TTC #1 at 35+

[Tigger_lass]

Oh Maria I'm sorry you feel so down. I remember thinking it would happen the first month of TTC and when it didn't I couldn't work out what we'd done wrong. Then I went overboard on BBT, Fertility monitor and Ovpks etc and still nothing happened. It does take over and can get you really fed up especially when everyone around you seems to get pregnant easily.

This was our 7th cycle and neither of us imagined it would happen this month of all times as we'd only bd 3 times and only twice did I raise my hips. I have no idea when I ov'd as we were on holiday and I didn't take my thermometer or ovpks. I'd been really poorly too so we pretty much gave up on this month.

I wouldn't have got through to where I am now without these lovely ladies and I hope we can offer you the same support.

Sam, i'm so happy for you and your DH. FX'd for a H&H sticky wee bean.

I think i'm out this month. I've not done any OPK, just been temping and managed to miss 1 or 2 days . Temp has been up and down but no pattern. Also, due to illness we've not been bd'ing very much. The medication i'm on is also a worry - not sure if dangerous when TTC (still had a supply from my last bout of labyrinthitis). I'm a lot better today so hope to be back at work tomorrow.

I'm on CD18 but don't know how long my cycle will be this month. Normally i'm 30-32 days but last month was 37 days. So i will just need to see what happens....

Welcome also to the new ladies who've joined

Txxx

 

[barbarap]

Sam,
When are you going to book your first doctor's appointment?
B.

 

[Beanhopes]

Oh Maria I'm sorry you feel so down. I remember thinking it would happen the first month of TTC and when it didn't I couldn't work out what we'd done wrong. Then I went overboard on BBT, Fertility monitor and Ovpks etc and still nothing happened. It does take over and can get you really fed up especially when everyone around you seems to get pregnant easily.

This was our 7th cycle and neither of us imagined it would happen this month of all times as we'd only bd 3 times and only twice did I raise my hips. I have no idea when I ov'd as we were on holiday and I didn't take my thermometer or ovpks. I'd been really poorly too so we pretty much gave up on this month.

I wouldn't have got through to where I am now without these lovely ladies and I hope we can offer you the same support.

Sam, i'm so happy for you and your DH. FX'd for a H&H sticky wee bean.

I think i'm out this month. I've not done any OPK, just been temping and managed to miss 1 or 2 days . Temp has been up and down but no pattern. Also, due to illness we've not been bd'ing very much. The medication i'm on is also a worry - not sure if dangerous when TTC (still had a supply from my last bout of labyrinthitis). I'm a lot better today so hope to be back at work tomorrow.

I'm on CD18 but don't know how long my cycle will be this month. Normally i'm 30-32 days but last month was 37 days. So i will just need to see what happens....

Welcome also to the new ladies who've joined

Txxx

Thank you so much T.
I hope you get well soon and that your medication isn't bad for ttc. I was poorly and and ttc was the last thing on my mind and then look what happened.
I have everything cross for you (including my legs )!!
Big hugs xx

 

[Beanhopes]

Sam,
When are you going to book your first doctor's appointment?
B.

Hi Barbara
I called the docs this morning to see what I should do. They said just drop in a urine sample and that they will arrange for me to have a mid-wife appointment at 8weeks.
I felt a little disappointed that they didn't want me in to make a fuss of me. I think I'm 4wks, 2 days so it's very early days still.
I'll drop off a sample in the morning and see what happens. My DH goes away next week for 2 weeks and when he gets home we'll be able to see the midwife and I'm booking in for a private scan.
So tired
Sam
xx

 

[barbarap]

it must be strange to be pregnant and have to sit and wait for a few weeks for the doctor's/midwife appointments to start.
i wonder how long it'll take you to stop thinking of ovulation and ttc. after all these months it must be weird to be able to relax and actually start thinking about the little baby inside of you.

 

[EllaMom2B]

It is weird! Plus my strange experience and continued spotting make this all very nerve-wracking. Whilst ttc all I worried about was getting pregnant... now I worry about STAYING pregnant.

If there's anything to take away from Sam's and my experiences, I guess it's that (for us at least) less was more (we only bd'ed 3x around ov), no symptoms can be a good thing, and it is ABSO-FLIPPIN-LUTELY possible to conceive #1 well after 35! I'll be 38 in May.

