Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[HopefulKait88]

my sister in law just announced shes pregnant wither 5th after a one night stand....AF started half an hour later and then at my DRs appointment he wants me to wait another year.. (taking me to two years ttc) before he will send me to a specialist.

why cant i even have one GRRRRRRR

I'm sorry It's unfair, really it is. I work at a physical therapy clinic and we have a patient who comes in that's 18. Him and his GF had a baby in high school and they proceeded to do heroin while she was pregnant. Poor sweet little thing is now addicted to heroin I hate it. So often I think that people who would make the BEST parents have the hardest times becoming parents. It's awful

 

[ashley024]

i am annoyed that it was so easy for the women in my family to conceive and they do not understand the struggles i have been through to do it. i am also tired of hearing it will happen when its right! well im sorry that you do not have endo or IC and you dont understand i am on a crunch and have to do it and quickly..

 

[ashley024]

my sister in law just announced shes pregnant wither 5th after a one night stand....AF started half an hour later and then at my DRs appointment he wants me to wait another year.. (taking me to two years ttc) before he will send me to a specialist.

why cant i even have one GRRRRRRR

i completely know where you are coming from! my brother has 3 kids. one was planned with his now ex wife that he hardly takes care of, one was acouple years after their divorce because they got drunk, and the other was with a rando at the bar...

and here i am.. ive been trying for three years with my husband and nothing...

 

[Sophie2]

i know and what sucks is noone understnds what ur feeling an goig thru just to have one hopeful kate i agree with u the best parents have the hardest struggle =( i hate it i would love to have at most 4 but ill settle for just one blessing im tired of ttc and being disapointed month after month cycle after cycle i almost makes me want to give up i had job interview and call me crazy i turned it down beecuz the marjority of the clients was gnna be pregger women congrats to them but i cant torture myself everythin that has to do with having a baby to family and strangers makes me fall apart its just UNFAIR

 

[HopefulKait88]

i know and what sucks is noone understnds what ur feeling an goig thru just to have one hopeful kate i agree with u the best parents have the hardest struggle =( i hate it i would love to have at most 4 but ill settle for just one blessing im tired of ttc and being disapointed month after month cycle after cycle i almost makes me want to give up i had job interview and call me crazy i turned it down beecuz the marjority of the clients was gnna be pregger women congrats to them but i cant torture myself everythin that has to do with having a baby to family and strangers makes me fall apart its just UNFAIR

I understand completely. I've been having a hard time seeing tons of my friends and family members getting pregnant and then today I found out that my co-worker is pregnant. Apparently she's pretty far along in TTC standards (8 weeks) and no one told me so I had to find out by seeing an ultrasound. My co-workers know about my struggle and I was hurt that no one would tell me. It's easier to hear from a co-worker you consider a friend then to be blind-sided. I was like "Ohhh well that's exciting!" and the whole time I was telling myself to calm down because I could feel the tears starting to well up.

 

[Sophie2]

i know and what sucks is noone understnds what ur feeling an goig thru just to have one hopeful kate i agree with u the best parents have the hardest struggle =( i hate it i would love to have at most 4 but ill settle for just one blessing im tired of ttc and being disapointed month after month cycle after cycle i almost makes me want to give up i had job interview and call me crazy i turned it down beecuz the marjority of the clients was gnna be pregger women congrats to them but i cant torture myself everythin that has to do with having a baby to family and strangers makes me fall apart its just UNFAIR

I understand completely. I've been having a hard time seeing tons of my friends and family members getting pregnant and then today I found out that my co-worker is pregnant. Apparently she's pretty far along in TTC standards (8 weeks) and no one told me so I had to find out by seeing an ultrasound. My co-workers know about my struggle and I was hurt that no one would tell me. It's easier to hear from a co-worker you consider a friend then to be blind-sided. I was like "Ohhh well that's exciting!" and the whole time I was telling myself to calm down because I could feel the tears starting to well up.

yes i know its like well gee thanks for the heads up.... my cuz just had her 3rd when she was having her 1st i was on board with her but her 3rd i was no where to be around i was so upset and angry i didnt even go to her baby shower and ur rght if ur my friend nd understand what im gioing thru why not tell me hey this person just found out such so ur not blind sided now u have to act excited

 

[Belle Shine]

This rant isn't aimed at anyone.. I mean, it is noone's fault that they can get pregnant and I can't! My Sil just had her baby... She got pregnant within a week of deciding to have another baby.. By then we had been trying for five months... My other Sil announce she is pregnant with her third soon afterwards.. Meanwhile time just keeps slipping away from me as everyone keeps telling ups to "hurry up already". Or that they were so surprised we didn't get pregnant before my Sil. Then there are hints that my daughter will benefit so much from having to share with a sibling... Great! Insult my patenting and remind me I am not pregnant all in one fowl swoop! But then, i still know it is noone's fault and I appreciated that they care enough to comment. I just want to know why this isn't happening.. If something isn't 'right' in my life for a baby to come along then could fate kindly fix that little problem and happily send a little bundle our way please??

 

[Sophie2]

yea belle it isnt to bash those who can get preggers but there are some people who dont know what we go thru to just have one and comments get made and it makes u feel like less of women atleast for myself =( why can i give my man a child of our own. and when i here pregnancy announcment im happy for them but its like hurts still

 

[Mrs_B1]

Hi everyone. I had a miscarriage last november and me and my husband have been ttc for 10 months will no luck. The last couple of weeks ive been having some symptoms....so hopefully this is the month xx

 

[StillHoping8]

hey everyone! my DH and i have been ttc for almost 2 years now with no luck. i was scared to go to the Dr because i didnt want to hear anything bad (DH has a 7 year old already so i knew he wasnt our problem)
Anyway, i finally went last week and come out find out i have PCOS. im not overwieght and have no symptoms of PCOS other than abnormal periods.
i cant get into see my Dr until december so now im just stuck waiting, still ttc but knowing its not going to happen right now is so annoying. im hoping my Dr will prescribe me clomid or metformin and ill magically get preg right away! im on a waiting list to get in sooner but it doesnt seem likely as my Dr is pretty popular (and she should be she is great) im just so frustrated with this waiting game its all i can think about and have no one to talk to since EVERYONE i know seems to get preg right away or even without trying... meanwhile im here being quietly jealous of every girl i see with a bute baby bump... uhg anyone else dealing with this>?

