Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[hopefulysoon]

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[tornB]

Hi new to the forum, this is my first post and I'm glad that this place exists. I have nowhere else to go to vent. My SO and I have been trying for over 6 months and we are just ever seeing the BFN. Its so depressing. Within our circle of friends, we were all getting married a few years ago and now we're having kids, everyone is having their babies and even their second and we haven't even gotten our first. Its to a point where I don't even go out to events with them because I'm jealous of them and it leaves me feeling depressed. I'm wondering what is wrong with us. Everyone sees how great we are with their kids and are always asking when we're having ours. ARGH!
Anyways I'm glad I can share my frustrations with this forum.

 

[Jessie1993]

I'm dreaming of a beautiful babyboy since my miscarriage. Lord i just wanna hold him so bad.

 

[Ref87]

Hi

I have been a member since December but have not had the courage to post till today as i feel that i am fast becoming a wreck ttc. People around seem to get pregnant effortlessly. People keep telling me that it will happen in God's time but im ashamed to say that i feel God has forgotten about me as we have been trying for 2 and half years. I am feeling tired and hopeless. I cant help but stress myself out every month which obviously isnt helping the situation. Wish i would just not think about it, but thats easier said than done.

 

[Sophie2]

hey Ref sorry your having such a hard time hun i know how frustrating it can be to want to get pregnant and u do everything possible and it just doesnt happen but u have to stay strong try doing something you enjoy maybe to help get your mind from thinking about it i know its harder then it seems but ive been trying that myself i try to not let things get to me cuz how is that better its not its not fair to eat ur self away so hun dont give up fight for it

 

[SoInLoveWithU]

Ok ladies I could really use some help!! Here's some background info.: I'm 21 & my hubby & I decided we are ready to start ttc. I had been on Gianvi b/c pills for about a year and couple of months when I decided to stop taking them in Oct. After I stopped them I had 2 regular cycles in November & December which both lasted the usual amount of days as they were before I started b/c (6-7 days & 33-35 days apart)..I was excited because my obgyn said that some women get right back on track with AF and some can take several months...we have sex almost every other day unprotected...my period was supposed to come Jan. 16 but still hasn't..I'm now 23 days late..from jan.25-29 I had very, very light brown spotting but only when I would wipe or a couple of drops after using the bathroom & on the 29 it completely stopped. (NOTE: I have never experienced this since I first started my menstrual cycles back when I was 13). From Feb. 2-5 I was very bloated, a week after I was late I felt nauseous for about 3 days but only in the afternoon time, and I had white non smelly discharge for a few days before I was supposed to start AF.. I've taken 3 tests already (at 4, 6, & 14 days late) & they were all negative. I'm trying to wait another missed cycle before I go see my gyn. Any guidance??!!

 

[Sophie2]

soinlove i would call up the doctor just in case get blood work done to confirm the BFn or BFP either way its better to check sooner then later so this way she/he can start you on any type of medications if needed hun keep us updated and gl fx that the test were messed up and it really is a BFP

 

[SoInLoveWithU]

Thanks Sophie I think I'm gonna call my doctor to see if I can set up an appointment to see what's going on but I'm really hoping I get a BFP and that I just don't have enough of the hormone in my urine for a regular home test...ughhh I really don't wanna be let down but I mean there's always next month right?! I'll keep you guys updated

 

[kellze]

Hi all

I just need somewhere to write this down so if no one replies that is ok, but replies are welcome.

I am 35 (just) and trying to conceive baby 3. I have been preg 4 times before and have 2 wonderful children. All the previous pregnancies have been ridiculously (scarily) easy to conceive. It was almost as if my partner looked in my direction and BAM. But this latest one doesnt want to start.

I have been using OPK and know when to do the BD, but if I am overly suggestive about getting it on my husband says I am being weird and I've put him off!!!!! He is fully on board with having another but it seems to be to HIS timetable and not my bodies which to be fair is the only one that counts. It has been 5 months now with no success ( I know it isn't really that long but it feels like an eternity)

To top this off, he has just been accepted into the Air Force and will probably be going away on training for a year at the end of March.

I can't wait, I don't want to wait and I don't see why I should wait.

I am probably being childish and selfish but this would be my last baby and I want it so much.

I am trying to hold it all together because I do not want him to miss the opportunity of a lifetime in the Air Force, and we have discussed this all etc. He just keeps being all laid back and supportive and stuff. It is dead annoying.