 

[zero7]

Hi girlies. Got my results for my day 21 test (from the dr this time and not the receptionist!!) It was 46 so I am very happy with that.

So my FSH was 5 or 6 (can't remember now -senior moment!!) and progesterone result of 46 - not bad for an old duffer!!!

Just thought I would share as no-one else would really understand!

xxxx

 

[Deb111]

Hi girlies. Got my results for my day 21 test (from the dr this time and not the receptionist!!) It was 46 so I am very happy with that.

So my FSH was 5 or 6 (can't remember now -senior moment!!) and progesterone result of 46 - not bad for an old duffer!!!

Just thought I would share as no-one else would really understand!

xxxx

That's a great result - mine was 30.7 and I was pleased with that

 

[EllaMom2B]

Hi girlies. Got my results for my day 21 test (from the dr this time and not the receptionist!!) It was 46 so I am very happy with that.

So my FSH was 5 or 6 (can't remember now -senior moment!!) and progesterone result of 46 - not bad for an old duffer!!!

Just thought I would share as no-one else would really understand!

xxxx

You go girl!!! You have the ovaries of a 20-year old! Great news! And you too Deb! No need to worry if it can happen, it will!

- Ella

 

[Lisa1]

Hi girlies. Got my results for my day 21 test (from the dr this time and not the receptionist!!) It was 46 so I am very happy with that.

So my FSH was 5 or 6 (can't remember now -senior moment!!) and progesterone result of 46 - not bad for an old duffer!!!

Just thought I would share as no-one else would really understand!

xxxx

Aww huni thats great news and now hopefully you can relax a little and enjoy ttc

 

[marie73]

Hi all! Hope everyone's happy this evening! Been to see the GP this evening - you're right Sam about no fuss. They didn't do another pregnancy test - I got some printed information and a specimen pot! And a midwife appointment for next Friday - think it's because of my hypothyroidism. Will have consultant shared care. Sending lots of love to all!

 

[Lisa1]

aww I want scan pictures off my bean nieces and newphews!! glad you are all well, you better all be looking after yourselves

I am 7/8dpo and having cramps near my left ovary feels like O time but I am way past that it has been taking my breathe away all day on and off. Hoping it's my little bean getting stuck in lol

i am wrecked think the travelling might have took more outta me than I thought so it's curl up on the seatee and chill this evening! OMG while I am writing this I just got a wierd shock like sensation across my tummy.

Aww well like the rest of you very little bd this month but good quality bd if you know what I mean(tmi)

AF 1 week away so fx girls

 

[Lisa1]

ok Marie Ella and Sam give us lot the low down! when you O and when you bd etc what you had vits you had been taking etc pleas please xx

 

[marie73]

Hi Lisa well I ovulated around day 14 - obvious with lots of ewcm. And in terms of bd - well not loads so around 3 times alternate days around ovulation. I'm taking Pregnacare Conception and was using Pre-seed. Keep up that positive mental attitude - I was relaxed about the whole situation this month. Convinced that it was not my month but there you go! Lots and lots of luck for that bfp!

 

[Lisa1]

yeah you no me always positive Ella nad Sam must have thier feet up or prob zzzZZZZ lol

Take care girlies seak to you tomorrow xx

 

[EllaMom2B]

Good morning!

How's everyone? Lisa, that little bean is snuggling in deep and poking you on your left side! Quality over quantity sounds good to me!

Nothing new from me. I'm back to the dr. a week from today for my first proper OB appointment, but won't have another scan until 12 weeks. Nerve wracking! I still don't have any symptoms at all -- none. (I'm always tired so can't count that.) I know it's crazy, but I wish I had morning sickness!

Even having seen the bean and the heartbeat, I can't help but feel really nervous, especially since my hcg levels weren't doubling at the right rate. I just hope my body and bean have their own schedules, and that everything is going to be okay. Still, it's a really scary time.

to all -- Ella

 

[Beanhopes]

Hi Everyone

I'm sorry our internet connection has been on and off a bit in the last few days. I'm grabbing an on-bit of time to say hi.

This afternoon is the first time I'm feeling a bit sicky. I've made sure I'm eating little and often to keep any potential sickness at bay. I've also had a bit of an upset tummy for the past two days which I guess is down to hormone levels. I had one tiny amount of spotting on Sunday but that soon disappeared - phewy.

