TTC #1 Hopeful and Obsessed! lol

[BelleNuit]

Green I wonder why she said no EPO? I didn't end up taking it this cycle because my stomach was all out of wack for a couple weeks.

I'm also glad to hear she said not to worry about the light AF. It's probably just a matter of time for you!

Puma it sounds like you have a good job, but lots of stress!

Just got back from our camping trip, it was wonderful! Went to a quiet mountain campground near a river and waterfall. Didn't have my phone turned on once and didn't worry about temping either! Didn't ever know the time!

 

[puma1986]

Belle, sounds like an amazing time!!! I love camping, too! I've become so detached from my phone over the last several years and have learned to rejoice in the lack of input.

My coworkers, friends, and family may not agree though! LOL

Green: I'm really happy to hear that your doctor isn't worried about the light AF

 

[BelleNuit]

Puma it was just what I needed! This is the most relaxed I've ever felt in the TWW.

I'm seriously considering not temping the remainder of my LP. My moods are so connected to my temp being up or down that it's just not healthy. I think I'll still temp after AF ends, but then quit after ovulation is confirmed. There's no real benefit otherwise. I've had loads of promising LP temps, that ultimately meant nothing in the end.

Otherwise this TWW is going by quick. Already 6 dpo, have my CD 21 blood draw on Wednesday and next Wednesday is our appointment at the fertility clinic (hoping we'll be pregnant though!)

 

[puma1986]

Wooohooooo!!! I'm hoping you will too! I've got my fingers crossed so tightly for you!

Today is CD 8 and I was having some really sharp but brief cramps! It felt like ovulation cramps but I haven't been using OPKS because I'm still 5 days out from my earliest O date! Weird. I think I'm going to grab some OPKs in a bit just in case.

 

[BelleNuit]

So we've been invited to dinner by friends of ours for next Friday. We used to be pretty close friends and have been trying to reconnect, but I am finding it very hard. She is very pregnant (due in September but HUGE already). She got pregnant the first month trying, and we started trying a few months before them. There is no way we can decline the invitation to dinner, but I already know the entire evening is going to focus on her pregnancy and the coming baby. She very much has a one track mind.

I am usually okay to deal with these sorts of things with pretty limited heart ache. The exception being at the very end of the cycle or at the beginning of a new cycle. Next week will be a big week for us, either we'll be pregnant or we will be going for our first appointment at a fertility clinic. It is going to hurt a lot to see her on Friday if it is bad news for us, but there isn't any way that I can decline

I'm so jealous I actually hate her a little bit right now. Which I feel pretty ashamed of myself to admit She was the one who advised me to use OPKs because they helped her get pregnant the first month trying. UGH

I'm glad you have you ladies to vent to.

 

[BelleNuit]

puma it feels like this cycle is flying by for you! CD 8 already!!! Almost time to get busy

 

[puma1986]

So we've been invited to dinner by friends of ours for next Friday. We used to be pretty close friends and have been trying to reconnect, but I am finding it very hard. She is very pregnant (due in September but HUGE already). She got pregnant the first month trying, and we started trying a few months before them. There is no way we can decline the invitation to dinner, but I already know the entire evening is going to focus on her pregnancy and the coming baby. She very much has a one track mind.

I am usually okay to deal with these sorts of things with pretty limited heart ache. The exception being at the very end of the cycle or at the beginning of a new cycle. Next week will be a big week for us, either we'll be pregnant or we will be going for our first appointment at a fertility clinic. It is going to hurt a lot to see her on Friday if it is bad news for us, but there isn't any way that I can decline

I'm so jealous I actually hate her a little bit right now. Which I feel pretty ashamed of myself to admit She was the one who advised me to use OPKs because they helped her get pregnant the first month trying. UGH

I'm glad you have you ladies to vent to.

Honestly, I totally get it. I have a hard time connecting with people in the first place, so imagining the thought of reconnecting is anxiety provoking for me lol (Thanks social anxiety!)

Is it possible to postpone the dinner date? Perhaps until a time that won't be as emotionally challenging for you? On the other hand, if you are pregnant this cycle, then it could prove to be a really exciting and fun dinner date! I'm sorry love. I hope she isn't so dense to not even consider how all the baby talk will adversely effect you and DH.

