Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[Ltruns33]

I don't know how women do this, every month it is heart breaking to me when I see I'm not pregnant, and I'm only in month 5 ... My husband is starting to feel 'used' when I want to 'tell' him were going to dtd, were both on the same page about haing a baby but he can't manage to wrap his mind around the fact that you need to dtd within a certain time, not just when he feels like it !!!... then he has the nerve to ask me why it hasn't happened yet! Ahhh, I don't know how long I can try for, it weighs on my mind allll day, every day! ..

Month 4-6 were hard on DH and I too, he felt used etc just like you described. As cycle 9 draws to a close, he has really started participating actively emotionally in ttc too. I think he realizes he does need to do this journey with me and he has started to worry about ttc too (although he'd barely if ever admit it) this cycle we DTD every other day and twice in a row before and after the opk turned pos. I think he's got more energy in that area bc he knows i need him and it all matters. If that makes any sense.

LT

 

[Ltruns33]

Omg how many times can we vent about flippin Facebook crap?! Here's an article that explains it all SOooo well

https://www.dailyherald.com/article/20101031/entlife/711019963/

 

[MummyDonz]

Hi ladies, well...I've brought some ovulation tests, only cheap ones online but hoping I will get a positive and this will ease my mind!

 

[TtcWclomid]

So i dont know if any of you can help me with my story i got...but me and my husband have been ttc for almost 2 years now,having some trouble because of the fact that im so irregular that i dont get periods for 7 months at a time...never o'd on my own so i have turned to clomid...first pill was Dec,24 2012 and last pill was dec,28 2012...i took a blood test on jan14th to check if i ovulated...at that point when i was taking my opks at home they were all negative....day after the blood test i started getting positives...now it is the 17th and im still getting positives...also fevers?? and mucus as well...i call my gyno and he says that the test came back negative something about the number 77??im just so confused and dont know what to believe my doctor or my opks? ive been bd with my husband anyways cause my +opks so no worries there,but i just need some kind of answer if any of you ladies can help? sorry such a long story!!! lol im just soooooo STRESSED ABOUT IT


HOPING FOR A BFP BY late FEB

 

[mamiof3want4]

TtcWclomid: you may be in fact preggo now... the test that were done may have been to early in order to determine you were preggo the numbers were to low but if you have taken multiple preg test and they are all coming back positive I would suggest new blood work done since its a more accurate method of finding out if you are in fact pregs... I am hoping to be as well so good luck for you baby dust for all of you ttc.... do get discuraged.

 

[mamiof3want4]

so did you test yet??

 

[Preg]

Hi ladies...
I was quiet active when I started to ttc but its been over 6 months now.... And I am back!

Oh! This is getting on my nerves now! We have tried everything.... Doings everyday, every alternate, then only during peaks, ovulation tests, eat and work out health... To the extent we took off from work for 15 days and went for a holiday as welL!!

And here I am back to fucking square 1( sorry for the word) but this is where I can show my frustration!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We are married for 3 years now and I will be 29 tis year...

So far my mother in law and my mom both have been very understanding but I understand their concerns as well.... And the fact and the thought that they are now worried as well...doesn't help me any more...... ...

Earlier it was Stress...and now it's stress +(M.I.L) stress + (mom) stress!! So it has tripled!!

It's just nt helping in anyway!! I feel so depressed... Just don't feel like working...or bloody doing anything!!! Don't feel like taking care of myself...no appetite ....nothing!!

I don't blame anyone here....but please Heeeeeeeeeellllllllllppppppppppp (tears).....

 

[wannabemummy2]

Couldnt read and run - nothing i can do to help but just say that i'm here if you ever need to talk.
Myself and OH have only been 'actively' trying for two months, that first negative was awful - had so many symptoms = convinced myself i was pregnant.
didnt help that my MIL then started talking about us, saying had we thought about adopting or IVF. Her daughter has just had her second - that was bitter sweet - hard to not think that should be me and yet happy because its just a gorgeous wee thing.
She doesnt know we are trying yet and i suppose she thinks that we are having trouble - dont know if we are having trouble yet or not. AARGGH - slowly going insane!

 

[Preg]

Thanks wannabemummy....

I am absolutely broken today..... It's like a slow poison which kills you day by day.... I seriously considered shooting myself to death ( if only I had the gun) .... Just feel like disappearing from this world.....

My hubby is so supportive... He knew I am so devastated... Is on his way to get me a treat, only to cheer me up.....