I dropped my sample off at the docs this am, not before I dipped another 2 tests into it !! I can call back this afternoon to get confirmation. It is really annoying though because every website you look at they say visit your doctors immediately as it is important to get checked over and start your pregnancy care.

I managed to stay up until 10.30pm last night!

It is so hard as we aren't telling anyone until at least 12 weeks. I think I am 4wks 3days today and I'm already wondering how I'm going to hide docs appointments, scans, frequent trips to the loo and general excitement. It's a nice problem to have though.

Lisa
I took EVPO and Vitamin B-Complex up until cd12. I ov'd on approx 13/14th day and we'd only bd on 11th, 14th & 16th. I did have a lot of ewcm with blood streaks (if you remember I was concerned about it!).
Absolute miracle but I still remember Ella saying to me it only takes the once.


Sending you all xx

 

[Beanhopes]

Frustrated!! I phoned the doctors where I was told they send the samples away and I won't get a result until Friday. I said look everyone says the minute you find out you are pregnant go to your doctors. She said I'm sorry you were misinformed and you could have come in to see someone. She then offered me an appointment for 10mins later. I work 30mins away from the docs!

She said have you tested yourself and I said yes 6 times and she said ok then ring us back on Friday and we can arrange an appointment for you.

I'm just getting a little anxious because my DH goes away on Tuesday for 2weeks and I am in charge of the office etc so going out for an appointment will be virtually impossible. Oh well I need to keep calm and relax.

Hope you are all ok and sorry I had to let of some steam.
xx

 

[Lisa1]

Frustrated!! I phoned the doctors where I was told they send the samples away and I won't get a result until Friday. I said look everyone says the minute you find out you are pregnant go to your doctors. She said I'm sorry you were misinformed and you could have come in to see someone. She then offered me an appointment for 10mins later. I work 30mins away from the docs!

She said have you tested yourself and I said yes 6 times and she said ok then ring us back on Friday and we can arrange an appointment for you.

I'm just getting a little anxious because my DH goes away on Tuesday for 2weeks and I am in charge of the office etc so going out for an appointment will be virtually impossible. Oh well I need to keep calm and relax.

Hope you are all ok and sorry I had to let of some steam.
xx

aww huni please try and keep calm I know it must be hard for you especially with DH going away could they not even try and get you a cancellation?

 

[EllaMom2B]

Frustrated!! I phoned the doctors where I was told they send the samples away and I won't get a result until Friday. I said look everyone says the minute you find out you are pregnant go to your doctors. She said I'm sorry you were misinformed and you could have come in to see someone. She then offered me an appointment for 10mins later. I work 30mins away from the docs!

She said have you tested yourself and I said yes 6 times and she said ok then ring us back on Friday and we can arrange an appointment for you.

I'm just getting a little anxious because my DH goes away on Tuesday for 2weeks and I am in charge of the office etc so going out for an appointment will be virtually impossible. Oh well I need to keep calm and relax.

Hope you are all ok and sorry I had to let of some steam.
xx

Deep breaths, Sam.

If you're anything like me, this early stage is very hard and very strange. I thought the instant I got pregnant that all this stuff would start happening... doctors appointments, tests, scans, etc. But in fact, there's very little to do. I had an appointment a week after a positive test, and basically all they did was confirm the pregnancy. Things went off the rails then, as you know, but even now, having had a scan that confirmed a heartbeat at 6+2, there's nothing to do but wait.

A scan won't show much more than a gestational sac until after 6 weeks, and my doctor didn't even do beta HCG testing until she suspected there was a problem (because of the bleeding and the empty sac at 5+3). I guess the levels can vary so much even in a normal pregnancy. Anyway, it is really unexpected that there's so little doctors do at this early point. Even in the 2nd trimester, I gather appointments are only once a month, and after a scan at 12 weeks there's only one more at 20 weeks.

I find it all unnerving, especially given the problems I've been having (including ZERO symptoms). But we can go through it together, and when Lisa and Deb and Tracey and Zero and Mazcal and Barbara everyone else get their s we'll counsel them all through the rough spots and all support each other!

Hugs,
Ella