....and I'm just gonna leave that there.

Mine too - but I had a fat cat paddling mine!! Hope yours is for better reasons