 

[Sophie2]

soinlove mama yes please keep me posted

kell i bet its frustrating esp trying and being able to get preggers with no problems and now its seems like it doesnt wanna happen now i know when ur oh go into the airforce is gonna be a little harder to ttc but when theres a will honey theres a way gl i hope it works ouut

 

[SoInLoveWithU]

Well took another home test today and got once again another BFN...ima make sure I go to the clinic sometime this week because this is really starting to bring me down

 

[BebVern]

It does not feel fair that I have to serve a customer in work who has 8 kids, 2 of which are in care, and treats the remaining 6 like they're an inconvenience to her when I lost my first pregnancy two weeks ago...

 

[Sophie2]

soinlove hun let me know when you see your dr hun

beb im sorry for your loss mama i know theres nothing i can say to take that hurt away. i know how ungrateful some women can be they dont know how to count there blessing. Just keep ur head up hun and know that u will be nothing like her when u have your little ones

 

[lady124]

Annoyed that we've been trying for nearly 2 years

Annoyed that my hairdresser had the courage to say "your mum told me you lost your baby... Oh, don't worry, you will get pregnant soon again!"

Annoyed that my gynaecologist told me I was about to ovulate, I went home and had sex, and AF showed up again anyway.

Annoyed that everybody at work keeps on getting pregnant.

Annoyed that I feel like if anybody tells me right now they are pregnant, I may burst into tears.

Annoyed that I caught my SIL looking at me with pity during Christmas whilst I struggled to keep my tears from coming out whilst her 20-month old was being cute...

Annoyed that I went to visit my friend with her 3-month old baby and she went on a rant about how she can't cope. I know she is not having a good time right now, but, I am not the best person for her to vent with.

Above all, annoyed that AF showed up again. And that I don't know whether I will ever be able to have a baby

 

[ft108]

Why is everyone getting pregnant and having babies and posting their beautiful baby pictures all over facebook? Or bloody adverts on tv about being a mum for that formula milk advert in UK, makes me cross/on the verge of tears every time I see it.
I haven't even been trying long so feel like I have nothing to complain about, but I have /wanted/ a baby for so long it feels like I've been waiting for ever.
And I know this sounds really mean but other people on the forum getting pregnant, whilst I am *so* happy for them because everyone has had their own struggles etc... I just feel so jealous! I'm such a horrible person! Argh!

 

[Tink_]

So fed up of after when trying for so long. I had so many miscarriages during a difficult time and when I was free from that I truly hoped it would be the time. I know nobody owes us anything but I'm just heartbroken.

 

[kellze]

soinlove mama yes please keep me posted

kell i bet its frustrating esp trying and being able to get preggers with no problems and now its seems like it doesnt wanna happen now i know when ur oh go into the airforce is gonna be a little harder to ttc but when theres a will honey theres a way gl i hope it works ouut

Thanks for that. You are a voice of kindness and reason on this thread.

 

[Sophie2]

soinlove mama yes please keep me posted

kell i bet its frustrating esp trying and being able to get preggers with no problems and now its seems like it doesnt wanna happen now i know when ur oh go into the airforce is gonna be a little harder to ttc but when theres a will honey theres a way gl i hope it works ouut

Thanks for that. You are a voice of kindness and reason on this thread.

your welcome i know the frustration and its not easy to go thru it all alone

 

[jojo82413]

Why is everyone getting pregnant and having babies and posting their beautiful baby pictures all over facebook? Or bloody adverts on tv about being a mum for that formula milk advert in UK, makes me cross/on the verge of tears every time I see it.
I haven't even been trying long so feel like I have nothing to complain about, but I have /wanted/ a baby for so long it feels like I've been waiting for ever.
And I know this sounds really mean but other people on the forum getting pregnant, whilst I am *so* happy for them because everyone has had their own struggles etc... I just feel so jealous! I'm such a horrible person! Argh!

Hi ft108...I can sympathize with you on this one. I feel like so many of my facebook friends are either pregnant or already have kids. it's hard to handle sometimes. one of my very best friends just had a baby last week, and while I am over the moon with excitement for her (her & her husband were TTC for almost a year), it was still a little hard. I just want a baby so bad!! my husband and I are only on month 6 now, but I feel like we've been waiting forever!!! You're not a horrible person...or if you are, you're not alone, because I am too!!