Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[Orchidlover]

I am not sure but I also lost my baby on Dec 21. My Gyn said it might take a month or two for my cycle to go back to normal. I was lucky an i got back to normal right away. I just got my 21 day blood test back and my progesterone level was 11.4. He said that I O'ed.

Have you spoken with your Dr? Maybe your doctor could offer some assistance? Best wishes and baby dust to you.

 

[MissyLissy]

Small vent. I've been actively TTC for six months now, and in that time period I have yet to ovulate, have been dx with PCOS, and have come to the realization that I'm going to have to WORK for my baby, take medications to have my baby, and potentially pay a lot of money out of pocket to have my baby. I thought for sure I'd be pregnant by now and it would be easy, but I guess life had other plans for me....

So, my vent comes from friends who talk like everything is just going to work out easy-peasy for them, no issues. I have a friend who just gave birth to her son two months ago (lucky biotch got preggers first month trying), she's already talking about when to space her second and "what month" she should aim to have number 2 be born in. Good Lord, I wish I had that luxury to choose which month to have my child's bday. What problems.

Then I have another friend who is engaged to be married this July. She also turns 30 next fall, and plans to get preggars right after the wedding do she can be "with child" by the time she hits her 3-0 in September. Good luck with that, honey. I thought it would be just that easy too. Although knowing my luck lately, she'll prob get knocked up on her honeymoon, and I'll still be sitting around waiting for ovulation and feeling sorry for myself. After my four years of marriage, compared to her four days.

Sorry for the vent.

 

[Wishes in SC]

This is my first vent thread...I've come and gone on this site reading it here and there as I needed support to know I'm not alone, but never really posted. I'm 30, DH is 32. We have been trying for 10months, with very irregular AF...so has been impossible to figure out when ovulating (tried the ovluation test sticks, never got them to say I ovulated). I have one ovary, and scarring on my cervix from surgery. Today we went to our first visit to an infertility specialist that my OB/gyn referred us to when I went for my yearly in February. My vent is...how do I know to start trying all they are saying instead of keep trying the old fashioned way. I feel pressure from the outside world that this should just happen, just "destress" (easier said than done)...feel like I'm giving up too soon in possibly trying the IUI treatment....but I am sooo tired of being dissapointed and feeling like something is wrong with me.... ok vent done. Thanks ;-)

 

[Gvw015]

Just want a bfp for anything! Opk or pt! I want some idea of what my body is doing or when the time is best! I wish I knew where to even go from here !

 

[jenwantsababy]

pretty tired of getting pee on my hands!

just saying.

 

[Mcaparoula]

Need help!!!!!

So I was 7dpo when I tested at like 4 pm and got 3 faint faint bfp
Then 8dpo and bfn nothing but my temp was even higher then usual today idk what to think please help me

 

[schultzie18]

Sorry I just need to vent!!! We have been trying since June and I did fall pregnant in december but it was ectopic! Now we are trying again and I am so afraid I wont be able to get pregnant again! This is our 2nd month trying since the ectopic and I just got AF today! It seems like everyone I know got pregnant right away except for me!!! I want to be a mom more than anything! Ok done venting!

 

[Jelly.Bean]

Sorry I just need to vent!!! We have been trying since June and I did fall pregnant in december but it was ectopic! Now we are trying again and I am so afraid I wont be able to get pregnant again! This is our 2nd month trying since the ectopic and I just got AF today! It seems like everyone I know got pregnant right away except for me!!! I want to be a mom more than anything! Ok done venting!

I've also been TTC baby #1 since June 2012 with no luck. It's just so frustrating when AF shows up every month.

 

[jenwantsababy]

yep, been trying for #1 since January 2012 and it is sooooo hard to see AF every month. I really feel you on this one.

 

[2013myyear]

Hey so I've just had a vent on my journal and found this doh springs to mind xx
I just wanna say hi to all you lovely ladies and wish you best of luck getting your BFP very soon xxxx

 

[jwoot]

Hi ladies, I'm Jenny. My DH and I have been TTC #1. I have PCOS and did not get my AF back after stopping BC. I'm having a hard time dealing with it right now and my dr is not supportive because I weigh over 200lbs. I mean I know that being overweight is an issue, but i've been trying to lose weight for 6 years and have only lost 6lbs. If I wait until I'm a "healthy" weight I'll never have children. I want a baby now. Am I wrong for feeling like this?

