Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[Nazz4]

GUESS WHAT! Another friend had a baby last night. Her 3rd. And she supposedly doesn't even have any ovaries.

According to her, they were removed several years ago and it should be impossible for her to have children. Of course she is a devout Christian and believes that god has blessed her with children despite her lack of ovaries because I guess she is so deserving to be a mother.

When I asked her what she believes god's plan is for couples who are infertile, she said she thinks that god doesn't want them to be parents and that they should find another life calling.

Maybe I will take up a trade. Like carpentry, or electrical engineering.

I'm sorry, I don't want to talk bad about your friend, but you just can't get pregnant with out ovaries. There would be no eggs. She's obviously been misinformed or is lying. And no, infertile people should not go do something else lol. They should just find a different way of getting what they want. I'm not a Jesus or god basher or anything... But reproducing is all science, not some plan. I almost feel it is selfish that with how many people and animals are living on earth people think that god cares about your baby making journey. There are already too many people on earth, but like I said, it is science. If you can't reproduce you just need to do some type of ivf, iui, surrogate, or adoption. There is not only one path to having a baby.

 

[turtlettc]

GUESS WHAT! Another friend had a baby last night. Her 3rd. And she supposedly doesn't even have any ovaries.

According to her, they were removed several years ago and it should be impossible for her to have children. Of course she is a devout Christian and believes that god has blessed her with children despite her lack of ovaries because I guess she is so deserving to be a mother.

When I asked her what she believes god's plan is for couples who are infertile, she said she thinks that god doesn't want them to be parents and that they should find another life calling.

Maybe I will take up a trade. Like carpentry, or electrical engineering.

I'm sorry, I don't want to talk bad about your friend, but you just can't get pregnant with out ovaries. There would be no eggs. She's obviously been misinformed or is lying. And no, infertile people should not go do something else lol. They should just find a different way of getting what they want. I'm not a Jesus or god basher or anything... But reproducing is all science, not some plan. I almost feel it is selfish that with how many people and animals are living on earth people think that god cares about your baby making journey. There are already too many people on earth, but like I said, it is science. If you can't reproduce you just need to do some type of ivf, iui, surrogate, or adoption. There is not only one path to having a baby.

I know - my friend is ridiculous. I don't believe in god which makes it really hard to argue with her about it because she is so set in her ways thinking that she is somehow special that god gave her children despite having no ovaries. Seriously - how does she think the kids look like her? Something in her body must be producing genetic material. Bah. It just makes me feel like sh*t that she has it in her brain that I am somehow not worthy of being a mom because to her I have been shunned by god.

Come to think of it - why am I friends with this person?!

On another note, one nice thing about not being pregnant this month is that I'm drinking a caesar right now (its like a bloody mary but with clam juice for you Americans out there) and it's soooooooooo good.

 

[Bubbub]

I am now ready to take on the idea to vent here as nobidy is supporting now.hubby says you only have just baby to talk to about and now i am purposly avoiding talking to him regarding this.
Ttc since last 7 cycles fully prepared.having been charting ,opks, cervix check,cm check,what not and what do i get?af arrives everytime.whats wrong with me?and on top of it this cycle is behaving strangely.actually i have decent idea that this cycle is anovulatory.spotting on and off n no temp spike to be seen.though i have stopped regualry charting and doing anything related to conceiving since last 2 months.just bd ofcourse
Cant take that this cycle is a bust...or worst if all previous cycles after bcp were bust...u never know

 

[imaginary8x]

Was right period is here again like normal... :/ on to the next month.

 

[Nazz4]

Bubbub, I'm sorry you're going through this and hubby isn't exactly enjoying the baby talk I wouldn't be able to handle that. I hope you have good luck on your baby journey, don't give up just yet.

 

[amysueno]

I went to a fertility clinic and had an ok experience. A friend of mine loves the folks at her clinic.
Any particular concerns?

 

[sandybum]

Hi all. I'm brand spanking new in here and also new at the whole TTC game. So I've been on yaz and stoped taking it 3 days ago ( sun night) we dis it on the Sunday night and Tuesday night. Today (weds) I've been cramping in my lower belly between my hips quite low, any idea if this is anything. Ovulation? Implantation? I'm not sure when I'd be ovulating as I've been on the pill for so long and have never paid much attention to it.. Any tips would be awesome!!!