 

[StillHoping8]

mrs_b1
i hope this is your month goodluck and baby dust to you!

 

[Mrs_B1]

Thank you. So do I x

 

[Mrs_B1]

Thank you. So do I x

 

[Jessie1993]

I'm 41 days late and got 3 BFN!!

 

[Sophie2]

hey everyone! my DH and i have been ttc for almost 2 years now with no luck. i was scared to go to the Dr because i didnt want to hear anything bad (DH has a 7 year old already so i knew he wasnt our problem)
Anyway, i finally went last week and come out find out i have PCOS. im not overwieght and have no symptoms of PCOS other than abnormal periods.
i cant get into see my Dr until december so now im just stuck waiting, still ttc but knowing its not going to happen right now is so annoying. im hoping my Dr will prescribe me clomid or metformin and ill magically get preg right away! im on a waiting list to get in sooner but it doesnt seem likely as my Dr is pretty popular (and she should be she is great) im just so frustrated with this waiting game its all i can think about and have no one to talk to since EVERYONE i know seems to get preg right away or even without trying... meanwhile im here being quietly jealous of every girl i see with a bute baby bump... uhg anyone else dealing with this>?

hey hun just hang in there in there december will come soon just try and stay calm and relax trust i kno the feeling of wanted to start ur meds in hopes that u get pregger asap .. im the same way everytime i see something that has to do with being preggers breaks my heart =\ i get so annoyed lol but then i try and be happy and think positive nd say it will happen just gotta keep at it hun

 

[mindylou]

Just watched a clip of a short film made by a highschool girl I know. She's very talented, but it was about a girl getting knocked up by her bf and getting an abortion.

I get sex ed, I do. Scare tactics to lower teen pregnancy rates. But it erks me that just about every young girl grows up thinking they can get pregnant after having sex 1 time and that it is so easy to get pregnant that you can just decide "Right now is not my time, I'll have kids later" if you do fall pregnant. How false this is for some. Ugh. [\rant]

 

[squishmich]

So things have become stressful - throughout work and just everyday life. My husband is working 7 days a week, a full time job and part-time military which means weekends spent away on training exercises and little time spent at home.

Work has become a nightmare. The recent promotion that I achieved has meant an increase in paperwork, and I too am spending over 40 hours a week commuting and doing my job to pay the bills.

Our basement renovation isn't finished. It won't be done before Christmas which puts pressure on me, as we're supposed to host this year.

And in late October I had a week where I thought I was pregnant. It turned out I was not, but I had so many symptoms the doctor thinks it was just not a viable pregnancy and terminated as many do that early on. I was utterly crushed. I'm still so hurt and disappointed by it all, I don't want to have sex - I want a break from trying. I need time to heal emotionally from that experience.

I'm just an emotional mess - and I feel that despite my desire to have a child and after 5 months of trying without success, that I need to take a break for my mental health. I guess I need some support and understanding.

 

[StillHoping8]

well yesterday DH's best friend tells us that he and his girlfriend (on and off girlfriend of about a year) are expecting and simply thrilled. im happy that hes happy i really am but i had to leave the room after congratulating him. they were not even trying! its not fair that i have to go through all of this bullcrap to conceive with someone ive been with for 6 years and people who cant even stay together more than 2 months without a breakup don't have to try at all.
uhg i cant wait to go to my Dr next month and get this ball rolling!
does anyone else find themselves walking through the baby isles at stores and imagining which ones youd get for your baby? lol maybe im just crazy

 

[Sophie2]

well yesterday DH's best friend tells us that he and his girlfriend (on and off girlfriend of about a year) are expecting and simply thrilled. im happy that hes happy i really am but i had to leave the room after congratulating him. they were not even trying! its not fair that i have to go through all of this bullcrap to conceive with someone ive been with for 6 years and people who cant even stay together more than 2 months without a breakup don't have to try at all.
uhg i cant wait to go to my Dr next month and get this ball rolling!
does anyone else find themselves walking through the baby isles at stores and imagining which ones youd get for your baby? lol maybe im just crazy

All the time hun all the damn time =/

 

[N27murray]

Hi there,

Dh and i started ttc #1 in nov of 2012. we tried actively for about 5 cycles and no luck so we switched to NTNP...still nothing. For a while i had felt lucky that we didn't get our BFP yet because "life happened" and the stress of moving, financial issues, etc had been pretty tough to deal with. until recently i was okay with not being pregnant but just this past cycle things were much different. I am almost 100% certain that i just had a chemical pregnancy. Dh and i dtd 3 times during my fertile period and i had about 6 "symptoms" during the tww that i have literally NEVER had in my life. I was convinced we finally did it. But then, af showed up two days late and i hadn't tested. even af was so much different than ever before. i guess there's no sure way of telling if i did in fact conceive but the thing that bothers me most is that i was in a small car accident a couple days after O would have happened and im wondering if that's the reason it didnt stick. Could this be possible? Have any of you ever had a chemical pregnancy before and if so, did you get a BFP soon after. I am pretty upset by this and i'm eager to start working on getting the BFP again.