Anyway...thanks for being there...please stay in touch...xx

 

[wannabemummy2]

im so glad i found this forum - so many others who know exactly what we are going through. im always here if you need to talk.
keep thinking to yourself that it will happen - take some time out and give yourself and hubby a break it will do you both good
take care of yourself

 

[Lara310809]

I had invested so much hope into this month and I'm so crushed. BFN after BFN.

 

[Misscalais]

Hi ladies!
I'm on my 6 mth ttc number three and lets be honest, I'm over it.
I never thought ttc could be this hard or emotional!
Now I know 6 mths isn't that long, but it still hurts. It hurts a little more as each mth goes by.
My boys only took 2-3 cycles I'm pretty sure they were both conceived on the 2nd cycle trying.
I'm 20kg overweight and my cycles are between 29-34 days averaged around 30-31 days.
So it's hard for me to pin point o.
I was using OPKs but they just stressed me out, I wanted the smiley face ones but the are way,too expensive.
My boys want a sibling every time they see a baby they go, gaga over them they just love them.
Anyway to everyone i pray you all get your BFPs soon xo

 

[AmaryllisRed]

Hi, Misscalais! I am also ttc #3 with two boys already.
We've been trying since August. Our first took no time at all and our second took ten months. I think around the six month mark is when it really starts to take its toll. Ugh.
TTC is not for the faint of heart.

 

[Misscalais]

Hi, Misscalais! I am also ttc #3 with two boys already.
We've been trying since August. Our first took no time at all and our second took ten months. I think around the six month mark is when it really starts to take its toll. Ugh.
TTC is not for the faint of heart.

Hi
I never thought that it would ever be this hard or emotional, that's for sure.
How long have you been ttc number three?

 

[iamcoleen]

Sometimes life can't just be fair. We, while waiting for a little angel to come, there are also some who are throwing out their 'blessings.' Well, that one hurts. We all here TTC will have our time...maybe not now, but let's not lose the optimism. Stress, pressures, negative thoughts, will not result to anything good anyway.

I feel challenged as well, not having a baby for almost a year of marriage is something. Especially that your husband is excited to have one. Its alright, I can dream though... and train/learn on how to be a good mother in the future.

 

[AmaryllisRed]

Hi, Misscalais! I am also ttc #3 with two boys already.
We've been trying since August. Our first took no time at all and our second took ten months. I think around the six month mark is when it really starts to take its toll. Ugh.
TTC is not for the faint of heart.

Hi
I never thought that it would ever be this hard or emotional, that's for sure.
How long have you been ttc number three?

Just since August. That's when DS2 turned six months.

 

[SweetMel]

Hi ladies,

I too have been trying to make #3 for some time now. Son #1 took 7 years! Then son #2 was born 23 months later. Go figure. Now, I am struggling with ttc #3. I'm thinking pink, but all I want is a healthy baby. I'm thinking that it will happen if I just stay positive. Large buckets of baby dust to everyone!

 

[topkittycat]

Hi Ladies,

I hope you dont mind me posting in here.. I'm just looking for some opinions..... hubby and I have decided to start TTCing again. (it took us 2+ years to fall pregnant with our baby girl.) she is 1 on Australia day! lol I WILL NEVER forget that australia day!!! 10 past 12. right when everyone else would have been sitting around the bbq having drinks and sausage sizzle I was giving birth!!! lol. anyway, back to my query. my lmp began on the 6th of dec....... last thur night and fri morning I got 2 very FAINT positives...... the next day there was NOTHING.... went to the drs, she ordered a beta hcg test, came back with a reading of 4. told me that if my period hadnt arived in the next 2 weeks to go back and she would re test again........ I dont get it..... anyway, still no af..... I havent bothered re testing as I got so excited then crushed, but the last 3 days I have had af like cramps but still NOTHING....... WARNING TMI, I checked my CP, and its High and soft, CM is white creamy, I feel WET down there, Im more emotional than I usually am, im a lot more tired than I usualy am, and my boobs hurt. (only a little bit) more like an ache). Im so confussed. why would I get a possitive then a negative beta, and STILL no AF.......... ughhhhh. driving me insain!!!! any advice or ideas or guestimations even, would help!!!!~ thanks for listening@!

 

[lanzarote2013]

Hi,

i renctly stopped taking my pill on 01/01/13, ive not been trying long but im just hoping taking the pill for 2 years dosent take ages when trying to concieve, this will be my first child. I was on the yasmin pill is it true for however many years you take the pill it will take me that many months????????

 

[AmaryllisRed]

Ugh! How am I supposed to get pregnant when my husband won't have sex with me??!!