 

[melly2]

I'm venting because this is all my husband's fault! We've been married 11 years, both 37, happy as a clam, running marathons, and then he tells me that he has a deep need to be a father. UGH...could he have not told me this 4-5 years ago?!? Well...sure as sh*T I can't get preggers because HIS sperm count is 2.5 million (My hormones are normal after limiting my running), and now I'm going to endless doctor appointments and getting frustrated every passing month.

I thought this would be easy because I don't fail at anything I do (sorry, that sounds arrogant). Now, I've put on 10 pounds because I'm not running as much, spending crazy amount of money on acupuncture and supplements, having meaningless sex during that time of the month...all for what? Ugh...this is so annoying.

 

[smichelle]

Oh Hon, I'm a pharmacist so I have at least some experience with PCOS. The condition is why you're having trouble losing weight and getting pregnant, not because you're not trying hard enough. Some of my patients have had great luck with metformin and/or Femara (Canadian names, not sure what they are elsewhere). The two things are linked, even if you somehow magically lost weight by starving yourself you still would likely have issues with ovulation. Find a sympathetic Dr, this seems to be the hardest journey Ive ever undertaken and I'm only a year in, no success. Sending positive thoughts your way

 

[smichelle]

Small vent. I've been actively TTC for six months now, and in that time period I have yet to ovulate, have been dx with PCOS, and have come to the realization that I'm going to have to WORK for my baby, take medications to have my baby, and potentially pay a lot of money out of pocket to have my baby. I thought for sure I'd be pregnant by now and it would be easy, but I guess life had other plans for me....

So, my vent comes from friends who talk like everything is just going to work out easy-peasy for them, no issues. I have a friend who just gave birth to her son two months ago (lucky biotch got preggers first month trying), she's already talking about when to space her second and "what month" she should aim to have number 2 be born in. Good Lord, I wish I had that luxury to choose which month to have my child's bday. What problems.

Then I have another friend who is engaged to be married this July. She also turns 30 next fall, and plans to get preggars right after the wedding do she can be "with child" by the time she hits her 3-0 in September. Good luck with that, honey. I thought it would be just that easy too. Although knowing my luck lately, she'll prob get knocked up on her honeymoon, and I'll still be sitting around waiting for ovulation and feeling sorry for myself. After my four years of marriage, compared to her four days.

Sorry for the vent.

OMG am I glad I found this thread, I feel the exact same way! Ive been left sobbing in so many restaurant bathroom as people happily announce their pregnancies. I don't want to be the bitter bitch but I'm absolutely heart broken. There have been many times where I am literally the only person not pregnant in a room and there are 12 women there. I've recently come to the same conclusion, this is going to take work and money. It sucks!!! I do worry about my husband's job because he works around so much diesel fumes I can't let him bring his pillow into bed because it stinks. He's a tugboat captain.

Anyway, just wanted to thank you ladies for making me feel like I'm not alone. Much love and positive thoughts

 

[smichelle]

Hey so I've just had a vent on my journal and found this doh springs to mind xx
I just wanna say hi to all you lovely ladies and wish you best of luck getting your BFP very soon xxxx

I'm so sorry you've had such a hard time. I just don't ovulate at all and have really long cycles so I get my hopes up all the time but I could NOT imagine what you ladies who have miscarriages have to deal with. You have your hopes realized only to have them dashed. My prayers are with you

 

[Liloo]

I'm venting because I feel so pathetic waiting to ovulate, waiting AF not to show up, taking tons of supplements, spending money for acupuncture, reading all fertility info ... ... ... !!
I think of it everyday of my life! I really know what it feels being addicted.

I used think I could have some control of my life.
What a tough lesson of humility...

I wish you all BFPs soon and my prayers are with you.

 

[ValDante]

Argh! I need to vent somewhere....not about anyone on this site, though. I love all the ladies on here!