 

[BelleNuit]

Thanks puma, you've made me feel a little less crazy lol. Unfortunately we can't postpone because she wants to meet up before she has the baby because after they are planning to go into hibernation mode or something. Last baby she had we didn't see her again for almost a year.

 

[BelleNuit]

1 week till AF shows. Can't believe I am almost through yet another cycle. Does anyone else feel like TTC makes time go by faster?

 

[puma1986]

It totally does!!! My entire perspective of "time" has become increments of waiting periods. LOL No pun intended!

 

[greenarcher]

I can't imagine how dinner is going to go. I hope you can at least discuss other things than her pregnancy. I hope MORE that you'll be pregnant.

I disagree with both of you, it makes time drag for me! Puma did you end up going to get opks?

EPO is working, somewhat. Although I can't be for sure since half the time there's leftover baby juice! I've decided not to do opks, to just completely ignore my cycle. This is my fertile week, so I'll get it on as much as possible.

What do you guys know about baths affecting male fertility? My husband and I enjoy hot baths together every week or so

 

[puma1986]

If the water is too hot it can kill his sperm. Be careful! I've actually read about guys "boiling" that area as a method of pregnancy prevention

I got my OPKs and it was negative yesterday. So who knows why my uterus was cramping, prickly, and pinchy!

 

[greenarcher]

I've heard that but I have no idea what too hot is! Also, does it kill everything, or just the sperm being produced at that time? Am I going to have to wait 3 months for him to recover? I can't find answers anywhere!

Puma, I always have twinges here and there, I've just started ignoring them

 

[BelleNuit]

Green, I really hope the whole dinner doesn't focus on her pregnancy, but time will tell. Maybe I'm being overly pessimistic and it'll all be okay. Even if we are pregnant we wouldn't be telling them as it would be way too early.

As for hot baths, all I know is that I'm pretty sure we scorched DH's swimmers back in February and March. I was super stressed with work and we were talking hot baths (scorching hot baths) several nights a week. We never got a BFP, never even a chemical. He was also smoking weed, so it may have been a combination of factors affecting things. We quit the hot baths in May, and he quit weed at the end of June. This is the first full month we've had trying where we haven't had any bad habits affecting things, so I'm not sure if we'll get lucky this month, or if it'll take a full 3 months of "clean living and no hot baths" before we see results.

But, if there is anything to take away from all that it would seem that for us at least, hot baths and weed have decreased our fertility.

 

[BelleNuit]

https://articles.mercola.com/sites/...t-tubs-really-will-damage-your-fertility.aspx

According to this site it can take 3-6 months to see improvements in swimmer production after exposure to hot baths for 30 minutes once a week.

 

[puma1986]

I'm telling you ladies!!!!! It takes 3 months

 

[puma1986]

DH and I are about a month out from seeing an improvement.the quantity has definitely increased this month so I am taking that as a positive sign!

 

[BelleNuit]

Woo hoo puma!! That's definitely a good sign!!!

 

[greenarcher]

Excellent sign! Gotten a positive opk yet?

I got invited to my first baby shower today. I finally understand what other girls feel. I'm super happy for them, but the tiny bit of jealousy is there. They only just graduated school. I have no idea how long they actually tried for, but I'm still salty, which I never would have expected

 

[puma1986]

Excellent sign! Gotten a positive opk yet?

I got invited to my first baby shower today. I finally understand what other girls feel. I'm super happy for them, but the tiny bit of jealousy is there. They only just graduated school. I have no idea how long they actually tried for, but I'm still salty, which I never would have expected

LOL! Green, I actually wouldn't have expected that from you either considering how level-headed you tend to be. I don't think anyone can blame you (or anyone else for that matter!) for feeling salty. I mean, C'mon. I think we all expected to get our BFP our first month and defy the odds.

I had INSANE EWCM this morning and an almost positive OPK. If it's positive tomorrow I'll be completely dumbfounded. The absolute earliest I have ever had a positive OPK is CD13 and tomorrow will be CD11! My temps are also unusually high for this point in my cycle. We shall se what happens!