 

[AmaryllisRed]

I took a different pill, not yaz-- but I'm thinking if you just came off of it three days ago, you should wait for your withdrawal bleed and count that as cd 1.
I recommend charting your cycles to get a handle on what your body is doing... and coming off the pill, it could take awhile to regulate.
Good luck to you and lots of !!

 

[sandybum]

Ok so my withdrawal bleed started today. So this is counted as day 1 of my cycle? Is that right? Which days are in general considered to be the most fertile? Thanks for the reply! also this may be TMI but when trying to get pregnant can it still happen when it all leaks put after? There seems no way of stopping that.. Tips for keeping it 'up there' (classy I know). X

 

[sandybum]

Sorry about my typing, on my phone, tiny tiny buttons!

 

[AmaryllisRed]

Yes, if your withdrawal bleed started today, that's cycle day 1.
If you had a "perfect" 28 day cycle, which almost no one does, your fertile days will be somewhere around the middle-- ovulating on cd 14 and fertile about five days before and one day after.
I highly recommend fertilityfriend.com for learning to chart your fertility signs so you can learn over a few cycles when your most fertile days are. It's free.
I know it seems like a lot of it falls out, but it should be fine.
They do make cups for that, though... google "softcups" or "instead cup" or "diva cup." A lot of women lie with their legs in the air for 20 min afterwards, but it's really not necessary and zillions of people have gotten pregnant even though they got up and peed right after!

Anyway, if you check out the rest of the "TTC" section of this site, there are lots of lovely ladies who have combined DECADES of experience and most of them will happily answer your questions.

 

[Nazz4]

Yes go make a Fertility Friend account! It's free don't worry. Also start paying attention to your cervical mucous, in fact just go and google "cervical mucous through out cycle" or something like that. And definitely pop into the TTC section, I promise we don't bite.

 

[sandybum]

Thanks guys!! I think I may pop in and take a looksy!! Ok so I won't worry to much about most of it coming out, maybe I'll just stay put for a few extra minutes afterwards! Isn't it funny when your younger you try everything to prevent it but when you get a bit older.. Me-26.. You just want it to be super easy.. Ahhh life! I'll start trying once this blasted bleeding stops, can't remember it ever being quite so crampy!! Wish me luck and good luck to everyone else!! X

 

[Nazz4]

I know how you feel... I'm almost angry with my old sex ed teachers that made me think that if you don't use protection of some kind you WILL get pregnant, and even if you do use protection you still might get pregnant! I know they just said that because they don't want teen pregnancy, but OMG can't they add, "but when you're in your 20's and on it might be hard to conceive" or something?

 

[sandybum]

Haha yes!! So funny!

 

[CKBBs]

I know! I'm sort of furious with myself for all the money and mental anguish I spent on birth control (and WORRYING about being pregnant each month) in my 20s, when apparently it is so hard to get me pregnant that an entire p*rnstar cast couldn't manage it!!!

 

[Nazz4]

I know, I always thought I might get pregnant on birth control and that I would almost definitely get pregnant if I missed one! BS.

 

[CKBBs]

I know, I always thought I might get pregnant on birth control and that I would almost definitely get pregnant if I missed one! BS.

Haha, I spent probably half of my 20s being freaked out and praying to escape being pregnant (while on birth control, too). I would have had a lot more relaxing time of it if I had known what the odds actually were. Sex Ed classes, you're such rubbish!

 

[Nazz4]

I know, I always thought I might get pregnant on birth control and that I would almost definitely get pregnant if I missed one! BS.

Haha, I spent probably half of my 20s being freaked out and praying to escape being pregnant (while on birth control, too). I would have had a lot more relaxing time of it if I had known what the odds actually were. Sex Ed classes, you're such rubbish!

I think I went through more pee sticks when I was on BC than now when I'm not... now I'm like "pshh... pregnant... yeah right."

 

[sandybum]

Haha hilarious! There needs to be a second round of 'sex ed' for when you reach your 20s!! So how old is everyone in here? What made you realize your ready? I'm 26, we realized we were ready after many many discussions and realizing we want to have a few children and would like to start sooner rather than later. It's scary and exciting, there will never be a 'right' time I don't think and there would never be a moment that where where we want to be financially, as there will always be something else to come up, so now is as good a time as any.. Would love to hear about everyone else's 'ah-ha' moments! x