I came across someone on another site today that has become SO pessimistic about absolutely everything that when I was telling her my differences in this cycle from others she just said "I had that last spring, it turned out to be nothing but my body playing tricks on me-be careful it could be the same for you". Seriously, you are going to say that instead of ENCOURAGING stuff like "those sound like good signs, good luck" or "That sounds promising"? Seriously, absolutely no one wants to be told the symptoms they are having are just their body playing tricks on them when they are TTC! They want to hear that the symptoms are pregnancy symptoms (even if they are also AF symptoms), especially when they say it's unusual for them to experience it! If you have to be negative to keep from getting hurt it doesn't mean you should pass that negativity on as "wisdom" to others! Seriously, with the TTC journey we all need serious POSITIVE, OPTIMISTIC support, not someone saying "oh for me that stuff turned out to be all negative". Not only is that not helpful it is not necessarily relevant to the person they say it to because every single woman is different! I do no CARE how long you've been trying. You wouldn't like it if someone said to you "Oh, that's a PMS symptom too, you're probably just going to get your period, you aren't pregnant". So why would you say anything similar to someone else, no matter how new they may be to this crazy journey?! Seriously, people, positive encouragement.

Okay, I think I'm done now...I really needed to rant. If you disagree with me... oh well.

 

[melly2]

Let me just say one more vent. Seeing Kim Kardashian pregnant DRIVES ME NUTS!!! The only solace I can have is seeing that she's plumping up nice and big...I mean, bigger than the normal pregnant lady. I take great pleasure knowing that she will have to work hard to lose the baby weight, however, with plastic surgeons at her disposal, it won't be that hard! Argh!!!

 

[newfiekat]

Hi Ladies,
Im been off and on this site for a while. DH and I have been TTC for 5 years. I was diagnosed with PCOS, had all the testing done, was givin Metformin, and tried 3 cycles of clomid. Still no baby. I decieded last fall to stop taking the Metformin as it was just making me naseous all the time. I need to make some lifestyle changes, and get healthy. I joined WW, and to date have lost 37lbs. Im now down to 188lbs. So im getting my OB/GYN to re-run the bloodwork to see if anything has changed with my hormones. Its been an emotional process, some days I want to give up, I can go months and it doesnt bother me, then bam im right back having it consume my every thought. I know others go through this as well, its hard, and I dont know how much longer I can keep going through this whole process. I dont even know why im writing this post, I guess I just needed to let it out.

 

[smichelle]

Argh! I need to vent somewhere....not about anyone on this site, though. I love all the ladies on here!

I came across someone on another site today that has become SO pessimistic about absolutely everything that when I was telling her my differences in this cycle from others she just said "I had that last spring, it turned out to be nothing but my body playing tricks on me-be careful it could be the same for you". Seriously, you are going to say that instead of ENCOURAGING stuff like "those sound like good signs, good luck" or "That sounds promising"? Seriously, absolutely no one wants to be told the symptoms they are having are just their body playing tricks on them when they are TTC! They want to hear that the symptoms are pregnancy symptoms (even if they are also AF symptoms), especially when they say it's unusual for them to experience it! If you have to be negative to keep from getting hurt it doesn't mean you should pass that negativity on as "wisdom" to others! Seriously, with the TTC journey we all need serious POSITIVE, OPTIMISTIC support, not someone saying "oh for me that stuff turned out to be all negative". Not only is that not helpful it is not necessarily relevant to the person they say it to because every single woman is different! I do no CARE how long you've been trying. You wouldn't like it if someone said to you "Oh, that's a PMS symptom too, you're probably just going to get your period, you aren't pregnant". So why would you say anything similar to someone else, no matter how new they may be to this crazy journey?! Seriously, people, positive encouragement.

Okay, I think I'm done now...I really needed to rant. If you disagree with me... oh well.

Thank you!!!! My best friend does this all the time! She doesn't like my husband, thinks I should leave him, doesn't understand marriage takes work (co-incidentally she's single). I don't know what AF means. I'm 10 days late but too scared to test because of frequent heartbreak due to radically irregular cycles. I'm glad I found this site, makes me feel less bitter and alone. I wish the best for everyone here, though people telling you to be positive makes you want to punch said person in the face !