TTC #1 Hopeful and Obsessed! lol

[GoldenRatio]

Belle its possible that u ovulated earlier, but i suggest u dont chart until af ends because FF takes avg of previous temps and decides on crossline, it will be best to skip af days since u will have high temp while uterus is shedding. Definitly get back to opks, so we can see if you ovulated early or ur lp is short.

Also when i creeped on some charts on FF, i seen some that i had major dip and still got positive so there is still hope

 

[BelleNuit]

Thanks Golden I guess we will see what the next few days bring. It's possible I'll still get AF on Sunday as looking at my past charts it's not unusual for my temp to start dropping at 11-12 dpo. I don't think I have a short LP. Every cycle I have tracked so far shows a 13 day LP. If I get my AF early this month I think it's more a factor of O'ing earlier with a slow rise.

 

[GoldenRatio]

yea probably ovulated early, i had temp dip the day of af everytime too

 

[puma1986]

Maybe it's an implantation dip!

 

[BabyC4Me]

Belle. I can't wait to Sunday so we can get a update on your status !!!!

FX!

AFM----I'm on CD 16---- BD on CD 12,13,15 and 16. So that's 4out of 6 fertile days so far. Tomorrow is my last "green day" According to Ovia who I honestly don't trust at this point lol.

I'm feeling good about this cycle. If I don't conceive I will be getting OPKs , fertile tea , and more supplements to help. Still haven't thought to use soft cups or pre seed. That's my last resort.

 

[greenarcher]

I don't think soft cups are necessary, but preseed would be good if you have little EWCM

 

[BabyC4Me]

Archer. The only downside to preseed is that my Hubbie would def be opposed to us using it ...he would think it's super weird since we don't use lubes or enhancers. Ever.

And if I was running around sneaking it in before sex he would def know something was up , since we don't have a routine for after work and bed time and sex just kinda happens whenever.

So much to think about !

 

[BelleNuit]

Maybe it's an implantation dip!

You're ever so hopeful Puma I have two pretty big dips on my chart this LP which is definitely not my normal. Will have to wait and see!

 

[puma1986]

Get the preseed and premeditate YOU initiating it.

Go to the bathroom and put it in, then jump his bones.

 

[BelleNuit]

Archer. The only downside to preseed is that my Hubbie would def be opposed to us using it ...he would think it's super weird since we don't use lubes or enhancers. Ever.

And if I was running around sneaking it in before sex he would def know something was up , since we don't have a routine for after work and bed time and sex just kinda happens whenever.

So much to think about !

He doesn't even have to know you're using it! I use the applicators to apply it internally and DH is non the wiser, he just thinks I'm extra excited haha

 

[BabyC4Me]

Get the preseed and premeditate YOU initiating it.

Go to the bathroom and put it in, then jump his bones.

80% of the time i DO initiate and DH plays hard to get and his body gives in lol

IDK gals...its something about the lying and the sneaking around that rubs me the wrong way....even when i was testing behind his back i felt guilt!!!

but i know ALOT of women use preseed without their partners knowing and it works out fantastically....im just not a secrets kinda gal...I get on my hubbie all the time about secrets so I would feel foolish doing the same thing lol


BUT if we get to a year without a baby....im going to talk to a doctor...because it seems like clomid is the way to go!

QUESTION----- how do you know that you are ovulating at all?? like just having a period doesnt mean you ovulated....right?

For some reason...i dont think i ovulate ..but my period comes like clockwork for 28-29 day cycles.

HELP!

 

[BelleNuit]

Only way to know is to temp! If you see a temp shift you can be pretty sure you ovulated.

 

[BelleNuit]

Also anovulatory cycles tend to be in extremes, either extremely long or short. The anov I had was only 17 days long and I had crazy high temps and spotting throughout. For other ladies their anov cycles seem to go on for months at a time

 

[BabyC4Me]

Also anovulatory cycles tend to be in extremes, either extremely long or short. The anov I had was only 17 days long and I had crazy high temps and spotting throughout. For other ladies their anov cycles seem to go on for months at a time

Maybe I am ovulating then.

My cycles since going off BC have been 28-29 days since Dec.

Which is a good sign I guess. :-/

 

[BelleNuit]

Being regular is definitely a good sign!

 

[OhHappyZ]

Get the preseed and premeditate YOU initiating it.

Go to the bathroom and put it in, then jump his bones.

80% of the time i DO initiate and DH plays hard to get and his body gives in lol

IDK gals...its something about the lying and the sneaking around that rubs me the wrong way....even when i was testing behind his back i felt guilt!!!

but i know ALOT of women use preseed without their partners knowing and it works out fantastically....im just not a secrets kinda gal...I get on my hubbie all the time about secrets so I would feel foolish doing the same thing lol


BUT if we get to a year without a baby....im going to talk to a doctor...because it seems like clomid is the way to go!

QUESTION----- how do you know that you are ovulating at all?? like just having a period doesnt mean you ovulated....right?

For some reason...i dont think i ovulate ..but my period comes like clockwork for 28-29 day cycles.

HELP!

If he is against you using it before, then use it after. I've heard of girls doing that too. Where after bd they will insert it and lay down hips up. That way he doesn't ever have to come in contact with it.

 

[BabyC4Me]

That might be a better more emotionally effective option Z, ...i want to avoid all tension and unnecessary arguements , especially during the TTC adventureeeeee! :-D

 

[GoldenRatio]

BabyC u can never know that u are ovulating unless they monitor ur eggs. I have reg cycles and temp shift ever cycle with positive opk right on time but i couldnt conceive until i used clomid which means i wasnt ovulating properly.

After a year of trying they will run tests, they will check ur hormones, uterus, tubes and DH's sperms before giving clomid. I donno why some doctors dont wanna give clomid but hopefully you get a good and kind doctor!

Please start opks and temping, maybe u are missing ur ovulation day.

My DH also hated preseed, doesnt matter how little i used he always noticed it and he got turned off so many times because of it. I used zestica fertility lubricant and its not as slippery, DH doesnt mind it. Also softcups i used for months without result and last cycle i didnt use them so i dont think they are necessary.

 

[BabyC4Me]

Golden I honestly think I need to tempt...it might be the missing key to this puzzle i think.
and OPKs i used once but then i felt like it was too scientific and taking the fun outta sex becuz i was pressed about "catching the egg". But even without the OPKs im still obsessed

HENCE THE TITLE OF THIS THREAD!!!!!

boy oh boy....if men ONLY KNEW what we go thru !!!!!

Golden and Belle!!!! We are so happy for you both to leadddddd this thread in BFPS!!!!!

 

[GoldenRatio]

Thanks hun I would just temp and use opks to watch my cycles closely. Im sure you are just missing the O day by a day or two. Also dont worry until you try for at least 6 months with properly tracking ur cycles.

Still too early to be worrying and thinking about fertility drugs.